Is having a baby in your late 30's a bad idea?

Jami - posted on 01/22/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )




I joined to get tips on conceiving naturally in your late 30's. Also for advice on having a baby in your late 30's. My whole family including my 3 daughters I had in my teens and early 20's seem to think it's stupid and I'll be too old when the baby get's older. I need some support, for the first time in my life I want a baby planned, all my other kids just happened , though I love them with all my heart, for the first time I actually want to choose to be a mom and I feel like my clock is ticking.


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Jodi - posted on 01/23/2014




I had my youngest when I was 36. I had two miscarriages before I had her (all withing 6 months of being pregnant with my youngest). It was not the easiest pregnancy, but it could have been worse. Obviously keeping a pregnancy was a little harder. My daughter was born at term, and while it was actually an easy birth, she was extremely underweight for a full term baby. She ended up in the Special Care Nursery for 10 days. I am now 44 and have a perfectly healthy 8 year old (our oldest is 21, my husband is 48).

I can't say whether these things were because of my age. But the risk factors are there. Will you be too old when the child is older? No. Not too old. We still have all the same fun with our daughter that we had with our older children when they were young. Being the youngest of 4, I guess we are busier and have more commitments, but overall, she doesn't miss out.

Angela - posted on 01/23/2014




Well what does your husband/partner say about it? Your clock may well be ticking but you have not mentioned him at all!

The decision to have a baby is the business of the couple about to become parents. No-one else has any say in this - except maybe your doctor if there are any health concerns.

Gena - posted on 01/23/2014




I dont have expirience because i am a young mom but i think its something you must decide,if you feel ready then go for it :) i know a few moms that had their babys in their late 30s.My aunt had her first when she was 38 and now my cousin is younger then my son and they play together,i find it real cool!

Andrea - posted on 01/22/2014




My husband's mom and dad had him late in life as she said.. There is 16 years between my husband and his brother.. His mom was 33 when she had my hubby.. She say he was the best oops that happened to them.. She had a tumor on a gland which caused problem having a baby.. Anyways they were in there 50s when my husband was done with High School... She says there is an advantage in both ways.. It is nice to be the young mom but is even better to be the older mom that the young mom ask questions... You just have to do pros and cons.. My mother in law passed away 4 years ago do to cancer which my hubby took pretty hard but he was very close to him mom as they spent a lot of time together when he was little because she was able to be home more then young moms now days.. Hope this is helpful... I am sure it sounds funny coming from a 27 year old mom 3 ages 6,4,1... LOL...

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