is it o.k for 8 year old to be simple at heart and not manipulative and clever?

Veronica - posted on 11/26/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




my 8 year old daughter though very happy child simple at heart ..seems immature than other kids of her age who lies and manipulate the situation accordingly. i noticed the others make use of her simplicity by giving more task to her and often she left out and often make her fool and rule her. i m worried as i have no clue how to make my kid street smart and make her learn the ways of world..other than this academically she is good .but she seems to me more like a small child lesser than her age.


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Dove - posted on 11/27/2014




You definitely don't want her lying and manipulating. You also don't want to sit there and watch her get taken advantage of... but really all you can do about that is talk to her about specific situations and advise her on how to handle them.

My son is a softie and a sweetie (unless you push the WRONG buttons) and I have a hard time trying to advise him on standing up for himself w/out turning him into one of the bullies that he needs to stand up against.

So... good luck, I guess. lol

Michelle - posted on 11/27/2014




I wouldn't be wanting my child to be manipulative at all, that's not a nice trait.
All you can really do is encourage her to stand up for herself. Let her know that she doesn't have to do everything anyone else says (except for you). She is allowed to make her own choices and that if her friends don't like it then they aren't really her friends.

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