Is it harder to go from 1 to 2 kids or 2 to 3 kids?

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My husband and I are contemplating a third child but there are just as many arguments for it as there are against it. Any experiences that anyone can share to shed some light on the subject would be grately appreciated.

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Sarah - posted on 05/24/2009

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i found having 2 kids were easy but when number 3 came along it was harder at first had one in kindy and one two year old, but once i got my head around it, it wasnt so bad just had to make sure i time with each of them and as ashley got older they could all play together now when ones away their is someone else to play with and having all girls they share toys clothes and shoes some time their food as well their best of buddies

Geralyn - posted on 05/22/2009

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My best friend thought she was done at 2. When she had a surprise pregnancy with her 3rd, she actually cried the whole 1st trimester cuz she really felt that she was done. She has not cried over it since. He'll be 3 years old soon. Even if it is harder than 2, the benefits totally outweigh any challenges to having a 3rd. Making the decision with your heart is always a good thing.... Good luck with your decision!

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3 is harder only because you run out of hands. At one point I had the 5 year old on a leash , the 3 year old on my back and the baby either in a stroller or a front pack. 4 is actually easier because they can hold each others hands and are older.

Kat - posted on 05/22/2009

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OH..... one more thing... lol... if you do decide to have a third child.... my one bit of advice is to stay in the hospital as long as possible. It's difficult when you bring a new baby home, anytime, but when you've got 2 other kids at home, it adds more pressure. Get as much help as you can and talk to anyone who will listen about the daily pressures. :-)

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Savannah - posted on 12/29/2013

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I have two children to wit number 3 otw I was wondering how hard it is having 3 under the age of 4

Shelagh - posted on 05/24/2009

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My partner has 3 children, quite close together, I have 2 children with quite a big gap. There seem to be advantages and disadvantages. I guess for us the hardest was going to 5! As Jon said, by the time number three came along, both his knees were taken. She has had to fight her corner ever since. The bottom line is - if you want another then go for it. If you have some doubts, then probably better not.

Katherine - posted on 05/22/2009

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I think 3 kids are about the same amount of trouble as two. Bigger issues, How many will be in diapers at a time. How much time is between the first and second, how much time would be between second and third. If you have a boy and a girl already then your not worried about whether or not you'll need a separate room because eventually someone can share. Realize that a third child means there is another choice to play with if someone hurts your feelings so that's cool.

Renae - posted on 05/22/2009

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2-3 was harder for us to get used to, because with 2 each parent takes a child and is responsible. When 3 comes along it is always do you have him/her no I thought you did. But going from 3-4 was easy again, because we each had 2 to take care of again and nobody was left behind.

Kat - posted on 05/22/2009

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Honestly, I think it's harder to go from 2 to 3. I seem to be the only one who thinks so. While you are kinda "in the swing of things" when you have 2, the challenge I've faced is that we and our world is set up for 2. We have 2 hands, generally 2 parents, etc.... Where do you put the third kid? and you can put 2 kids in a bedroom together, but the 3rd kinda throughs things off.
Of course, the joys of having 3 are immeasurable. So, as long as you think of all the angles, you won't be surprised. I also agree that the ages makes a huge difference. Having one who is old enough to at least grab things for you is really helpful. Hope this helps!

Kirstin - posted on 05/22/2009

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I also have three children I really believe it depends on your childs disposition. My first baby was laid back and just went with whatever he was so nice to his sister when she arrived he shared his toys he couldn't stand to hear her cry so he just gave her whatever she wanted so that was so nice then I added number 3 and my little girl wanted nothing of it she did not want to share me with the baby she had a hard time. my babies are very close together and still very young maybe that was the problem they all need alot of my attention all the time and every day is a challenge. but I love them all and I couldn't imagine my life any different.

Rebecca - posted on 05/22/2009

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hi well im currently expecting my third child with my partner and we had the same problem do we dont we our two boys are 3 and 7 and we wanted another one so we sat down and talked for ages then went for it im only a couple of months into my pregnancy and both the boys know about the baby while the older one thinks he is goin to be pushed out more the youngest is really excited which is bringing the other one round to the idea while i love the fact the boys want to be involved they are abit over powering at times but so far everything is looking and feeling good at this stage in my second pregnancy my oldest was causing so much trouble coz he didnt wantto share mommy that i was stressed and feeling unwell but with this one everything is running smoothly i certainly think it is goin to be easier this time round that what it was goin from one to two.

Karen - posted on 05/22/2009

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We have three kids under the age of 4, it is full on and in my case I have no family to help me out. I am told as they start school it will get easier but right now our children are 4, 3, and 1. What is more difficult is that our oldest has Autism. Deep down I wouldn't change a thing. It depends on how you are feeling personally. I said to my husband that we not having anymore and I am happy with my decision and so is he, so if you feel two is enough for you,stick by that and good luck

Meanna - posted on 05/22/2009

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Hi Mom and Dad. My husband and I just had our third child on April 23rd and in my opinion, it was harder to go from 1 to 2. Once you have 2 children, it's not a hrd transition to have another child. We have welcomed our third girl and the first two are a great help to me as well as my husband.

Sarah - posted on 05/22/2009

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It was harder for me to go from 2 -3.

My older two seem to argue alot more now we have the baby, my girls are 6 and 4 and all they seem to do is bicker, i forever seem to be saying ' don't wake the baby...... keep it down.......don't bang that drum!!!'

I seem to be breaking them up whilst trying to change a stinky nappy and then they argue over who will cuddle the baby. They DO know how to share, they just don't seem to want to share the baby!!

3 is definately harder than 2!!!

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1 - 2 was much much harder for me than 2 - 3! Then I waited 14 years and had number 4 ...number 4 is great fun, though hes like number 1 all over again!

Dawn - posted on 05/21/2009

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I think it depends on the kids. Overall, I would say it is hardest to go from 0 to 1. 1 to 2 is probably a little harder than 2 to 3...but that would depend on how old they are. By the time I added #3, my first was almost 5, which definitely made it easier! All that being said....my third is a more challenging baby than babies #1 & #2 combined!....and I wouldn't trade her for anything!

Michelle - posted on 05/21/2009

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hmm...i'd say one to two as well.....the only thing that was hard about going from 3 to four was deciding on what sort of car to get next...! once you get past four, may as well keep going...haha! i think too, its sometimes easier to have them closer together...i had two girls aged 6 and 5 then had my first son...hadn't realised how independant the girls were until i had a newborn again...not meaning that in a bad way, just how it was for me

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Definately harder to go from 1-2! All of a sudden everything has to be shared. However, when you have two they already know everything is shared. 3-4 was the easiest transition for us though!

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