Is it normal for the baby to whine almost 24/7?

Crystal - posted on 10/21/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My daughter just turned one and whines all day for absolutely no reason. Just whines, and whines, and whines; she is also constantly on my feet, wanting to be held. When I hold her she wants to move but when I put her down she whines. I'm trying to keep my patience and pay attention to her but the whining is driving me crazy. Am I doing something wrong?

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Misty - posted on 10/26/2012

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Is it possible that she has her one year molars coming in? Those will make her teeth, jaw line, and ears hurt. Sometimes even her neck and throat. Children generally start having nightmares aroung this age and seperation issues. Is she sleeping well at night? Also, there are test that can be run to see she is allergic to milk protein or lactose intolerant. Try giving her goats milk and see how she handels it. I know your pain. When my son was born he was lactose intolerant, allergic to soy milk and the hypoallergenic stuff, and my breast milk had him sick even after I stopped eating dairy. I never thought he was going to start gaining weight. Talk to your dr. and in the meantime, try some goats milk...It has all the nutrients she needs...

Anaquita - posted on 10/21/2012

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She might be lactose intolerant (more common), as opposed to allergic to the milk protein itself (casein). Though that could be possible too... There is lactose free dairy milk, and other types of non-dairy milk out there other than just soy. (I normally advocate to *not* give a child soy, as unfermented soy acts as estrogen in the body, and I believe it's classified as an endocrine disrupter, amongst other things) Like almond or coconut milk My son and I are both lactose intolerant, and Almond Silk milk is usually the least expensive so we normally get that one. You could take her to an allergy specialist for testing if you're truly concerned though. Or at this age just try out lactose free and non-dairy milks to see how she feels.



That all being said some kids just need more contact with their parents. My son hated being put down as a baby. He loved to cuddle. He also refused to sleep in his crib. Now he's 8, going on 9, and quite secure and not the least bit shy. So I figure cuddling him a lot didn't hurt him one bit. And when it came to whining, I ignored it. Though not so easy to do with a 1 year old who doesn't talk yet, and you can tell to use their words. But as he got older I told him specifically that whining was a foreign language I don't understand and he has to be calm and talk clearly if he wants anything.

Charity_knox - posted on 10/21/2012

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http://www.livestrong.com/article/378083...



The allergy thing is probably a good thing to rule out if you have access to an allergist and the above article/link gives a bit of info. I have a few nephews that ended up having allergies to many foods and it took their parents a while to figure it out but the symptoms were not overtly obvious and much of the concern started with constant crying.



I remember with my first my MIL always told me "don't' hold that baby all the time you will spoil him" I know there is a balance and what works for one family may not work for another. But I hold my babies when they cry or fuss I figure God put a mothering instinct in us women to pick up your baby/babies when they cry for a reason and I had a hard time ignoring that instinct. One day they will not want to be held anymore and you might wish you could.

Charity_knox - posted on 10/21/2012

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No your not doing anything wrong. Some children just go through such a phase. Has she changed from breast-milk or formula to cows milk? Any changes in her BM's or diet? Just thinking of ruling out any allergies because the allergies signs aren't always brightly apparent. But often it could be teething or simply a phase. I have 11 month old twins my boy always wants to be held and sometimes I put him in a sling or carrier so I can attempt to accomplish something. My little girl is happy playing by herself and seems more independent and her brother would like to be attached to mom and often whines if mom is not in sight or holding him.

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FoxyMom - posted on 10/29/2012

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My friends child was similar and ended up having bad acid reflux and had to go on meds to control it. Maybe seek a doctors help and rule out any health concerns

Rachael - posted on 10/27/2012

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No, it's your baby's way of trying to communicate with you. I'm not sure how old she is, but all baby's need true quality attention- cuddling, talking, being held. If your baby is whining alot, it might be because the type of attention you give her is the wrong type of attention. True genuine attention that babies need are social and emotional interaction. Just being in the room with her and giving her a toy to play with on her own is not enough. A baby would rather be held and feel you than be given a toy to play with themselves with you in the room glancing the odd time at her.

All babies go through this. It is normal. If you can build her confidence by doing all you can in the first part of her life, she will enter the world confidently because of your help.

I know its a lot of work, but don't give up. The best things are never easy.



Does your partner help watch her so you can get some personal time for yourself so that you can take a break? In order to give her what she needs, you need to make some time for yourself as well. There has to be a balance in order to help her better. Keep at it, we all go through it. Just remember that giving her the attention she needs now, she will need less later and will do better in the world because you have given her confidence subconsciously.



Hope this helps.

Crystal - posted on 10/21/2012

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She does seem to have a seperation issue. With the allergies, when I was pregnant for some odd reason I became lactose intolerant and when she was born she always had to be on soy formula for about a month or so now we have ben trying to change her over to cow milk. How can we determine if she has an allergy to the milk?

She always had a puking problem after eating but since we've been using cow milk it's just awful when she pukes. The constant whining is just reall getting frustrating and my husband is very strict on holding her all the time; he wants her to be independant so we do the 'self soothing' and it just breaks my heart.

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