Is it normal for 5 year old boy to act like a girl all the time

Kedi - posted on 07/09/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My son turned 5 recently and his preschool teacher said that he plays dress ups in school and that in her 25 years of experience as a school teacher she never saw any boy playing dress up and that he does not like to play rough housing with other boys and always plays with the girls.During summer holidays I watched closely and saw his behaviour a little strange....point never noticed any of these before the teacher complained even if i did i thought he was just playing but when i started watching and put everything he did in the google ,it comes to a conclusion of gender non conformity (as in gay ) He does have all the signs effeminate mannerism walks like a girl and sometimes suddenly stand like a girl facinated with long hair like rapunzel,
pretend play include princesses, doll plays, mommy baby plays fantasy play taking female roles, attraction to female characters in stories. Girls as playmates ,fear of injury does not like rough-and-tumble play non-participation in group sports feels fragile, weak, vulnerable to injury play only couple of minutes in park and says iam tired and recently he saw a teenage boy in the store and said i love that boy right in his face.
I do not understand if this is a passing phase,how long does a passing phase lasts? if its not how do I support him as he will be going Kindergarden soon I love him and very protective but its also very scary to think what he will go through in school years do anyone experienced or ever were in similar situations...plz need help

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Jodi - posted on 07/09/2013

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And ditto what Evelyn said - I get so sick of people believing children need to "conform" to our ideology of gender roles.

Jodi - posted on 07/09/2013

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Clearly this teacher is completely uneducated and her 25 years as a teacher have been spent extremely sheltered. In my experience in preschool and kindergarten classrooms, where dressups are available, together with "home corner" and dolls, plenty of boys play dress ups. My son used to LOVE playing with dolls and dressing up in home corner. He was always a sensitive child, didn't like to get dirty or play rough. He is now a healthy, robust 6 foot tall 16 year old who plays rugby. Big deal!

And gender non-conformity does NOT equal gay. I am not sure where you got that idea.

Just let the boy be happy and play in ways he enjoys.

Ev - posted on 07/09/2013

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Take a breath. Breath. Calm down.

1) Just because your boy plays with dress up be it girls things or boys things and plays with girl style toys does not mean he is going to be gay. Gender is societies ideal of what boys and girls should be like.

2) Kids this age are curious about a lot of things and will take on the role of the opposite sex all the time. Do people freak out when a girl plays with boy things or take on a maleish role? No. WHen a boy does the same thing using girly items they do. Its the same thing. Why the freaking out?

3) There are a lot of men who do not like being injured, rough play, and so on. My son does not play sports at all and he also played with dolls and girl things growing up and he is as manly as any guy can get.

4) Boys who play with dolls for instance are roleplaying and learn to care for a child much in the same way a man would his child.

5) Stop putting gender rules in place for kids this young. Its usually a phase and they grow up from it and move on. Does he know what gay even is?

I honestly wish people would stop going nuts about kids playing with toys not considered gender correct.

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