IS "CHUNKY BABY" AN INSULT

Jana - posted on 11/10/2008 ( 67 moms have responded )

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Everyone new that my baby and I meet always say "Wow, isn't he chunky", or they always have to say something about how BIG he is. Personally I think he's perfect (of course) but he's in normal range where a 8 month old should be. I really hate it!! Should I be taking this so personal?

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Julie - posted on 11/13/2008

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Both of my baby's were rather large for there age. When people tell me how big they are, I just thank god that they are health! When they get sick or are teething and decide not to eat for a day or two it doesn't bother me!

Brianne - posted on 11/13/2008

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I used to take it personally, now I beam with pride! My daughter will be 10 months old tomorrow, and she's 23 pounds and nearly 31 inches. She's just about the size of some of the 2 year olds she plays with (she also has a FULL head of LONG brown hair which makes her look older). I take pride in the fact that she's bigger, and HEALTHY! I have friends with smaller babies and they just look so fragile and teeny! She's completely healthy, and me and DH are both tall- I'm 5'7, and slim, he is 6'1 and about 200 pounds. We know she'll be tall. It will all even out in time. As she starts running, I know she'll slim down a little, but those enormous fat rolls she had on her legs at birth (9 pounds 5 oz) are already gone.

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My daughter is just 4 months old but she wears 6 months old clothing. Everyone who sees her will say "what a big BOY!" she doesnt have pierce (I dont want to until she's bigger, she pulls her ear at the moment). And it doesnt stop there. "Look what a big leg.." even the pediatrician sometimes make a joke "my needle might be too small for you"My girl is not that BIG FAT she just big and tall, and she's pretty.. First I feel a bit offended with how people look at her (close relative sometimes have the same comment) but later on, I just spoke to my baby (I know she doesnt understand) that she just a perfect girl. I think it was her that hurts more with all the comment rather than me. After that I feel better, I know she loves me and I love her, that's more important than thinking about those comments.

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Ashley - posted on 11/07/2011

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People always have to say something. i always got the opposite comments, he's so cute and isn't is small. etc. I always wanted to say what he has to be fat and chunky to be healthy. you can never please some people so i just let it roll off my back. unless they keep going on and on about it just say something like yep he's perfectly healthy and leave it at that.
especially since your doctor isn't worried about it, i wouldn't be either.

User - posted on 11/13/2008

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I know if one of my cousins says that a baby is "chunky" or makes a comment about how big the baby is, that, to her, is the highest complement. She LOVES big babies, she thinks that they are the most perfect babies that God ever created.

Danielle - posted on 11/13/2008

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i love chunky babies.

my daughter is a little chunker and i love it.

she's thinning out alot now.. cuz she's 17 months old. but i love her chunky little thighs and cheeks and belly :)

i'm sure your sun is healthy and thats all that matters.

as long as he's not an obese baby (and i'm sure you would be aware of the fact if he was) i wouldnt take it too personally, i think most ppl enjoy babies pudge, and dont think of it as a bad thing.

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I had that problem with my son(now 7) when he was a baby...I always said"a chubby baby is a healthy baby!" and the opposite with my daughter (now 3) she was tiny for her age...people asked me if I was feeding her enough! Now what kind of question is that??? I just told them that she is tiny...but healthy.....don't take it too personally unless they are rude about it......chubby babies are adorably and that they are well taken care of!!!

Medusapain69 - posted on 11/13/2008

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hehe, maybe im just really positive but i really don't see it as an insult! If someone said 'my but your baby is ugly' now that i would take as an insult! I have a little girl too, and people often say 'boy' (even when she is wearing pink!) but even that i don't take offence at. But those of you with lovely healthy sized babies can be proud at how well you look after your children!

Eva - posted on 11/13/2008

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People have a completely distorted view of what a healthy body looks like these days and they even project this onto babies. I would make light of it or just ignore them and smile. If you feel the need you can tell them that the Doctor is very happy with his progress.

Paula - posted on 11/13/2008

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years ago the word was bonny and it was not an insult it meant the baby was thriving.my daughter was 12lb6oz at birth compared to others she always looked huge but it all evened out in time .i would not worry.your baby is your perfect creation and other peoples ignorance should not cause you to worry.

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you know my 1 and a half year old is bigger than my 3yr old, i mean they can almost wear the same clothes. I get the same thing, i took it as an insult at first but then i thought at least I she is healthy. I look at my 3year old and i think she is soooo skinny, she can fit in 6month cloths still( too short mind you) but i feel more happier that my1 and a half year old is "chunky"

Medusapain69 - posted on 11/11/2008

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Personally i don't think you should take it as a negative thing! I said this to a lady the other day who i think got very offended, though i meant it as a compliment! My baby is very skinny and has scrawny legs, which means she is having trouble learning how to walk, so when i see a baby with good healthy muscles powering away, i mean it as a compliment when i say 'wow, isn't he a big boy!'

Becky - posted on 11/11/2008

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I have the most beautiful brown eyed 18 month old grandson and people call him fat, or make fat jokes too. He only weighs 27 pounds, and he's perfect in every way!! His dad is 6'4" and mom is 5' 6", so I want to tell these folks "HELLO, he's a boy and not supposed to be petite!!" Don't take it personal-be sure your son knows not to take it personal too-surprising what they understand, even before they are 3.

Amanda - posted on 11/11/2008

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No! I know what you mean! I've actually had someone call my perfect baby--fat!!! Another good joke that everyone seems to love is "Boy, would you quit starving that baby!" ha ha...shut up!!!

Brandyn - posted on 11/11/2008

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It's always hard to to take ANY comment about your own baby personally. The problem is.... from the moment you become obviously pregnant until your child is obviously too big to be classified as a baby, you will get scores of unwanted & unsolicited comments and advice. It's a fact that has aggrivated women for (probably THOUSANDS) of years!

Meghan - posted on 11/11/2008

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no way! I think the majority of people out there think of chubby cheeks and chunky baby legs as the joy of having a baby. It is a compliment.I work at a daycare as well as being a mom and I am always hearing comments about how people love chunky or chubby baby cheeks . Babies are meant to be a little chubby :)

Missy - posted on 11/11/2008

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I have to say that I would much rather have a 'Chunky" baby than a really skinny one. My girls were both 9lbs 3 oz at birth so I always got that about them being chunky. My son was always bigger than what his age said he should be. Unfortunately, people speak and don't think sometimes. All that matters is how you feel and I'm sure he is wonderful!!!

Myroslava - posted on 11/11/2008

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People probably mean it as a complement-it used to be that skinny meant sick, starving etc. And for a baby to be chunky means mommy takes a great care of him.

I have/used to have a different problem-when people would say how small and skinny my baby girl is.She is breastfed and at 2 weeks she didn't regain her birth weight (7lbs.6.2oz), so, i was told to supplement with formula for 5 days and she got that weight back.Now, at 12 weeks she is about 12 pounds. I don't worry anymore about my milk supply.But i used to HATE it when people would say that she is small an has skinny legs...Of course your baby is perfect! (and so is mine:)

Jessica - posted on 11/11/2008

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Definately not! My son was chunky/big/ whatever name you want to call it, it was just matter of fact and he was (is) cuter than cute. As long as they say it with a genuine smile on their face than its safe to say most people just think its adorable and are most certainly not trying to insult or offend you or your baby. There is nothing cuter than a chunky baby.

So, I say no. You should not be taking this personal.

Melanie - posted on 11/11/2008

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Definitely don't take it so hard. A chunky baby is a healthy baby! My middle son was 10 lbs 4 ozs at birth--he was born with rolls! HIs pediatritian would laugh every time she saw him saying, "Who says a breastfed baby can't be overweight??" That baby is now 11 years old and not an ounce of fat on him. Enjoy those baby rolls...they will be gone all too soon. :)

Jessi - posted on 11/11/2008

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I wouldn't take it personally. My best friend just went through that with her daughter, who grew out of it once she hit a year. I had the opposite of you. My son was very little, and people asked if I was feeding him, or if he was malnutritioned, or if he was picky. I had to finally ignore it and make a joke out of it, or I would have been crazy.

Sheila - posted on 11/11/2008

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If you take it personally you'll go crazy before he turns 2! My oldest boy is in the 70% for his height but only the 20% for his weight! I constantly get people telling me he's "so tiny" or flat out saying he's "small"! I've used to say actually he's a little taller than average just skinny, but then I decided rude people don't need our explanations! Just smile and say Well We Love Him! That usually makes them back peddle and realize how inappropriate their comment was. Aren't people wonderful sometimes??

Tania-Leigh - posted on 11/11/2008

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My baby girl is 4 months old and is 100% breast-fed. Her pediatrician is surprised at her weight considering she is not formula fed! A woman I know actually told me to my baby on a diet!!!! CRAZY! At the end of the day, it's pure genetics. I know it feels a little hurtful when people make comments like that, just push the remarks out of your mind. Your baby loves you for taking such good care of him and having a healthy happy baby is the only thing that should occupy your mind:o)

Mindy - posted on 11/11/2008

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Unless there's a rude tone (like wow your kid is fat!) I wouldn't take it personally. A lot of people love chunky babies and feel the need to comment on it when they see one. The chubby little legs and fingers, it's all so cute. My daughter was always 95% or above, at one point well over the line for 100% on her growth charts. Her body wwas skinny, but her legs and arms were chubby and she had huge cheeks, so I always got the cheek comments. Since her chubby cheeks were my favorite part I kind of took it as a compliment when people noticed.

Kimberlee - posted on 11/11/2008

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My son is has also been in the top 90-100th percentile since he was born. He was 9lbs 3 oz at birth, he is now 2yrs old and is 40 lbs. He is not fat to me, he's solid, he looks like he could be 3 or even 4 but I have also gotten a lot of comments on his size. Me personally, I like "chubby" babies...at least we know they are eating and healthy! :) When your son gets a little older, it may be a concern...which I am also wondering if I'll need to be concerned but for now, he's a happy fun loving kid and I think he's perfect! I'm sure your son is perfect too! :) Oh, and don't take it personally...people think it's okay to comment on your child since the child doesn't know what chunky means. It's not nice, in my opinion but still...they aren't trying to hurt you.

Susan - posted on 11/11/2008

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All four of my kids have been kids in the 97% for weight so I guess you would say all my kids are or have been "chunky". When ever someone would comment "oh, he's a big boy" or "what a chunky baby" I would say thank you and that I would rather have a chunky baby than a skinny baby. I would sometimes tell them too that thier dad was 10lbs 8 oz. when he was born so it's in their genes to be big babies. Take your wonderfully chunky baby and thank God that he is and not a sickly baby. :)

Christina - posted on 11/11/2008

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I don't think its an insult most people think chunky babies are cute. I could see how it could be irritating though because I get the opposite.



My baby wasn't small when she was born just average 7lbs 8oz but she has gained weight very slowly and she's long and skinny like my inlaws. People would always say and still do now that she is 8 mos old.... ooooh she's sooo tiny was she a preemie? I insist no yadi yadi ya i've had people say are you sure? lol



I think I would remember whether she was a preemie or not in fact she was a week late.



I think the chunky babies are cute and they look healthier than skinny babies. My baby looks like a miniature kid but she's still perfect to me.

Kelly Jo - posted on 11/11/2008

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Please do not take it personally! When my son was born everyone said he looked three months old. He has been in the 90th to over 100th percentile in everything. He is overweight based on the charts, but his weight matches his height- which is also in the 100th percentile. God made each of us so unique and there are no cookie cutters!! Praise the Lord for your healthy little one when someone makes a comment!

Christine - posted on 11/11/2008

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Yes, you should be proud of your chunk! I wouldn't take it personal at all. I think we all just think chunky babies are cute! I have the opposite of your problem with my youngest and have had to go the medication route to gain weight. I think chunky is healthy when they are young. good luck!

Tamara - posted on 11/11/2008

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It's hard not to, but you should feel very good about having a healthly baby. Much better than a sickly, skinny baby. My son was over 100% for height and weight for the longest time - 30lb, 33.5" at 12 months - okay...he was huge! It was not until around 3 years old that he finally started slimming down substantially. At almost 4, he's lost all of his baby fat but is still quite a beefcake - he's just going to be a big boy. My 15 month old daughter is not nearly as big as her brother, but definitely chubby. People always want to pinch her chubby thighs... When people make odd comments, I usually make light of it and say something like "I love chubby babies" or "It's the one time in your life when having chubby thighs is cute". Enjoy it, he'll burn off that baby fat in no time :-)

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My son is 7 months and over 20lbs. He's been big since birth - 10lbs. 8oz. Considering his birth weight, he's gained a lot slower than a lot of babies I know. I do always get comments from people about how big my son is, but they tend to shut up and show a little respect when I tell them how big he was at birth. :) And truthfully, most people - from the time he was born - said that he was a nice solid (not delicate) size that they felt comfortable holding. And many, many people have said that babies without rolls just aren't as cute. (I disagree, but everyone's got an opinion, eh?)

I'm not really concerned about his size right now - I'm more interested in developing healthy habits for him that will help him to be healthy in the long run.

Kippy - posted on 11/11/2008

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My son, who is now 8y.o , was 9 lbs. 2 oz when he was born and has always been 95% + in height and weight and his head percentile was above 97%. He has always been large, thick and healthy. I never took people saying that he is a "big boy" personally because, as you said, these kids are healthy. Its not like our babies are getting into the Twinkies or anything, this is just thier body's natural frames when eating normal amounts of baby food. I think we are always sensitive to what people say about our own children, and rightly so, we are here to protect and nurture them, but I think it is also OK for us as parents when someone does make a comment such as "He's a chunk or chunky" and we don't like it, restate it to them as "yes he is a big healthy boy". Maybe they will get the hint that their wording may not have been the best choice.

Diana - posted on 11/11/2008

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Hi, I am the mother of 5 children. My most recent additon to the family is our Pinto !Bean. He is 95% on height and weight. 14 months old. People always say whoa he has such fat thighs.. My response is usually yes he does!. Don't take it personal. I'm sure he is perfect in everyway! They grow into there size as time goes on. Especially when they start walking and running. my husband is a big guy. I am glad I have a BIG BOY! Enjoy your baby !

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I have had two chunky babies! I love their fat rolls and call them lil chunkers myself. I dont get insulted at all. I would rather have chunky babies than skinny ones. :-)

Whitney - posted on 11/11/2008

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That is exactly what I'm going through with my 5 month old daughter. she is in the 95% in weight and height, I'm 6' tall and my husband is 6' 5". I know that she is larger than most babies we meet but that dosen't mean that I want a stranger to tell me that, or even a friend. It is hard not to take it personal, but just be happy knowing that your baby is PERFECT! :)

Gwen - posted on 11/11/2008

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No, not at all. I had one that was huge and still was until she was about 7. She is now 12. She is long and lean.

I think it is a term of endearment. A chunky baby is a healthy.

Congratulations, enjoy you lil guy.

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I think chunky babies area cute..I just love playin with the little rolls they have. In my opinion I think they are healthy and just so loveable..

Christina - posted on 11/11/2008

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I love chunky babies, and some people are just responding in the same way. my boy was chunky. now if someone asks you aren't you worried about the babys health, I would say to grandma "well, hes healthier than you im sure". hint hint.

Amanda - posted on 11/11/2008

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i don't take it as an insult at all when someone calls my son tubby, or big guy, or chubs... i think that it is a good thing, big (as in large not FAT) means healthy, even the doctor will tell you, my son is in the 90ith percentile and they never once said to slow down on feeding or anything. i am perfectly happy with the fact that my son is bigger then most. and he likes it when i call him big man, he smiles and giggles. where i come from the bigger the better. one day your son will grow up to be a strong man... :)

Dawn - posted on 11/11/2008

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no you don't take it personal people think they know everything which is not.. i think you are right your child is perfect.. i have one of my family that was like that i though he is so biggest baby but i look at their parents bec baby was big bec one of my cousin when he was born he used to be biggest baby but he turn out so great look so handsome.. don't worry about what others say.. i am sure your baby are great and fine will growing up so great smile..

Jana - posted on 11/10/2008

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I understand how anoying comments like that can be, although my daughter is tiny for her age. I get comments like, "she looks too tiny to walk" but the best is "Do you think she's hungry, does she need something to eat?" I just have to remind myself that a lot of people don't think about what they say before they say it. I'm sure they don't mean to sound rude, but that's how we hear it. So please don't take it personal, it will only frustrate you more as time goes on. Just give them a "Really, I hadn't noticed" and move on. Oh and nice name, it's fun to see other Jana's :)

Amanda - posted on 11/10/2008

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I have been on both sides of the size coin with my children. My oldest, a girl, was always small for her age and people couldn't help but comment on how tiny she was. Then my second, a boy, was pretty big for his age, so everyone has to say oh isn't he a big boy!!! I have learned to just agree, since the people are only stating the obvious. As an extra note, my once big boy, is now not so big for his age, and my tiny girl, is actually quite tall, how things change!!!

Robin - posted on 11/10/2008

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I don't think it is an insult. My daughter eas always 90% ht and 90% weight as a baby. When people said things about her having lots of rolls....it made me smile because I knew how cute she was. She is now still quite tall but has slimmed down a lot.



I think chunky babies are so cute. Enjoy him....cuddle with him.....cause he will be long and lanky soon enough;)

Ann - posted on 11/10/2008

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I get that about mine But I think he is a cutie I love my little guy chunky and i tell ppl he normal size If they keep on the topic just point out they are being a bit rude

Tanya - posted on 11/10/2008

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My daughter was really chunky too. She is now really tall and skinny and I miss her chunky little rolls. I think chubby babies are the cutest!

Mera - posted on 11/10/2008

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Jana,

In our house chubby is a complement! My girls were chubby, and my boys were scrawny for a while, then put the chub on. My husband is one of those people that loves to feel the chubbiness on a baby's arm or leg - he loves to gently squeeze them to feel how soft they are. I'm glad he loves softness, because I am sooo not skinny! People like to strike up a conversation especially about babies. You can ask them if they had chubby babies too, you might be surprised to find out what's behind their comments! Don't take it personally, they aren't commenting on your parenting abilities or lifestyle choices. Mostly, they are exclaiming how beautiful your baby is!



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Amy - posted on 11/10/2008

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I get that all the time with my 7 m/o son. He was 22lb (95th %-ile) at his last check up and he really is just a wonderful little chubby bunny. I LOVE all his little rolls. When people say something, I take it as a compliment because he is exclusively breastfed and very healthy. I look at him and think, wow, I did that. He's getting all that nourishment from my body - what a gift, I think to myself. I think most people mean it as a compliment - who doesn't just wanna squeeze that perfect little squishy baby!?

Amanda - posted on 11/10/2008

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I happen to be one of those people who say " awe look at those chunky cheeks!" I don't mean anything offensive by it, I think it's adorable. If you know your child isn't fat, just a pudger because he IS a baby ( most babies are chunky) then don't take it the wrong way, laugh it off. Now, if your baby had a medical problem and was out of the normal range, and people said he was chunky, it would make me upset. SO... take lots of pictures and remember he's not going to be your little pudge monster for long!! :-)

Lois - posted on 11/10/2008

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All 3 of mine babies have been chunky babies. It used to bother me too when my oldest was a baby. When he was 4 months old, we were at a restaraunt, and they asked if I wanted a high chair (he wasn't in his infant seat, he was being carried), and I said, "Oh, he can't sit yet." And the lady later said she thought he was 9 months old! I was a bit embarassed. He was a very big baby. But he outgrew it, and is not a fairly skinny 3 1/2 year old. By my 3rd baby, I love when people say she's chunky. I say, "yeah, check out these cute thighs!" She's got some rolls on her little thighs. :) I have breastfed all 3 of them, and since you can't see how much they are eating, it's nice when they are chunky because then you KNOW you are doing a great job!

Debbi - posted on 11/10/2008

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I don't think people mean anything bad by saying that. I call my nephew a 'chunky monkey'. He's just as cute as can be.............:)

Jennifer - posted on 11/10/2008

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As long as he is healthy..let them talk. Some people just don't know they are being rude...Be thankful for a healthy child. Love every ounce of him. When my 15 year old was an infant he was incredibly chunky. Healthy..but chunky. Now he is 15, 5'8", weighs 165 lbs and is all muscle from sports. There are many days when I wish I could have those chunky baby rolls back!

Terra - posted on 11/10/2008

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My baby is a chunky monkey! but really I will miss his baby fat when he becomes a toddler.:-(

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