Is forcing a 4 yr old boy to use the potty appropriate??

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Denikka - posted on 11/11/2011

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If peeing is a problem, then there are a lot of things you can do. One of my favorites is to give him *targets* to aim for. Cheerios are a good one. Get him to *sink* them :P It's worked for others and might be something for you to try.
It's not a big deal if he doesn't want to stand up though. Nothing wrong with him sitting. I wouldn't push too hard on HOW he does it, just focus on getting him to go on the potty. Make it fun :)

JuLeah - posted on 11/01/2011

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I am not sure what you mean by forcing.

But, assuming the child is healthy, typically developing, and emotionally stable .... he ought to be using the potty.

Remove diapers, and pull ups ... put him in underwear

More information on why, at age 4, he is not yet using the pot would be of help

Sherri - posted on 11/01/2011

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At 4 yes they need to be using the toilet 100% at this point. You take away all diapers and 100% stick him underwear no matter how many accidents he has.

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Karen - posted on 02/22/2014

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Have you tried letting him pee outside? I personally had a "helpful" family member try and force my son onto the potty because she was worried he wasn't progressing fast enough, and the result was we ended up throwing the potty out because he freaked at the sight of it after that. Delayed progress even further too. But once daddy peed on a tree in the back yard, he was more than happy to follow daddy's example! If we were out and he showed signs of needing to go, we got him to pee in the gutter - got looks a few times, but a simple "toilet training, isn't he clever for not wetting himself?!" tended to stop any rude comments! Unorthodox, perhaps, but it worked!

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Nothing in the world wrong w/ him sitting to pee. My 3.5 year old son has been fully trained for 10+ months and the first time he stood to pee was in July. He still sits half the time.

Kelly - posted on 11/11/2011

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He refuses to go on the potty,throws tantrums ,I've tried underwear,letting him be without underwear,I don't know what else to do.

Kelly - posted on 11/11/2011

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My son has 3 older sisters,they were easy to train,their father has not really helped in "showing him" how to use the potty.My son will sit on the potty but will not stand up and use the potty,he is nervous about it getting into the toilet.I've tried reading books with him while he is on the potty,giving him the toilet paper to use by himself,and trying to encourage him,but I'm at my wit's end to accomplish his training.

Stifler's - posted on 11/01/2011

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We need more info? What do you mean force him to use the potty? As opposed to the toilet or is he refusing to toilet train?

Ez - posted on 11/01/2011

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I agree it depends on any extenuating circumstances. But if the child is healthy and developing normally, then yes you need to remove the nappies and persist through any accidents. A healthy 4yo should most certainly be toilet-trained.

But I wouldn't 'force' as in physically restrain him on the potty. That is asking for trouble.

Has toilet-training been attempted before? If so, what method was used? If not, why not?

Denikka - posted on 11/01/2011

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I would say it depends on WHY he's not using the potty.
Is he having problems having BM's?? Maybe he needs a stool softener.
Can he feel when he needs to go? I saw this mentioned in another post where the nerve endings have actually been damaged and the person actually cannot feel the need to go and they need to essentially be re-trained to recognize the sensations.
Has he just not been potty trained yet, or has it only been half-assed training. In that case, then yes. You absolutely need to make a concerted effort and force the issue.

Do a quick search on CoM for potty training. There are a TON of threads out there with lots of different tips :) Good luck

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