Is anyone else awake with a screaming 1 year old?

Christina - posted on 01/06/2009 ( 28 moms have responded )

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I am at the end of my rope. I keep checking on him, laying him back down. He is so mad right now he is in his room screaming at the top of his lungs. I can't determine anything that is wrong besides wanting to be held. My husband is mostly sleeping through it all.

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Tina - posted on 01/06/2009

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my son still at almost 6 years old wakes up in the middle of the nite he crys out my husband or myself goes into his room and conforts him and he goes back to sleep.. i will tell u though it is a bad thing to have him sleep in the bed with u and ur husband cause then u ill never have ur own bed

Jennifer - posted on 01/07/2009

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I have had the same problem with my little girl who just turned 1 in December.  She will go to bed at night like normal but will wake 2-3 times in the night crying and needs to be rocked back to sleep.  I finally asked my pediatrician and he said it was just a stage and would pass and to continue laying her back down, rubbing her back and comforting her and then if need be to just let her cry but give it a time limit and then repeat as many times as you can.  I did this for about a week and truly it sucks to hear her cry but it has gotten less and less!

Kristin - posted on 01/07/2009

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I've tried sleeping with my little one which worked out good for me when I was breastfeeding.  Then I tried sleeping in the double bed that we left in her room, that didn't work, I think I might have been waking her up.  Now she sleeps alone in her room, in her crib and she sleeps the best there, but she still screams at least once a night!!!!

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Karen - posted on 04/09/2013

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Hi I have a 9 year old son. And ever since I remember. . He wakes up to scream every single time of his young Life. .and doctors always told me when I would ask why. . Is because he has nightmare. But not one time would they care to further study. .till I been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and im 26 year old..my son now 9 ...I bearly found out he got bipolar ftom me..I jope this helps oh sorry I left out that he is also adhd

Jackie - posted on 01/07/2009

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If sleeping with your baby works for you then do it. We are all free to take the advice we need and leave out what we are not comfortable with but going as far as judging others telling them you make bad moms cause you dont share the bed with your child thats not necessary. Lets respect how each person raises their child/children after all no one is forcing anyone to take the advice but to share their experiences and maybe Christina will find what works for her. My son gets his hugs, kisses and cuddles and knows mum and dad love him. He does not doubt that and I encourage people to give their children reassurances in the way they see fit.



Christina you know your lifestyle and what you ultimately want for your baba and what works for the family. You can filter this infor and take what you think you need.



Now where were we?

Tina - posted on 01/07/2009

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This is normal. Do you hold him often throughout the day? He may be used to this feeling of closeness, and misses it when you put him down by himself. Sometimes as hard as it is, you have to let him cry it out. As far as your husband is concerned, aren't they all alike? Leave your bedroom door open so he can hear the crying too. Try not to get in that habit of bringing him to bed with you. You will regret it. That will bother your husband too. They tend to get jealous of the babies at this age. You do not want your son to still be in the bed with you at the age of 6!! Hang in there.

Tina - posted on 01/07/2009

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oh and sorry it is not abandoning a child when u give them their space everyone child or adult needs space too much of 1 or 2 people is too much for anyone i never said anyone would be a bad parent if they did choise to have their child with them at bed ask any person that has children that have slept with them then they have another one and they deside not to do it after 1 years old and see what they say about itcause i have had 5 kids and i am prego now not saying i am an expert with a deploma but i do have alot of experience so i was just giving my opion on it

Tina - posted on 01/07/2009

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ok well this is the last thing i will say to it i had my son in my bed until he was 3 years old and now he will not leave my side he wakes up every nite at least 3 times crying and he wants attention and confort he is almost 6 years old so if someone wants to have the same issues feel free and have ur child sleep in bed with u just thought i would warn parents ( mothers) on my experience and i never said dont sleep in the same bed with ur smaller child even though u could smother the kid by rolling on them in ur sleep i said once the child hit 1 years old

Sandra - posted on 01/07/2009

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I think I really need to leave the Circle of Moms. I can't believe no one realizes how healthy and nurturing and normal co-sleeping is, that to say they will "never" leave is the most ridiculous statement ever. The Western Culture has lost so much of their natural parenting skills based on stupid expert books and parenting boards like this one, where everyone perpetuates the myths about family beds and actually parenting 24 hours a day.



The family bed is the BEST THING you can do for your baby at night. There is ZERO wrong with it. I can assure you that you will not be sleeping with your high schooler.



Ya'll continue on spreading incorrect information and deterring good moms from doing what comes natural, what comes right, what's loving and good for their babies. You continue to tell moms to abandon their babies in their rooms crying and giving up on anyone loving them. You continue to tell moms that it's spoiling to pick up a crying baby. You continue to tell moms the family bed is horrible and dangerous and absurd.



For moms that want to know how to lovingly nurture your babies, for moms that realize having a baby isn't an inconvienience but a lifestyle change that you may have to sacrifice for, for moms that want to know how to raise secure, independent, healthy happy babies, I invite you to check out mothering.com. I'm gettingout of the Circle of Moms, there's simply no place here for me and mothers that parent like me.



Have a great time spreading your "good" advice people.

Tina - posted on 01/07/2009

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i will say it again when a child hit 1 year old u need to break them from sleeping with u trust me it will get worst before it gets better but u dont need to have ur child in bed cause when he or she is 5 or 6 or older they will not go to bed unless ur there too.. its not that u dont love ur child u need to teach independance

Claire - posted on 01/07/2009

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Hi Christina,



He just wants you.  My baby is now 7 months old and sleeps with myself and my partner.  I am trying to get her into her own bed and have been since she was born.  I gave up and had her in bed as otherwise she would have been up all night every night.  Basically, some babies just want to feel close to their mum.  My little girl can be fast asleep and as soon as I put her in the cot she wakes and gets really upset so I give in, get her out and she goes straight back to sleep.  Some people may call me silly but I'm the one who is getting uninterupted sleep from 11pm to 8am.  I know I'm going to have a battle getting her into her own bed but right now I'm more concerned that she is happy and settled. 



I'm not saying you must have him in bed with you but I am just trying to reassure you that it probably isn't anything serious, he just wants the closeness of his mummy.



Good luck Christina.



Claire x

Claire - posted on 01/07/2009

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Hi Christina,



He just wants you.  My baby is now 7 months old and sleeps with myself and my partner.  I am trying to get her into her own bed and have been since she was born.  I gave up and had her in bed as otherwise she would have been up all night every night.  Basically, some babies just want to feel close to their mum.  My little girl can be fast asleep and as soon as I put her in the cot she wakes and gets really upset so I give in, get her out and she goes straight back to sleep.  Some people may call me silly but I'm the one who is getting uninterupted sleep from 11pm to 8am.  I know I'm going to have a battle getting her into her own bed but right now I'm more concerned that she is happy and settled. 



I'm not saying you must have him in bed with you but I am just trying to reassure you that it probably isn't anything serious, he just wants the closeness of his mummy.



Good luck Christina.



Claire x

Jackie - posted on 01/06/2009

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If his temperature is fine and does not look sick put him back to bed. My 2 year old will ask to use his potty, ask to take a bath or even ask for water non stop just to avoid sleeping in his own bed. We sat in the loo for 10 minutes at 3am this morning only to realise he did not need to use his potty but he hoped some sort of miracle would work out and I would give in and put him in our bed. His dad helps now he always use to think it was harsh but after a while 3 people in one bed. Not so romantic. Our son has since discovered that the solution to his problems is to sleep in his bed for a while and then wake up later when we are fast a sleep and then sneak into our bed at some odd hour. He is slowly giving up. Stick to your routine and commit it will pay off. Today putting him to bed took 15 mins yesterday an hour 15 and a 3 am session. I am praying that that was the last morning session. Hang in there!

Kristin - posted on 01/06/2009

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I don't know what's wrong, but I have a little girl that does the same thing.  Don't feel like you're alone.  I don't know what to do either.  My husband ALSO sleeps right through it!!!

Kristin - posted on 01/06/2009

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I don't know what's wrong, but I have a little girl that does the same thing.  Don't feel like you're alone.  I don't know what to do either.  My husband ALSO sleeps right through it!!!

Sara - posted on 01/06/2009

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My daughter is almost ten months and still doesnt sleep throught he night. i apparently didnt sleep through the night until i was over 2. So I just grin and bare it, some babies just dont grow out of a night time clingy faze until much later. Just remember that the baby isnt trying to be an inconvenience, they just want their mommy.

Christina - posted on 01/06/2009

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Going through the bedtime routine again is something I haven't tried before. Probably a last resort for nights like last night since I don't want him getting the idea that it's ok to get up and have a bath in the middle of the night! Sometimes a little ora-jel will take teething pain away for long enough for him to calm down and go back to sleep, but I don't think it was teething keeping him up this time. (although I did still give the ora-jel a try) I wound up putting him between my husband and I in bed and he layed there and petted my hair for a long time and eventually went to sleep.

User - posted on 01/06/2009

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he might have an ear infection. i would bring him to the doc. also give him a nuk/binkie and hold him....if he has no other symptom,s he may have to cry it out. we did this at 6months old to get him to sleep through the night.

Joy - posted on 01/06/2009

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My 11 months girl also cried in the mid night sometimes. Actually her dreams might scare her or she was too active in the day, all these could make her awake or cry in mid-night. So don't worry. If you could not get enough sleep at night, you might have to make up some sleep in the day. Babies will sleep better & better with time going on.

Heather - posted on 01/06/2009

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I remember when my oldest was a baby, his dad was able to sleep through the night too, lol. I found that after three nights of ignoring him (like you, I knew that there was nothing wrong with him, he just wanted to be picked up) he started sleeping through the night. I know from experience that this can be hard to do, but it might work for you too. Good luck hun x

Tracy - posted on 01/06/2009

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teething ? have you tried some calpol. if it isnt that try holding him and but put a blanket on your chest then went he calms down swaddle him in the blanket and lay him down then the warmth and smell may settle him, good luck x

Jess - posted on 01/06/2009

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bloody husband!! Ru sure he aint pretending to sleep??! jokes...maybe... good luck. we are sometimes awake with a screaming 3 month old. Have you asked him whats wrong straight up?? x

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