is it ok for mother and daughter to be pregnant at the same time?
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Anika - posted on 05/21/2013
I hope i dont sound mean by saying this, but it sounds as if this is an issue none of us have any business deciding for you. Insead of asking us all whether you should have another child or not you really need to be speaking to your husband. It really doesnt matter how many children you have or dont have and it shouldn't be a deciding factor as to whether you should have more. what matters is, can you give all the children you have plus one more all the love and attention they need, care and provide for them?
All that matters is if this is what you and your husband want and having a child shouldnt prevent you from helping your daughter with your grandchild, but that shouldnt come in replacement of having another
Danielle Elizabeth - posted on 05/21/2013
Felicity. It is fine to want to have your own baby hunny. It's sweet that your thinking of your daughter, but there is no reason why you can't both enjoy a new child. I'm sure you would be able to still help with her child since you have experience. Is your daughter upset at the idea? I'm not sure if your daughter is mad about it or if your just concerned on your own. If she's mad about it then that's very immature of her bc u cant stop your own life bc of a grown child
FELICITY ROSELEEN - posted on 05/20/2013
I think you misunderstood me what i'm saying is that my husband has two of his own children and i'm having three of my own none with my husband so i was saying for me to get pregnant and have a child would'nt be nice we could rather help my daughter with hers instead of having another one don't you think so. I need advice!
Enna - posted on 05/21/2013
I didn't have a baby at the same time as my mom, but she adopted a little boy who's 9 recently, and my kids are 6 and 13. I find myself giving my mom advice because it's been so long since she had a kid in her house. My kids think he's great. And it gives my mom and I a lot to talk about. I think if anything it has made us closer because we've had this experience together.I would be careful though because if they're the same age it's going to be difficult to keep from comparing them. Which one's bigger, which one crawls first, etc.
Sarah - posted on 05/21/2013
Aww that helps, Felcity. I would have to agree that this is something for you and your husband to decide. I think either way is good. If the two of you would like a baby go for it. If you guys would rather wait for grandchildren that is fine as well. There is no right or wrong. If the two of you are on different pages then that is something to talk about and work through.
Sarah - posted on 05/20/2013
Why would it not be ok?....Just so you could have help? That to me is selfish. My husband and I live 4-5 hours away from our parents. And the closest family member is 1 hour away and she has her own family. They are all willing to help if we ask, but we also know that they have their own lives and families. I have 3 kids and my husband and I juggle what needs to be juggled. We do many things as a family and work together as a team to get the things that need to be done done. I don't expect others to help with my family when they have their own to juggle. Both my older two kids play baseball/softball and play in band and my youngest is 2 yrs old. Each night we are at some ball field and often times spend our weekends there too with tournaments. Sometimes we are going two different directions so we can attend each child's events. To me that is what being a parent is. I am my kids' parent I don't expect others to do the parenting job that is my job. Help is nice and very much welcomed, but I do NOT expect it.
â« Shawnn âªâ«â« - posted on 05/20/2013
First of all, why WOULDN'T it be OK for that circumstance?
Second, who in the world would dictate to either party when they could or could not get pregnant? If it is the older woman (mother) dictating to younger that the younger cannot be pregnant at the same time, I'd have to tell that lady to take a flying leap, as she is not in control of the other body.
If it is the younger woman telling the older woman that she cannot be pregnant at the same time, the younger is being selfish in her own right.
~â¥Little Miss - posted on 05/20/2013
I don't think it would be fair for you to tell another women not to have a child because YOU may need help. You are the mother, the child does not need to help YOU. Also you could help eachother. You have already had at least 1 child, why should you tell her she cannot get pregnant cause you might have another one?
Danielle Elizabeth - posted on 05/20/2013
Sure it would be fair. There is no reason why you couldn't still help her and offer her advice. The babies would have play mates the same age which will be lots of fun for them while growing up. I see nothing wrong with it, but I would make sure to remember your daughter is having your grand kid and it's easy to forget that if your wrapped up in your own pregnancy. Just make her feel supported and loved and love those babies!!
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