Is it bad that my 2 month old son still sleeps in the same bed??
Sharon - posted on 05/17/2009
I wouldn't worry about it. He needs you to sleep with. No later than 18 mos, I would start getting him into his own bed, though. It's easier when they're sleeping on their own by 2 yrs, otherwise they will need you as a security blanket. I've read where kids that sleep with their parents up to 5 yrs old are a lot less anxious, etc. It's up to you when you want to put them in their own bed. I'll bet you more women sleep with their babies than they'd like to let on. I'm proud of my kids. They're just as healthy and well-adjusted as I'd expect them to be. And on top of that, they have good sleeping habits.
Shayna - posted on 05/17/2009
Nope. Mine is 9 months old and sleeps with us. We are slowly moving him to his crib. That is where we 'start' him out at night and then when he wakes up around 3- I bring him to bed to nurse and finish sleeping. We LOVE the snuggle time. Better Bonding. Read Pediatrician Dr. Sears books!
Rebecca - posted on 05/17/2009
I've heard that it's not a problem. I don't really understand how you would get intimate alone time with your partner, I know my relationship would suffer. My bub has been in his cot since being brought home however if he has a rough night thanks to teething I take him back to bed with me in the morning and we get some extra sleep.
Christina - posted on 05/17/2009
i dont think there is anything wrong with it if it doesnt bother either one of you. but i would say you need to think about how you will feel about this in the future, be it a few months or a few years from now.
my daughter, almost a year, still sleeps with me in my bed at night. she has slept through the night from day one. but i dont see it being a problem bc she is able to sleep on her own in her own bed as well. i keep her in my bed for the great bonding and warm fuzzy feeling i get. :) its great waking up next to her and seeing her smiley face. if it feels right to you and it feels right for your child, i say its fine.
Leigh - posted on 05/17/2009
It's not a problem. The American culture is one of the only ones that has this belief that children need to sleep separately from us. How can it be bad to do something that we evolved doing? My son slept with me for the first three years. It made everything easier (such as feeding), and he consistently slept through the night from the beginning.
Shawanna - posted on 05/17/2009
It is considered dangerous, although I am an advocate for maternal instinct. It's rare for you to roll over your baby, unless heavily medicated and drunk. I do, however, know that the longer you wait to remove them from your bed, the harder it will be. I have three children. The oldest slept in my bed until he was a yr and a half. The last two, I never let them sleep in my bed, so it was the only place they knew to sleep. Your baby is still at a good age to go ahead and put him in his own bed. You'll be happier in the end.
Rayna - posted on 05/17/2009
For now, I'm sure it's not but it could become an issue. Is the co-sleeping for you or for him? You'll have to honestly answer that for yourself. I know a mom who never put a stop to it and now she has a 7 year old sleeping in a bed with her husband, herself and brand new baby. I think that is a bit unhealthy for everyone involved.
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