is it ok for my ex husbands girlfriend to be teaching my daughter how to wipe her potty areas and giving her baths?

Holly - posted on 10/08/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )




My daughter is 2 years old and her dad has a new gf of a year now. I recently found out she is giving her baths and showing her how to wipe& potty(even though i have it covered) her father told me when i talked to him about it that I will just have to get over it! I dont know the girlfriend and her father refuses to let me meet her. HELP ME!!


Gwen - posted on 10/09/2012




I think you should consider yourself lucky that your ex has a girlfriend who obviously cares about your daughter and takes good care of her. Instead of worrying, you should have some peace of mind knowing that she is being well cared for when she is at her dad's house.

Holly - posted on 10/08/2012




Little miss... I dont think i would be ok with it either way it makes me uncomfortable that a women I dont know is doing those things with my daughter period. they only have her 2 days a week Im not sure why her father cant be responsible for her personal hygiene and not the girlfriend.

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Holly - posted on 10/09/2012




her father lived with his mother for a while and during that time his mother did everything when it came to katy and now that hes moved out with the gf hes having her do everything. i dont think that's responsible, If i knew her this would possibly be easier. But she has made comments saying how lucky she is to have such a beautiful daughter(my daughter). I don't think thats normal is it? keep in mind i have full custody and all rights i just allow her to visit him.

Nikki - posted on 10/08/2012




It would bother me if I hadn't met her. Honestly I wouldn't let me child stay with anyone who I hadn't met. But they have been together for a year, is the father responsible?

Michelle - posted on 10/08/2012




You have to look at it from his point of view I am sure she is doing it because if he did it all you could turn around and say he was abusing his daughter. You can't control what goes on at dads house nor does dad have to introduce you to his girlfriend that relationship is between him her and your child not you. A judge will tell you exactly what your ex did she is not harming your child she is continuing the potty training and for it to work consistency everywhere the child goes is necessary and dad does not seem to want to do it.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/08/2012




Hmmm....that would make me very uncomfortable. But what if it was his wife? Would you be ok with that?

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