Is it common to be worried about miscarrying in your first trimester???

Kaitlin - posted on 06/08/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )

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My friend a few months back had a miscarriage at 10 weeks...well actually they did an ultrasound on her and found there was nothing there any more....it really freaks me out...my husband says to prepare myself that that could happen but I want to prepare to have a baby and enjoy being pregnant!!! Should I be more worried???

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Nikki - posted on 06/08/2009

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Hi Kaitlin, I wish you the best though have to say the worrying starts the minute you find out your pregnant and continues! Every time I went to the toilet I was checking for signs of miscarriage or something wrong until the day I delivered...then your consumed with 'are they breathing', 'are they too hot / cold', 'are they feeding enough'...so basically, the worrying goes with mother hood as does immense amounts of joy. Enjoy the moment!

Jennifer - posted on 06/08/2009

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I was always worried about it. Even between my appointments. When I heard his heartbeat I was like OKAY I can breath now. I litterally would hold my breath until the doc found the heart beat. I even went in a couple times because I was freaking out I didnt feel him move at all, but he was just sleeping. I fet that as soon as I had him, those worries were FINALLY over!

Samantha - posted on 06/09/2009

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I was without a doubt probably the most paranoid person ever when I was pregnant. For the first three months no one else knew I was pregnant except my mother and my fiance. I worried constantly about miscarriage's as I have a friend who was just as pregnant as me and she lost the baby. I was not only worried about my baby in the first trimester, but also the second and third! I even bought a heartbeat monitor so that I could keep track of my daughters heartbeat if she wasn't moving often. I think that being pregnant and having this life inside of you, as woman we feel a lot of responsibility and we want the best for our baby to keep it heathy and safe. I thought that once my daughter was born I would feel a lot better about keeping her safe because I could actually touch and see her, but I still worry. I hope for my next pregnancy I will be a little more relaxed and not so worried about every little thing.

By the way congratulations on your pregnancy!!

Megan - posted on 06/08/2009

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i was always worried when i was prego, i then had 3 beautiful, healthy babies, i think being pregnant and worried is normal, it becomes a mommy thing, you should try your best to enjoy every moment of it, and i think you will feel better when you see your baby and his/her heart beat for the 1st time. good luck , try not to worry.

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Shaheen - posted on 01/15/2014

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am 7 weeks pregnant no baby heart beat but my tummy is becoming bigger is this normal?

Catherine - posted on 06/10/2009

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It is totally normal to be worried and yes it does happen. After you go to the doctor and hear or see a heartbeat the chances of miscarrying are really low. I would try and persuade your doc to give you an ultrasound that is so reassuring

Amanda - posted on 06/09/2009

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I had a miscarriage in November of 2007. I kept telling my husband that the baby hates me. Well i had a lot of pain and discomfort and i wound up miscarriying at 7 weeks. I got pregnant again in December of 2007 (i know i wasted no time) I worried everyday until after my 12 weeks were up. I still worried about every little thing and called my dr. I'm sorry to tell you there is no way to prepare yourself for a miscarriage it just happens. You just have to think positive about your pregnancy and if anything feels weird or worries you call your dr that is what they are there for. Hope this helps.

Tiffany - posted on 06/08/2009

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It's completely normal to worry in pregnancy.. I'm due in less than three weeks; and STILL have not stopped worrying lol.. Just think positive and everything will be just fine :)

Hope - posted on 06/08/2009

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I learned the second time around..not to stress..cause I lost the first one..I was maybe 5 weeks and one day I went to the bathroom I notice spotting thinking ok i was told its normal to spot a tiny bit but then it got to be more..I didn't have major cramping..but It felt like a very long period..and when they did an ultrasound they seen a yolk sac but no developing fetus..and the certain co workers I had stressed me out alot which did no help matters much,,my other co workers were really supportive and sympathetic as they knew I was very upset..but then I realized maybe it was just not that time yet. And I did worry the second time around with my daughter but thank god everything went smoothly and she is here and healthy and happy beauitful little angel that god blessed me with. But yea I agree to not worry too much if you can..and just relax and enjoy the pregnancy..Its an amazing experience..come to think of it I see pregnant women and it makes me miss being pregnant.

Maria - posted on 06/08/2009

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It's only natural to worry about the health of your baby in your pregnancy whether it's the first trimester or the last. I've done it on both pregnancies, and on my first, I almost lost my son giving birth when he came out blue and jaundiced. He had to be rushed to the respiratory for breathing and incubation. My second was borderline diabetic since he was 12 lbs and 22 inches long when he was born. But, I'll take them in whatever form and love them, anyhow. Needless to say, they have grown up to be healthy teenagers. Enjoy your pregnancy and let your baby know how much you love him/her. He/she will appreciate every minute of it! And Lisa is right, you don't want to miss the beauty of the experience of taking it all in by worrying! You have no control over it, might as well relax and not stress over it. Besides, your baby can feel when you're stress, too.

Lisa - posted on 06/08/2009

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I have suffered a misscarriage early on in my first pregnancy and the best advice I can give you is this.



There is nothing you or doctors or anyone can do to change anything that may or may not happen. So enjoy being pregnant and dont let anything worry you. Stress will cause you problems if you get too upset.



My experience was exasberated by the fact it took two weeks before the doctors could confirm anything, cause even though I was bleeding, when ever I was examined, everything was ok. So I kept looking on the bright side, but panicked everytime I went toliet or got dressed.



HOpe I have been of help. Happy and Healthy 9 months and dont worry about it. ENJOY BEING PREGNANT for it is a truly miraculus experiance.

Lisa - posted on 06/08/2009

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I have suffered a misscarriage early on in my first pregnancy and the best advice I can give you is this.



There is nothing you or doctors or anyone can do to change anything that may or may not happen. So enjoy being pregnant and dont let anything worry you. Stress will cause you problems if you get too upset.



My experience was exasberated by the fact it took two weeks before the doctors could confirm anything, cause even though I was bleeding, when ever I was examined, everything was ok. So I kept looking on the bright side, but panicked everytime I went toliet or got dressed.



HOpe I have been of help. Happy and Healthy 9 months and dont worry about it. ENJOY BEING PREGNANT for it is a truly miraculus experiance.

Kaitlin - posted on 06/08/2009

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Oh...forgot to mention that I am only six weeks...I get to hopefully hear/see the heartbeat next week!!!!

Kaitlin - posted on 06/08/2009

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Thanks!!!! I think my husband just doesn't want it to happen either but he was trying in the weird "man way" to make me feel better!!! Thanks so much!!...so glad that I am not alone!!!

Heather - posted on 06/08/2009

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There is no way to prepare yourself for a miscarriage. I had a friend who had one the year before, and I too, for my 2nd pregnancy was terrified that it was going to happen to me. I didn't really calm down until I could start to feel her move, which is 4-5 mths along- exactly what the OB nurse told me :-). Hang in there. The hormones don't help either! Just sit back and enjoy growing your baby. If you're worried, talk to your OB and ask for an ultrasound or a fetal heartbeat check.

Erinn - posted on 06/08/2009

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Absolutely!! I was the same way with both children!! Even towards the end of my pregnancies.... I was afraid I was gonna have a "late" miscarriage!! I think you'lll find that a lot of people have gone through the same thing you have! Every ache and pain I had I was scared about! Don't let your husband get you down! Do everything you can possibly do to stay healthy for you and your baby.. you should and deserve to have a good happy pregnancy!! Good luck and congrats on your pregnancy!! :)

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