Is it Appropriate to contact your ex boyfriend's kid on his behalf?

Sandra De - posted on 10/26/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I am no longer with him due to his many female friends and he has been hanging around with his ex who he has a child with. She is 7. But I am referring to his other child . She is about 18 19 years old. When I was with him he use to talk about her all the time and now that he is spending more time with his daughter who is 7 its bringing up memories. my question is is it appropriate to contact your ex daughter on his behalf.?? will her mother be upset? He just misses her so. Is it wrong of me to help? thanks

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Dove - posted on 10/26/2015

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If he wants to reach out to his adult daughter... that is his business and not your place to facilitate anything for him.

It makes zero sense whatsoever for you to contact the adult daughter of your EX boyfriend 'on his behalf'. Is he a man or a child? If he's a man... he can handle his own relationships. If he's a child... well, you don't want to be involved in that mess.

Michelle - posted on 10/26/2015

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So he's in contact with the Mother of his oldest child?
Then he can build a relationship with her. You need to stay out of it. I suggest you move on and let him live his life.

Raye - posted on 10/26/2015

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You're better off distancing yourself from all of them. It's great that you wish him happiness, but he's responsible for his own happiness. And you are responsible for yours. So go find a better man that will respect you and be happy with him.

Sandra De - posted on 10/26/2015

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@ Sarah. no i do not wish to be back with him. He is too much drama. He is an alcholic, smoker,has high anxiety and is depressed and like i said he has female friends around him all the time. Apparently, his ex with his daughter who is 7 has been around since the end of aug AND he continues to message his other ex with the eldest child since July and told her how much he loves her still and how beautiful she is. So... no I know he does not Love me never did. I was a fuck buddy to him for the past 3 and half years. I realized it in August of this year when I caught him with his married friend who is 4 months pregnant on Aguust 17 of this year.

Sarah - posted on 10/26/2015

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Well, I get that you care but if you are not related to this girl, I would advise not pursing the matter. It is up to him, the bio-parent to contact his child. Do you want him to have a relationship with is bio-child, facilitated by you, because you think it will get him back in your life? That may sound harsh but we do things when we are hurting, that may not be logical but stem from a desire to repair the relationship. No judgement, I did some wacky things in my time too...

Sandra De - posted on 10/26/2015

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@ Sarah. thank you for responding back. His ex that has been coming around recently has the 7 yr old girl. Yes, I want to reach out to his adult daughter on his behalf because yes I still care about him. While I was with him for 3 and half years up until all the drama happen in august and sept He was talking about his adult daughter and how he misses her. Because I cant stop thinking about him and I dreamt about him lastnight. I want him to have a relationship with his adult child. that is why. Because I still Care.

Sarah - posted on 10/26/2015

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I had a whole response typed before I reread your post. I am confused, who has the 7 yo and who has the adult half-sibling? You want to reach out to his adult daughter on his behalf? Why? If you were reaching out to the adult half sibling of your own child so she could meet her sister, that would be different. You state you are no longer even involved with this man any longer....so why do you care?

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