Barbara - posted on 01/05/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )
My 17 year old son started dating a 20 year old girl a few months ago. I do not agree with the relationship because of the age difference and the fact that he IS still in high school. Since they have been dating his grades have slipped, he's been skipping class, sneaking out of the house, and disrespecting us (parents). This 20 year old is enrolled in college and lives at home with her parents and I feel as though her parents are contributing to this relationship in an unhealthy manner. For instance, for Christmas, my son, who is unemployed and a full time high school student and athlete, asked her Mother to purchase a promise ring for the 20 year old. This topic was not discussed with me. When I asked him about it, he said he didn't want to discuss it with me because he knew where I stood with the relationship. I feel that this girl is sucking my son into what she wants for her future and he is not able to figure out what he wants for his own future. Is he ruining his future with this girl? How do I, as the Mom, get to the point of realizing that I can't be in control of what he does for his future? I feel as though it's my job to ensure that he experiences life as a high school student and I feel like she is contributing to him missing out on those high school experiences.