Is it normal to be a demanding wife because now I am a mother and expect a lot from my husband? In a sense I feel guilty sometimes.

Laura - posted on 06/27/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I am blessed to be a first time mom, but being a stay home mom has never been as challenging as I thought it would be, giving the fact that I never been domestic, I have always remained proffesionally ocupied if not a full time student. So, really, coming from being an indeoendent woman to a stay home mom has been a challenge. All I want is what's best for my daughter and having my husband being the only provider for our home I can only imagine how difficult it can get, specially in times like these. Is it bad to expect him to help me just a little extra more when he's at home from work? I feel like I am putting more pressure than I should, but I have to be honest that by the end of the day, I am tired!

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Elfrieda - posted on 06/27/2012

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This is just a rough time in your lives, and it will pass with time. Blessed, yes, but also really hard. Yes, he needs to help you at home even though he's tired, because you're tired, too. It's just a tiring time, but it's not for very long. My son is two and life has been pretty easy (not compared to no child, but compared to a baby!) since he turned one. So you'll both have to work harder than you did before, but it's worth it. :) If you can both acknowledge that it's hard for the other person, you'll both feel appreciated and the marriage will adjust to the baby more smoothly.



We both had a hard time coming to terms with that fact (we like our leisure time, aka we're kind of lazy/low energy people) but as I said, it does get easier. Right now you just need to pull together and work hard and let some (or lots of) things slide. (an example: dust bunnies don't matter until your baby starts crawling around and eating them! Sometimes it's better to take that 10 minutes and both sit down with a mug of tea and chat and connect with each other instead of sweeping.)

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He may work full time, but so do you. Being a mom is a hard job sometimes, its demanding and tiring. Hes the parent too and he should be helping out after he gets off work.

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Laura - posted on 06/27/2012

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Elfreida thank you for the kind wise worse. I can't agree with you more! You're absolutely right and I know it seems difficult, but I'll be praying for patience and understanding. I only want to be a great mother & wife.

Laura - posted on 06/27/2012

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And he does one hell of a good job too but it is I who sometimes asks for more than what he can handle or do, which he has said it before, and that's why I ask myself this question, if I'm the only mother that demands so much? I think when you often hear that things always have to be 50/50 wether its relationship wise or in this case parenthood I feel like in the end, one has to do more than the other person at times. I just want to find a way to communicate better with him w/o me pointing fingers on who does what more. Definitely communication is key! Thanks Julianne!

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