River - posted on 03/24/2015 ( 19 moms have responded )
I have a stepson and from what I've seen, child support doesn't seem like a great idea. I understand that both parents should financially take care of their kids. Child support is supposed to be just half of the child's expenses. It's supposed to be the non custodial parents half of the child's expenses. If that's the case then shouldn't the non custodial parent have a say in how it is spent? Or do they legally have a say? I think that the parents should have to discuss what the child needs and what the support money should be spent on. My fiance pays his support And is not behind. But he can't afford to pay support Then buy extra stuff that his son needs that mom won't get. Wouldn't it work better if they put the money on a card then moniter what it's used for? Like if it's obvious that the parents keeps using it for themselves then they should be held in contempt since its money to go for the child. And to me, it does seem like what they are saying is you have to be able to spend, let's say 100 dollars, every week on the child. But really if your child lives with you and you can't afford to spend 100 dollars each week on them, yet they do not go without, then you don't get arrested. But if it's child support and you can't afford that much every week you do risk getting arrested. I'm not trying to start any arguments. I'm honestly curious if others think the idea of having the parents sit down and write out what the child needs and all that should be a requirement for support. It just seems like both parents should have a say in how the money is spent on the child.