Is it ok to be sad that I'm pregnant again?

Kim - posted on 07/13/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I just found out recently that I'm pregnant with my fourth child. I always have said I wanted for kids but my youngest is only 8 months old. I'm really sad and depressed about being pregnant. My husband is in the Navy and will be leaving a few months after the baby is born and I just don't think I can do it. Has anyone ever experienced these feelings or have any words of encouragement?

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Yes I know how you are feeling. I actually have four kids as well and I was pregnant with my fourth one when baby three was nine months old. I was worried and sad that he would have to grow up quicker than he should have to but it turned out great and they are like a set of twins now. It was nice to have all the diapers and stuff done at the same time. I could'nt have planned it better. You will adjust to the idea as time goes on. It will be okay. My thoughts and prayers will be with you!

Dorothy - posted on 07/13/2009

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No it is okay to feel sad especially if unexpected... But do not worry all will fall into place.

Tianay - posted on 07/13/2009

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I was not happy at all when I found out while my husband was very excited and happy. I work full-time and I'm in graduate school plus we have a 1 year old. Being pregnant was the last thing I wanted for myself at this point in time. Things have gotten a lot better now I can feel the baby moving and I got some nice sonograms. I know in the end things will work out for the best. I have great professors and a supportive husband. I just want to tell you that the feelings will pass eventually and do not feel ashamed for being honest with yourself. You are not alone at all! :)

Heather - posted on 07/13/2009

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my kids are 15 months apart. when I got pregnant the with my youngest I cried. it was too soon for me. its normal. pregnancy is beautiful and amazing but it is hard on the body.

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Heather - posted on 03/21/2012

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I am 8 months pregnant with my fourth and also not at all excited. My youngest is 1. Very depressed about the whole thing. I am uncomfortable and don't want to be pregnant anymore, but also don't feel ready to care for another human. I suck.

Kristy - posted on 07/13/2009

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Kimberly, I am right there with you. I am pregnant with my fourth child also and my youngest is only 10 months old. When I have this one, my son will only be 15 months old. I am not happy about it right now but I always say God doesn't give us anything we can't handle - I know this for sure!! Two of my children are special needs. My 9 year old has Autism, ADHD, a heart condition and severe asthma; my 10 month old is developmentally delayed & has severe allergies. I have now been told that there might be a problem with this baby that I am carrying. I am sad about all of this but I know I will get through this and you will get through it too. There are rough times ahead but all & any child is a blessing! Also, I did it by myself for many years until I found my husband! It's hard but you get through and you love them all the more for the struggles you went through with them! Like Dorothy Ann said - It will all fall into place.

Kelee - posted on 07/13/2009

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I have I am a mother of 5 but my oldest is a step-daughter when I found out I was pregnant for the 3rd time my baby was only 5 in a half months and then the 4th one came only 2 years later almost to the day. I was very depressed and overwhelmed and I felt horrible that I wasnt excited like the first and second one. It gets easier and you can do it my husband works such horrible hours he might as well been gone he was never home. Then one day you look up and they smile at you and the sleepless exausting days and nights make it worth it. Take one day at a time and enjoy it but dont forget to take moments for yourself if you think you are going to lose it. You need time so you can stay patient or it will just get to over whelming its okay to give yourself a time out too remember that hand the baby off and take time to yourself even if its an uninterrupted bath which is usually impossible.

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