Is it ok for a 15 yo girl to date a 17 yo guy

Tinea - posted on 10/12/2016 ( 14 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 15 and will be 16 3 months she just told me about this guy she has been talking to for a while and now they claim to be bf and gf. The only problem is he is 17 yo and will be 18 in 2 months and has a car. I'm just worried about my "baby" being alone with an older guy. I knew this time would come, but I'm not ready and neither is my husband. Please help me with this issue as well as share some of your experiences with your teens.

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It depends on the boy, it's important to get to know him so you know his intentions. Also for her to be close to 16 makes it different, my daughter just turned 15 and I would not allow her to date a 17 year old only because she is still immature herself so it depends on the girl too.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/12/2016

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Don't jump into assumptions, as one response here has. Meet the young man. Outline expectations and rules for seeing your daughter.

I don't agree with exclusive dating at 15, but they can go in a group until she is 16.

To Nichole: thanks SO much for putting all young men under the same blanket of despicable behaviour. As the mother of two (now) adult sons, I can guarantee you that your description is the MINORITY of teenage boys. Stop making blanket assumptions about people you don't even know. Are you even a parent? Most parents understand how your blanket assumption is incorrect.

Dove - posted on 10/12/2016

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I'm not OK w/ dating at 15 (16 is fine), but that is only a 2 year age difference and really isn't a big deal. Get to know the guy for who he is instead of making a judgement about him just based on his age.

My daughters are only 14 (15 in December), so aren't dating yet, but they do spend a lot of time hanging out w/ guys... and most of the guys are older... and most are completely trustworthy. My daughters are not easily influenced and if a guy was into something 'shady' they'd be keeping their distance from him on their own.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/14/2016

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Do have to say...LOL..hubs has long hair, and I think it's sexy, as long as it is well cared for 😁

Tinea - posted on 10/14/2016

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Thanks Shawn! Yeah neatly cut hair and non-sagging pants is definitely a must with me!

Tinea - posted on 10/14/2016

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Thank you Scarlet. I did meet him once and plan on spending more time with him and my daughter before I let them go on a date alone, but the whole teenagers driving thing makes me really nervous. Maybe I'll have him drive me around a few times before I let him drive my daughter. I don't know! Ugh!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/13/2016

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Wait, he actually had on proper pants! A keeper! LOLTinea, I think you are handling things quite well!

Tinea - posted on 10/13/2016

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Hi Michelle, I guess your right 18/20 or 15/17 what's the difference! I have met him and does seem respectful, dressed neatly pants on his waist not sagging! Hair neatly cut! Both big plus for me! I plan to meet his mom soon. I'm just not sure when I can allow her to go with him in his car on a true date! I'm really struggling with that!

Tinea - posted on 10/13/2016

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Thanks Dove, I have really thought about this a lot! She will be 16 in 3 months and I believe she is mature enough to stay clear of "shady" activities. I have taught her well! Like I said I plan to me his mom to see how he was raised. This may be puppy love and may not even last long, but I can't restrict her because that would only lead to sneaking around. I feel like everyone needs to explore and learn from their experiences and hopefully make the right decisions and know right from wrong. Thank you for your post!

Tinea - posted on 10/13/2016

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Nichole I agree with Shawn I don't think all kids are that way! I raised my daughter to say NO to drugs and alcohol I have taught her how to not be influenced by her peers, but at the end of the day she will have some curiosity about things like we all did as teenagers. I do plan to meet his mother to see how he was raised and I'll just have to go from there I guess! I don't want to prohibit her from seeing him because then she will most probably sneak around and I want an open and honest relationship with her. This is a different world we live in and I guess I just have to trust her and trust that God will protect her. Thank you for your post.

Tinea - posted on 10/13/2016

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Thanks Shawn! I have met him and he seems like a very nice young man. He was neatly dressed and his hair was cut low like a young mans hair should be in my opinion lol. I plan to meet his mom at some point. And my husband is even open to meeting him. 😁 I'm just not ready for her to get in the car with him yet!

Michelle - posted on 10/12/2016

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I agree with Dove, meet the guy and give him a chance. Don't be so judgmental about his age.
He will probably surprise you and be a very respectable young man.
Also, a 2 year age gap is nothing, if your daughter was 18 and he was 20 would you still have the same concerns?

Nichole Character - posted on 10/12/2016

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She may be to young he is 17 your daughter is 15 he may try to get her into smoking drugs and drinking all the bad things tell her NO she'll be annoyed of course but he's 17 a 15 year old should not be seeing him

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