Rose - posted on 03/19/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )
I have come across this website several times now using google to search different topics, so I finally decided to join. My husband really irritated me today. I have read posts on here where the husband comes home from work and does nothing, but my situation is different. We both work, I also go to college as well. My husband still does absolutely nothing around the house, yet still wanted me to pursue my Bachelor's degree. All I could think was, "and who is going to take care of the kids and the house while I do that?" When I have to work on weekends and the kids are home and he is off, it's almost like he "forgets" to feed them. I will take a fifteen minute work break and end up fixing all the kids something to eat while he has been busy doing his own thing. We got married two years ago, but have known each other longer. The youngest is my stepson, right now we are trying to get custody of him.
Is it normal to feel like your husband treats your children differently from his own? Is it odd to think that your husband can't handle being around your children? Often times, my husband will stay away from home even when he isn't working because he doesn't want to have to come home and "deal with the kids". Asking him to do anything at all is like trying to move a mountain. He gets irritated when you asks him to do something and will tell you to do it yourself. He flat out told me that he was not going to help me paint the house and that I could do it myself.
Today, I decided to meet him for lunch at a Chinese place we both like. I was in a great mood, went up there to talk to him and have lunch. I told him Zoey had an appointment with a specialist ENT doctor at 8:45 Friday and that I wanted him to go with me. I've never been to the place we are going, but he used to drive everywhere so he knows where to go. I am afraid I will get lost in morning traffic and have to reschedule. Of course, he complains about it..then he tells me how I should be acting at the table when we aren't even eating, we are just talking quietly.
At this point, I'm so frustrated with him. I was so upset when I left the restaraunt with the comments he made,I didn't even finish running errands..I just came home because I was that depressed. It really brings you down when you are working, going to school and trying to keep up with the kids, the animals (including 8 puppies we currently have) and the house and your husband doesn't help you at all, but expects everything to be done. What does he do when he gets off work? He sits on his butt for the rest of the night. What do I do when I get off work? I cook dinner, do homework with the kids, wash the girls hair clean up the kitchen and all while he is either watching television, playing video games or playing with his trucks. So aggravated I just wanted to vent and get it all out. I don't expect anyones responses to this to be kind or respectful, but I do appreciate the opportunity to let off some steam.