Jessica - posted on 04/30/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )
My daughter has always shown emotions of anger or frustration. When she was a baby, she cried all the time, and we were told it was colic. As a 2-4 year old she would have "temper tantrums" over not getting her way, her cousin not playing with her, or being told what to do. Now she is 6, and has had some behaviors that are very concerning to me. At first, it was pinching herself, ex:She does not like wearing shorts under dresses. We went shopping and found a dress. I told her if we buy this dress for school, you have to wear shorts under it. She then preceded to clinch her mouth and pinched her arm really hard. This was not the first time i witnessed this behavior, and because of the circumstance I took it as being spoiled, or mad because she wasnt getting her way. I spanked her in the dressing room and told her to never do that again. I have witnessed her holding her breath, pinching herself, and pulling her hair when she is angry or frustrated. My daughter also has spells of unconsolable crying. She cant tell me whats wrong, or why she is crying. This goes on for a few days at a time. The most recent and most alarming event happened yesterday. I picked her up from the after school program and she is wearing a bandana around her neck (like a western style) that i did not give her. An adult at the facility had given it to her. Her teacher tells me that a little boy was in her seat, and instead of asking him to move, she popped him in the face with the bandana. She got in trouble by the teacher, started to cry (she never gets in trouble at school, or after school program), and went and sat by herself. A few minutes later the teacher looks over, and my six year old daughter has tightened the bandana around her neck to the extent of having a red neck and face! While in the car, I asked her why she "chocked" herself. She finally said because I hurt him, so I had to hurt myself. I do not feel that this type of behavior is normal. What are your thoughts? My daughter is very smart. She tested through kindergarten requirments about half way through the year, she has a very large vocabulary, she excels in sports (tball, 1st base) and very artistic, and head strong. Please give me your thoughts on this.