Is it legal to make both parents pay 100 percent medical and dental for there child that is being raised by a grandparent and the parents where never married?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/09/2013

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well, here's the other thing: You should have anticipated these expenses! ESPECIALLY if you've got 2 other kids!

My two sons, at the peak of raising them, cost me around $1400-$1600 a month (for both, not each). I knew before having them I'd have to be able to afford them. I sympathize with your condition, but I battle depression myself, and never, ever would have given my kids up to anyone else to raise. As a matter of fact, they're what get me thru the day!

If you don't think that what the courts have ordered is fair, then take it back to court. Take custody back to court. But you can't do anything about a court order without going back before the judge, or you'll be in hotter water than before.

Tracy - posted on 10/09/2013

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So i guess NONE of you understand and I am not wording this all right...I also have 2 other kids to raise...Duh, I know kids are not cheap to raise, I have teenagers all now. I NEVER left my kids with family to raise..I placed them to GET MYSELF BETTER. Evidentally you guys do NOT understand. I am not a crack whore or druggie or whatever else you want to say and get to keep my kids like most do...I battle depression and got it better and can now take care of myself and my children the right way and have a stable job and life. IF you knew my life you would understand but I guess you dont.......

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/09/2013

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If the court has ordered you to pay child support, plus med/dental, plus 100% of the uncovered expense, and has also ordered the child's father to pay 100% of the uncovered expenses, then that's what you do.

Kids aren't cheap to raise. $600/month wouldn't even cover expenses for 1 kid where I am from.

And my opinion about people leaving their kids with their parents to raise stems from watching many of my friends raise their grandkids with no support from the kids' parents, watching my own grandparents raise my cousins, watching my Sis in law raise her grandson...and I stand by it.

Tracy - posted on 10/09/2013

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I am far from being irresponsible..I get my son every weekend, all summer long and every holiday and days he doesnt have school..I also pay 600 a month for him and medical and dental and also still buy him things because HE IS MY SON.....I will do anything for my kids...

Tracy - posted on 10/09/2013

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U all can judge me how you want but I am far from a bad parent or person. I did not choose to have depression very bad. I did the right thing by places them with family to get it taken care of and then getting my kids back. My kids are my LIFE and always have been. Anyone that knows me knows that also. I have got 2 of my children back and working on the 3rd one but his grandma has money and a lawyer and I dont. I have worked with the county also and they know I have followed through with everything and no reason I shouldnt have my son back.

Tracy - posted on 10/09/2013

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My paper says I have to pay for insurance through my work witch I do and also have to pay 100% that it doesnt cover...My sons father dont have insurance and it says he has to pay 100% also... I already pay 600 a month for child support and also 82 a month for medical and dental for my son witch I dont mind its just I dont understand how both parents can pay 100% it has to be 50/50.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/09/2013

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If the child is being raised by the grandparents, and the parents are supposed to be paying support to the grandparents, then they each need to pay 50%.

Otherwise, I suggest that grandma & grandpa take the irresponsible parties to court and get a court order for support, which would clarify everything.

Personally, I think that those who screw around, have kids, and then leave them to their parents to raise are a burden in themselves, and should probably go for voluntary sterilization.

Tracy - posted on 10/09/2013

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I also didnt explain it all..I had depression bad and placed my kids with family til I got myself better..I have had a steady job and married now for 5 years and depression better and not on meds anymore. I did everything I was suppost to do and got 2 of my kids back so far. I went to court to get my son back and was told I have to prove endangerment at his grandmas in order for me to get my son back. I was told that If I did everything and proved it that I would get my kids back and then this new judge tells me no because there is no endangerment at his grandmas. It makes me depressed again and being lied to by the court system...I was told if I had a laywer I would get him back but cant afford one. I was being honest and went in but they said they just cant give my son back...

Jodi - posted on 10/09/2013

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Ok, now I get it. Each parent should be paying 50% :) That makes total sense. What is the exact wording in the court orders?

Tracy - posted on 10/09/2013

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I guess I worded it wrong...How can you have both parents paying 100% to medical and dental when that would be overpaying by 100%....it would have to be split 50/50...Yes you are responsible for that child not saying your not...SO if you got a bill for 357 and both parents where to pay 100% of it that would be double, so do you understand what I am saying?

Jodi - posted on 10/08/2013

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Why should the grandparents have to pay for it? The parents are the ones who brought the child into this world, they have an obligation to support the child. I am not understanding how this is even a question!

Unless, of course, the grandparents officially adopted the child, then the law is different. but honestly, you can't expect to bring a child into this world and then decide not to support that child 100%. That's called irresponsible.

Michelle - posted on 10/08/2013

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Why wouldn't the parents support their child financially? The parents are the ones that created the child if they were married or not, it doesn't make a difference. At least the child has Grandparents that are willing to raise their Grandchild and not put the child into the foster system.

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