Carmen - posted on 07/07/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )
I' am a 47 year old mother of 3 kids ages 25, 24, 22. I also have 2 grand kids ages 5 yrs old and 6 months. I married a man recently that has 2 toddler boys, at the time we met they were 3 and 2 years old. We have been married for 2 years now and I am having the hardest time getting the boys to listen to me when Daddy is around. They do listen to me when Daddy is not around but, as soon as Daddy walks in the door they start to do things they know they are not allowed to do. The oldest will say; "Look at what I am doing". Then Daddy will make excuses for what it is they are doing. So, they continue to do them knowing Daddy will stick up for them. My husband does not encourage them to rely on me when he is home. They will not ask for me to do or even to get them anything when Daddy is around. I tell my husband that he needs to encourage them more but, I believe he has "Separation Anxiety". He works and I don't. Has anyone gone through or going through this as well? I should have mentioned that their Biological mother has not been in their lives for 4 yrs. Since the youngest was born.