Is it normal for me three year old to be bratty?

Reina - posted on 03/22/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My son is a sweet little by but lately he doesn't take no for an answer or does things that he knows will get him in trouble on purpose! Its only been this way for a couple weeks but he is driving me insane. I hate having to tap his butt or yelling at him but I have to do it. I'm not pregnant, don't have any little ones at home, we make sure he naps and we do our best to play with him all the time. Help!

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Kim - posted on 03/23/2014

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Funny, I just sat on the floor or put him in my lap till my son stopped the behavior. I knew spanking or yelling was only hurting me, although I have done both. But being an older mom, it was nice for me to take a break and have one on one time. I learned patience. I never had that before.

Jodi - posted on 03/22/2014

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And it is only a phase if you deal with it. If you cater to his whims now, it won't be a phase, this will be your life.

Jodi - posted on 03/22/2014

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Unfortunately, telling him you'll take him to Chuck E. Cheese every time he does the right thing is not actually enough of an immediate reward for him. How about you try doing a sticker reward chart (choose some stickers together) and then decide on a reward when he gets enough stickers. You can't take him to Chuck E. Cheese every time he does as he is asked to do. Instead, have a stash of fun stickers that he has chosen, and when he fills the chart, THEN take him somewhere fun. At the moment, you are giving him rewards that are just too hard to reach.

Reina - posted on 03/22/2014

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I do, I tell him I'll take him to Chuck E. Cheese or give him his chocolate milk but it goes it one ear and out the other. Its good to know its a phase :)

Jodi - posted on 03/22/2014

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You don't HAVE to tap him on the butt or yell at him, you are choosing to. Kids this age are smarter than we give them credit for. He is testing you out. He is looking for consistent consequences (which isn't always about punishment). He knows what is wrong....but does he know what is right? Have you tried rewards for doing the right thing?

I will also give the advice that this phase is totally normal. It is also going to go on longer than a few weeks. Stop hitting him. Research shows hitting does not work. Research also shows that yelling is ineffective. If these are the only tools in your box, then you need to find others. Consider time out, reward systems.

What exactly is he doing that is frustrating you?

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