Chanell - posted on 03/09/2014 ( 7 moms have responded )
My daughter is 10 and very bright, sociable and caring. I love how she is able to make friends where ever she goes. She amazes me at times on how quickly she is able to catch on and her drive to learn is incredible. BUT, and this is a big BUT, she does not listen. My baby is the type to do what she wants to do and suffer the consequences later. I wouldn't be so eager to fix this if she was younger because I know that she would eventually catch on and things would change but she is older now. Did I mention she is in 5th grade and next year she will be in middle school? Now do you see my concern? I can only imagine it will get worse. Growing up I was never perfect and I did do things I had no business doing but I was so afraid of my mom finding out what I did. I'd cover up all my tracks well before she could even think I was doing wrong. But like the good mother she was she knew something was up at least a fourth of the time. But remember I never tried her much, I was just too scared. I used to spank my daughter and put her on restriction. She is just too old to spank and frankly I hurt my hands when doing it. So I began to take things from her that I THOUGHT would really get her. I took the TV but that doesn't do much when she really isn't a TV kind of gal. I took birthday parties, extracurricular activities, and field trips away but I feel that dampers her social life and keeps her from having a let out. I recently took her iPod away for adding Kik (social media) for downloading it 3 times after I deleted twice. She is only 10 what does she need with Kik, Facebook, and instaragram or any other social media when she isn't responsible enough to have them. She was using foul language on there so I was really heated. I find that she has a very nonchalant attitude and I know she gets it from me. She really thinks outside of the box when it comes to her decisions and consequences. Quick story and I'll wrap this up. I should have known I was in trouble when she was 5. She has always been picky about where she eats. We were at a family function and there were cupcakes and just like any kid she begged me to have one I said not until she eats. I wrapped a cupcake up for her and she headed out early so I could feed her. We got home I sat the cupcake on the counter and I told her do not eat that cupcake until she ate dinner. I went to the bathroom and came back. Something told me to check the cupcake and all the icing was gone. I looked at her and said, "Didn't I tell you not to eat the cupcake?" Her response was, " I didn't, I licked the icing off." Smh! How am I to handle her if restriction and taking things from her doesn't work? I need some help. Is it her or me? What am I doing wrong? Is it a phase like anything else? How should I handle her from here on out?