is it acceptable for MIL to cut your childs hair without asking you then deny she's done it to make you look mad?

Michela - posted on 07/26/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )




my daughter's father & I have an off on relationship. He's a commitment phobic & I'll admit i'm slightly crazy. We've been together 8yrs on and off and our daughter is 5. I suffer with really bad PMS & have awful mood swings I know this & for 10yrs i've tried my hardest to get the Doctors to try to help me. All I get is antidepressants that I don't feel work so now i'm trying natural remedies. I am fully aware my mood swings are horrible. My partner says i'm crazy & won't live with me & our daughter so he comes around when he feels like it. I keep having sex with him on odd occasions because i'm craving his love & want him to commit to me & our daughter. I know it's not healthy but thats life for me. HIS mother see's our daughter when he takes her for regular visits. A lot of the time my daughter comes home with her hair trimmed. I know it's been done but his mother deny's it. She's tried to get custody of my daughter saying i'm an unfit mother because i suffer with awful mood swings & have been on medication. I think she cuts her hair then tries to make our she hasn't so i look crazy. Her dad is so spineless he won't stand up to his mother. When my daughter was 3 she cut her hair & said "mummy's going to really like this" my daughter told me & then her grandma denied it & more or less said my daughter was lying... how does a 3yr old lie like that????? I have now said I will not accept my daughters grandma seeing her without me present & she is kicking off saying i'm a nutter.... what would you all do any advice appreciated.... Am i neurotic???


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Shannintipton - posted on 07/27/2011




That is not right in my opinion. I don't know how you can stop it unless you are there while they visit each other. Is that a possibility. Don't let them make you think you are crazy and what does your daughter say about it. Just ask her if grandma did it. That is totally unfair. Sorry to hear this. My MIL wants me to trim my daughters down to her butt hair. I just cant bring myself to do. She knows how I feel about her doing it so I don't think she would do it. Good luck. I wish I had some advice. Sorry :)

Katherine - posted on 07/26/2011




My MIL used to do the same thing, it made me furious. She would cut my daughters hair and not even ASK!!! But she didn't deny it. My mom does the same thing. I think they are taking advantage of your health problems IMO.

Which is really disgusting. I would advise you to stay I would stay away too. For now. That is really unfair for her to do that.

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