Is it OK to give an adult child a chore list ?
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Lorraine - posted on 06/01/2015
If your adult child is living in your home, they should be contributing to the well being of that home. Even if they are paying rent. If you live on your own and pay your own rent, you still have to cook, clean, shop etc. Everyone in a home should contribute daily to the best of their abilities. No minimums here!
â« Shawnn âªâ«â« - posted on 06/09/2015
Well, our contract included amounts for rent and food, as well as outlined his responsibilities. As I said, he actually wrote it up, and his breakdown was 1/4 of the mortgage/rent, 1/4 of the food, as well as the days he would cook, and which chores were 'his'.
He came up with this on his own, by reading the ads for rentals, and helping us do the grocery shopping.
If you 'can't get her to see' the reality of the situation, then sit her down and make her do the math, using the ads for your area.
â« Shawnn âªâ«â« - posted on 06/08/2015
When my adult child lived in the home, he wrote up a contract, which we both agreed to. This included his responsibilities in the home chore wise.
If you do not have a similar agreement with your adult child, it is time to get one. They are no longer your 'child', they are an adult living in your home and should be contributing not only to expenses, but also household upkeep.
Bobmusicgirl4 - posted on 06/08/2015
YES. You were nice enough to let him/her live with you....now they need to return the favor! You can't just go through life expecting things to get handed to ya! That's the number one reason why most folks can't grow up and face adult life.
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Carmen - posted on 06/01/2015
Well she does pay rent 50 a week every now and then buys some groceries. Might clean up after herself here and there and if the other siblings are home she feels that they should be the only ones with chores because she already did her part growing up and I get so tired of argueing about that😔😔
Alice - posted on 06/01/2015
I'd say yes, it's right -- it's simply including your oldest in what the rest of the children in the family are doing. Giving her appropriately responsible tasks like managing entire groceries/shopping for the week, dropping off siblings at their classes, if she's allowed to drive etc. could be choices where she has some decision-making/responsibility while contributing to the family.
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