Laura - posted on 04/13/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )
My daughter will be 4 in September and has never known a dad other than my boyfriend who I started dating when she was 12 months old. She actually started calling him daddy on her own. My boyfriend and I are still together, he has loved my daughter like his own and now we have another daughter, who is 8 months old. I got family court papers in the mail the other day stating that her "real dad" wants to have access to her on Sundays. I am absolutely heartbroken and disgusted that after all this time, his new girlfriend or his mother has convinced him to take it to this level, after the past 3+ years of not even giving a simple phonecall to make sure she was still alive. He has been in and out of jail, with weapon offences, threats and breaching probation. He has tattoos of guns all over his arms that he recently got after one of his jail sentences (all after we broke up). My daughter has such a stable life, with 2 parents, grandparents on both sides, aunts and uncles galore and so much love its not even funny. She has no idea that there is another dad, because I have never had any reason to tell her at this age. This is going to court next month, but I was wondering if anyone has had a situation like this? If he gets visitation I am scared to death to get her comfortable, and then him disappear off to jail again. Or for her to see his tattoos and be scared, because she is aware of "bad guys" from movies, etc and I think to see one in real life would be very scary for her. We have a perfect family right now and do not want this lunatic coming and messing it up. PLEASE HELP I AM SO WORRIED!!!