is crying normal for 8 years old boy?

Ruchi - posted on 03/04/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )

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my son is 8 years old, very sensitive and emotional. whenever something happens which is not acceptable for him, he starts crying. we have one younger girl too. how can we satisfy all his demands and needs all the time.please help me .

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Dove - posted on 03/04/2016

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Yes, it's normal. How do you satisfy their demands? You don't. You can meet reasonable requests, but he doesn't get to 'demand' anything.

If he's crying to get his own way... you ignore the demand and give him some space, but if he needs help to calm down after 10 or so minutes... you offer comfort. Acknowledge that you know he's upset, but doing... (whatever it is that he wants that is unacceptable) is not going to happen... and you can let him know what he CAN do instead. Basically a similar approach to a fit throwing toddler.

If he is crying not to get his way, but simply because he is on emotional overload... you can ask him if he wants some space or if he wants some snuggles/company... and then respect that request (but do check back in w/ him every 5-10 minutes if he is still crying to see if he is ready for comfort yet). When he is calm you can try and talk to him about why he was so upset and what else he could to do handle it.

Katherine - posted on 03/04/2016

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Hi Ruchi,
I consider sensitivity and emotional nature a strength and not a weakness. I have a very sensitive and emotional toddler. Children do not react to things as we adults do . I can understand that handling two children especially when they are crying must be taking a toll on you emotionally and physically...but you r the only person who can understand what they are going through. I agree that children do manipulate parents and know how to handle parents but i would still offer comfort to my child if he is crying. sometimes they are bullied in school or just not treated well by their fellow class mates and trust me children rarely speak up about these things . When i was 6 yrs old a boy slapped me in lunch break i cried after coming home but dont know why i never told anybody about it until today. I didn't even complain about him to teacher ...which is such a basic thing to do. I think even if whatever he is doing is for attention ...may be you could give a book or some toy to your younger daughter and then just calm him down and ask him whats wrong . And tell him that he has to stop crying for all demands also find a good time to talk to him about things at school. Or just general tips on handling bully at school. Also teach him to have some personal boundaries with others .Please be vigilant and support him when needed. Reassure him ...As parents we have to show empathy and help whenever we can. Once they are teens they are going to rely on their friends anyways . I am sure things will get better with time . I know its tough to keep your cool but we are all they have. Good luck . May almighty bless you and your loved ones . Hope this helps . Take care

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Ruchi - posted on 03/04/2016

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thank, katharine. thank you very much . you show me a right path to handle my darling and emotional kid.

Raye - posted on 03/04/2016

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He's getting a reaction from you, correct? So what incentive does he have to stop crying? He may be sensitive, and you should be kind and attentive to his needs. But if he seems to be crying just to get his way, you need to be firm in your decisions, and then either try to redirect his attention to something else, or ignore the crying. if you give in to him, then the crying works, and he'll keep manipulating you.

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