Is it bad that i have my sons father on my FB if im married???

Isabel - posted on 04/01/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I have my sons father on my FB friends list n my husband gets angry for it. He lives over 2000 miles away we hardly ever talk on FB except wen commenting on pics of our son( which is the main reason I added him so he can see pictures of our son) but my husband gets angry...I think its just internet who cares, but my husband dnt like it...Am i wrong? Or is he? Pleease Heeelp!??

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Erin - posted on 04/01/2012

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Sounds like the two of you need to have a long sit down conversation. It's best for your son that you maintain a cordial relationship with his father. Your husband needs to give you a reason outside of "I've been cheated on in the past" in regards to this issue. If nothing else, suggest a little bit of marriage counselling so that you both can put this issue to rest. Good luck.

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Isabel - posted on 04/01/2012

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Yea, he has been cheated on by most of the people hes been with in the past. I understand that allot. He knows my passwords to me email, to my fb, skype everything and still says he doesnt want me to be FB friends with him.IDK y! drives me nuts! :(

Erin - posted on 04/01/2012

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Ok. This is just my opinion but it seems like both of you are in the wrong. He's acting jealous and by choosing an "only one of us is right" position it's making things worse. Your husband is probably feeling insecure because at one time you had an intimate relationship with another man besides him. I'm also wondering if there was a point in time during which a woman cheated on him during a relationship. This would make him more likely to read into the internet connection. You should try to keep your son's biological father informed on what his son is doing, for the sake of your son. Talk to your husband. Come up with a compromise that lets your husband know you understand his concerns but still allows your son's father to be a part of your son's life, even long distance. Maybe something like telling your husband your FB password.or creating a "fan page" that your son's father can "like" and keep updated that way. A page would mean you would probably end up posting pictures twice but what is a little extra work in the name of marriage harmony. Good luck.

Isabel - posted on 04/01/2012

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Thats wat im feeling. Me and my sons father argued allot at one point and the last year we have finally got used to being able to come to agreements and i love it that way, but my husband doesnt want me to forgive him for things hes done, to me and my son in the past but im just glad hes trying to fix himself for our son, not for me.He even added my husband on FB but my husband denied him.Im just like cant we just all get along lol...

Michelle - posted on 04/01/2012

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I have my ex husband on FB and so does my hubby (my ex). Your husband has to realize that you have children with your ex and you are forever bound to him, wether you current husband likes it or not. It sounds like your hubby is a bit insecure. He knows that at one time you loved this other man enough to have children with him. He does need to let you have a civil relationship with your ex though, for the sake of the children.



My ex lives only 5 mins around the corner and quite often pops in for a drink and a chat. My current husband and my ex get along really well. The best conversation I ever herd between them was:

Ex: The biggest mistake I ever made was letting Michelle go.

Hubby: I don't mind because I now have her.

Ex: You look after her, she's definitely a keeper.

Hubby: You can bet I will.



Made me giggle listening to my ex say that because he never did when we were together.

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