Is it abnormal to always be in the

Allison - posted on 04/18/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I enjoyed the bedroom life before I had kids, but now after having three girls (10, 4, 2) I am always wanting to be with my common-law husband in that way and when I try to insinuate something, he brushes me off. We usually only have a bedroom life when he wants to. But when I want to he doesn't (most of the time). Are my hormones ever going go down? I think I am wierd for wanting it all the time. What can I do?

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Charlie - posted on 04/18/2011

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Being tired is understandable being a mum we know this best !

This happens a lot to women but does occaisionally happen to men too perhaps trying to shift some focus back on the relationship between the two of you , making a date night once a month ( even if it is a special dinner for the two of you after the kids have gone to bed ) even better if you have someone you trust who will mind them , second of all I dont know about you but I have a high libido and it was much the same with my fiance , we sat down and I told him exactly how I was feeling ( I was upset about it ) we came to the agreement we would schedule it in for a minimum amount of days a week ( three days ) and anything in between would be great .

I know he is tired but you need to reach a compromise , if he cannot do that perhaps there is something deeper bothering him .........there does come a point when constant refusal of sex turns into sexual dysfunction even when he still expresses interest when HE wants to .

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Christy - posted on 04/19/2011

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No it is NOT abnormal to be in the mood. Good for you!!!!!! Do something to him that won't let him resist, and I am not sure what that is for him. Just attack him or something.

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What i did: bought sexy lingerie and walked around the house in it. Hey yes you have kids but it doesnt have to be THAT revealing. there are nighties you can get around in sillk and lace without being revealing.. it will help him think of sex more. Also, i got sexy art for our bedroom. i hung curtains around our bed, put up wall candle holders and got red candles to burn. try changing your bedroom into 'the room'. fill it with sensations, and dark sexual colors... it worked for me :) and if it doesnt work..... adult toy store.... and if that wasn't going to work, i'd look for another guy no offense but I cannot go without sex LOL

Allison - posted on 04/18/2011

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Loureen, He says that he is tired, that he is not a machine but also cause he works 5 days/nights a week and i only work 1-2 days a week. He said that because I am home all day with the kids I will have more energy than him. He doesn't seem to understand that it's not always nap times and rest at home, esp with my 4 yr old who is high spirited, and special needs. Thanks for you advice.

Charlie - posted on 04/18/2011

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Allison THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU .

Perhaps your husband has a low libido which can be a symptom of other issues or perhaps he needs to be a little more in tune with your needs .

What I dont think is healthy about this scenario is HE is the one getting it when he wants and yet he is avoidind having sex with you when you need .

Have you asked him why he feels this way ?

Charlie - posted on 04/18/2011

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Allison THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU .

Perhaps your husband has a low libido which can be a symptom of other issues or perhaps he needs to be a little more in tune with your needs .

What I dont think is healthy about this scenario is HE is the one getting it when he wants and yet he is avoidind having sex with you when you need .

Have you asked him why he feels this way ?

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