Is it inappropriate to keep your male friends after you get married?


Amber - posted on 07/18/2011




I didn't lose any of mine. They are now friends with my SO too. It's fun for everybody to get together. If my SO had been jealous of them and attempted to put a halt on the friendships, it would have been him that didn't stay in my life.

I find it absurd that people think men are only friends with women so that they can get an opportunity to sleep with them. It implies that women can't be anything more than an object of physical desire, which couldn't be more incorrect. My guy friends like me because of my personality, and it helps that I can explain what the hell their girlfriends are mad about when they can't seem to wrap their heads around (Their girlfriends appreciate that too)

User - posted on 07/18/2011




No, why would it be? Any decent friend would know that as a married woman you are off-limits anyway, so where's the problem.

It comes down to trust. I completely trust my hubby, and he trusts me. I have male friends who I see, sometimes with him sometimes not, but we both know nothing would ever happen with them.


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Jenn - posted on 07/18/2011




It depends...does the hubby get to keep his female friends? My hubby knows my friends and I know his...male and female. So long as everyone keeps things on the up and up, I don't see why it would be an issue.

Sherri - posted on 07/18/2011




NO!!! I still have all of mine and wouldn't dream about getting rid of them. If that was a deal breaker with my husband I wouldn't have gotten married.

Elfrieda - posted on 07/18/2011




I think it's great to keep them, but things will be a little different than they used to be. Like the others have said, you need to include your husband in a lot of your get-togethers, and of course any flirting (even the innocent, just-for-fun kind) should stop out of respect for your husband's feelings. Things change when you get married, but there's no need to drop friends because of it, IMO.

Amy - posted on 07/18/2011




I agree with Valerie has your husband been able to meet these guy friends, do you give him the opportunity to come along to any events or dinners that you plan, are you open and honest with your hubby about these friends or do you find that you're being somewhat sneaky with your communication? Also ask yourself how you would feel if this was reversed and your hubby had female friends, be honset how much would it bother you if your husband went out to meet them without you?

Valerie - posted on 07/18/2011




It depends on a few things. 1. were they his friends too? 2. has he met them and formed opinions? 3. how does he feel about this question? maybe he must ask the same question only diffrent gender. my man says a guy friend to a women is nothing more than a man waiting to become intimate.

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