Laura - posted on 07/16/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )
I'm new here, and I have a 10-year-old boy (adopted, 15 months, Russia). Although there were rages, problems and the usual issues, he was a fairly happy kid until about three years ago when his father decided to end our marriage. Since then, more issues and a slow slide into what now looks like depression to me. He has zero affect, seldom if ever smiles, doesn't want to play with other kids, go anywhere or do anything with me, whines and sleeps excessively, barely speaks, gets angry when spoken to, throws things and bangs on walls when he doesn't get what he wants (nothing new here), makes pronouncements like "Nobody cares about me!" and sometimes sobs and tantrums, rejects touch and comfort, is moody and irritable and generally acts like he hates me. Ask him what's wrong and he protests mightily and with much exasperation: "NOTHING!"
Ask his father if there is anything wrong at his place and I get: "I never have a problem."
Ask his psychologist and she just reminds me that, psychologically, he is six.
Still, shouldn't a six-year-old be happier? He takes 2 mgs of Intuniv. I have read that FASD kids are generally warm and affectionate and, for a long time, he was like that. I have also read they are subject to apathy. Okay, fine. But this feels like depression to me. Does anyone have any thoughts? We are going to see his psychiatrist today. Should I even bring it up? I want him to be happier, but anti-depressants never did much for me. And should you really try to medicate a 10-year-old for depression? Argh.