Is it normal I want to have another baby.
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Callie - posted on 01/14/2011
It's not unusual for women to start thinking about another baby and trying to decided how far to space children. My OBGYN recommended waiting 18month-2 years between pregnancies to allow the body to recoup. Just because you're BF doesn't mean you can't get pregnant. If you don't have a period you could still be ovulating and could get pregnant. But just because you have your period doesn't necessarily mean you are ovulating. Some women's bodies bounce right back into normal ovulation patterns and some women take awhile for their bodies to get back to normal hormonally. It all depends on how your body functions. I got my normal cycle back at 6 weeks even though I exclusively breastfed for 6 months and am still BFing at 14 months. It all varies.
Louise - posted on 01/14/2011
Many mums do have children close together so I can not see why not, but saying that your child is not up and walking around yet that is when the fun starts as they get into everything and you don't get a minutes peace. The adverage age seems to be a couple of years in between to give you chance of having some rest between a toddler and a new born. The decision is your of course but just consider how tired you are going to be.
LadyLu - posted on 01/13/2011
I would say so... I never wanted any, have one now & wanted more straight away.
Give it 8 months at least before you make that decision.... You'll be writing back within 6 months to thank me. It gets much more difficult when the sleeping stage stops trust me :)
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Dawn - posted on 11/04/2013
After I had my first child, my husband anxiously waiting for the 6 week period to be over so we could commence to having sex. The first time we did, I got pregnant. My children are 1 year, 1 week and 1 day apart. I actually didn't know I was pregnant until I went for a check up and almost fainted when I discovered I was pregnant again. Have to tell ya...wasn't too excited about being pregnant for like 2 years straight. BUT turned out to be the BEST timing. Both of my children grew up together, very close. When I was finished with diapers...I was finished. When I was finished with bottles...I was finished. Strollers, diaper bags, diapers...all that stuff ended around the same time. If I could do it over again, I would definitely have them close together again. It was a true blessing for me.
Alison - posted on 02/14/2011
Generally women are wired to be moms (no offense to the less maternal, I am referring to the majority). We are designed to crave a baby to hold in our arms. That is why, in my opinion, it is best not to make these decisions based solely on your feelings.
You need to give your body a bit of a break between pregnancies (minumum 9 months, but longer is better). The risk of miscarriage is actually higher than normal until 3 years after childbirth.
You will most likely be able to conceive once you start having a period again. However, some women do get pregnant before getting a period.
Congratulations on your bundle!
Erin - posted on 02/14/2011
It will be harder to get pregnant if you have not gotten your period yet. My baby was born in June '10 & I STILL haven't gotten mine. You also need to think about the fact that once you get pregnant your milk supply will go down. Will you be ready to wean by 6-8 months old? If not I would think about waiting til closer to a year..
It's all about what is important to you... how important is breastfeeding to you?
Blackwood - posted on 02/11/2011
Yes, of course you can get pregos. Don't think becuz you are breastfeeding you can't becuz you can. I know that most doc's will recommend waiting about a year and about 18 months with a C-section. However if you have questions you really should speak with your doc. Congrats on your baby!
Amy - posted on 02/03/2011
I have my youngest two 18 months apart.... it's exhausting for the first month or two, but it gets easier pretty quickly. I'm glad they're close in age, and we can be done having kids. It was hard on my body though... I don't know if it was really the best thing to do... although.. hehe, it def wasn't planned!
Adrienne - posted on 02/03/2011
I wanted another one pretty much right after my daughter was born...I loved being pregnant..but thought it would be wayyy too much. I was breast feeding also and on birth control that worked with breast feeding..my daughter weaned herself off right around 3 months due to my low supply and she liked the bottle better with how easy it was! I continued with the birth control but ran out and had to miss my appointment to get more...well low and behold here I am with a 7 month old and I'm 10 weeks pregnant! My husband and I are very excited but nervous at the same time....I firmly believe everything happens for a reason and can't wait to meet our second bundle of joy! Our daughter absolutely loves babies and other kids so I think she'll love having a new little one around! I say go for it when you feel ready and if it's meant to be it'll happen!!
Erin - posted on 02/02/2011
I felt the same and my son is now almost 8 months.my husband and I decided not to use protection and if it happens, then it happens. But now I'm starting to think that I want to wait because it could be really overwhelming to have kids so close in age. Plus my son doesn't sleep through the night and my biggest fear is that once one goes to sleep the other will be up and I will never get a break! So if anyone has any advice with having kids close in age, that would be very helpful too :)
Tara - posted on 01/16/2011
You can get pregnant much sooner than that. My OB told me that she had women come in for their 6 week checkup already pregnant again. I got pregnant with my 2nd daughter when my 1st girl was 9 months old. I did want more children, just not quite so close together. I'm not going to lie, having 2 under 2 and both in diapers is hard, not only in terms of finances, but just the amount of work needed. It is getting better now (my oldest will be 3 in March and my youngest 18 months in April), but the first few months will be difficult.
Krissy - posted on 01/16/2011
after I had my first I started wanting another one about 3 months later. That feeling never went away. We finally decided to have another one 3 years later. I don't have that feeling this time around:) You can get pregnant right after childbirth. It normally takes a few months though before your body is regular again and breastfeeding helps prevent pregnancy. They suggest waiting a year though before trying again so your body can fully recover. Good luck!
Aleks - posted on 01/16/2011
OMG! I was less than one week passed giving birth to my 2nd child and I was still oh so cluckee for another baby! When I already had one!!!
Then again I always wanted 3! Still havent got to the 3rd one yet, and my 2nd born will be 2 next month.
Don't rush pregnancies. It is very taxing on the body and even more so on the emotional stability of you, your baby and your husband, ie, your whole family.
Let things happen naturally. Once you get into doing things with this baby you will see how much more work there is as they grow older!
Good luck though
And in the end do what you feel is right for you and your whole family :-)
Rose - posted on 01/14/2011
Breastfeeding is not a form of birth control....I know 2 women who got pregnant with their 2nd child just six weeks after delivering their first :) and they were both breastfeeding. It's harder to be pregnant with a newborn: 1. because you are already tired to begin with when you are pregnant and 2. a newborn needs a lot of attention and you barely get enough sleep as it is.
If I were you I'd wait and enjoy your 1st baby for a while...once you have another you won't have the time to enjoy them as much. Good luck!
Bonnie - posted on 01/14/2011
It's normal. After I had my first, 6 months later I was thinking of another. By the time he was 12 months we tried. About a year after having the second, I again was thinking of another. My second child is now almost 2.5 and still haven't tried for a third, but that's my husband's doing lol. You can get pregnant while breastfeeding. I have heard of cases where couples have used breastfeeding as a form of birth control because they didn't think it could happen and then they got pregnant.
I think it's normal. I didn't want any children and after I had my son I am now saying I was 3 or 4. I would only say to wait until your son is 1 years old before getting pregnant again because it's better for your body and the next baby. also when you are breastfeeding you can get pregnant but it's highly unlikely.
Melissa - posted on 01/14/2011
Here is some research on your question..
• Timing pregnancies less than 18 mos. could raise the odds of the 2nd baby being born prematurely, at low birth weight, or small for gestational age, according Journal of the American Medical Association. Because the mother's body needs more time to recover from the stress and depleted nutrients of the first pregnancy; and because fertility gradually declines after a woman delivers.
• Waiting 18 to 23 months after the birth of your last child before conceiving another seems best for the new baby's health, according to the New England Journal of Medicine. Doctors found that babies conceived less than 6 mos. after the birth of a previous child are 40% more apt to be born prematurely or underweight.
• A study at the University of California found that babies conceived sooner than 24 mos. apart had a higher incidence of low birth weight.
• But in terms of relationships with parents, sibling rivalry, and the child’s self esteem the best time to have a 2nd baby is when your first child is over 1 year old since children under 1 don’t have a sense of their status yet they are less likely to resent a newcomer. This was found through a family study at the University of Tennessee.
Other things to consider..
How old are you? Do you and your partner both want another baby now? What is your financial situation? Do you have the time & energy? But most importantly do what your heart says :)
Talea - posted on 01/14/2011
It's normal, I always wanted as many as I could have but my body being what it is I've only been able to have 4 and each of them is about 5 years apart on average (the shortest is 4 years apart). Again not by choice and I've had three miscarriages. The decision is yours and your husbands. I know many families with kids back to back and they are all just fine and some of the happiest you can find. You and your husband know what's best for your family trust your instincts and go with it. :)
Sherri - posted on 01/14/2011
Please wait till your child is at least 10mo's old before you try and get pregnant again. Let your first child get to be a baby and enjoy you before they are forced to share you and be a big brother. Also if you wait at least till they are 10 mo's that would make the oldest 18mo's when the baby is born which will make them at least semi independent, which honestly will make your life with a newborn a little easier.
Sharon - posted on 01/14/2011
We had our son Oct 31st '09, we found out we were pregnant at the start of August '10, so our son was 9mths (planned, we wanted them 18mths apart).
Has your period come back yet? If it has it should be easier to be able to fall pregnant (tracking cycle etc), but if not you may not be ovulating yet.
It's tiring at the moment...26wks pregnant with a 14mth old who doesn't sit still for a second. I know it's going to have it's challenging moments when the 2 are here, but we're up for the challenge hehe :-D
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