Is it OK to give an adult child a chore list ?

Carmen - posted on 05/31/2015 ( 15 moms have responded )

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My oldest child still lives at home and I want to make a chore list for the summer. Is it right to include her?

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Lorraine - posted on 06/01/2015

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If your adult child is living in your home, they should be contributing to the well being of that home. Even if they are paying rent. If you live on your own and pay your own rent, you still have to cook, clean, shop etc. Everyone in a home should contribute daily to the best of their abilities. No minimums here!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/09/2015

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Well, our contract included amounts for rent and food, as well as outlined his responsibilities. As I said, he actually wrote it up, and his breakdown was 1/4 of the mortgage/rent, 1/4 of the food, as well as the days he would cook, and which chores were 'his'.
He came up with this on his own, by reading the ads for rentals, and helping us do the grocery shopping.
If you 'can't get her to see' the reality of the situation, then sit her down and make her do the math, using the ads for your area.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/08/2015

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When my adult child lived in the home, he wrote up a contract, which we both agreed to. This included his responsibilities in the home chore wise.
If you do not have a similar agreement with your adult child, it is time to get one. They are no longer your 'child', they are an adult living in your home and should be contributing not only to expenses, but also household upkeep.

Bobmusicgirl4 - posted on 06/08/2015

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YES. You were nice enough to let him/her live with you....now they need to return the favor! You can't just go through life expecting things to get handed to ya! That's the number one reason why most folks can't grow up and face adult life.

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Carmen - posted on 06/08/2015

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She does pay some rent, but it's hard to get her to see that it's something she would have to do any way and more then what she pays now. That maid service is not incluided

Saijra - posted on 06/02/2015

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Yes I was still living with my mom up until January of last year i was paying 100 for rent every week and was helping buy food for the house cleaning and cooking and going to a cooking school

Misty - posted on 06/01/2015

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Yes, definitely include her. As an adult child living at home, I think lists and expectations make things easier. As long as the work is decided equally then there shouldn't be any issues 😊

Carmen - posted on 06/01/2015

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Well she does pay rent 50 a week every now and then buys some groceries. Might clean up after herself here and there and if the other siblings are home she feels that they should be the only ones with chores because she already did her part growing up and I get so tired of argueing about that😔😔

Alice - posted on 06/01/2015

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I'd say yes, it's right -- it's simply including your oldest in what the rest of the children in the family are doing. Giving her appropriately responsible tasks like managing entire groceries/shopping for the week, dropping off siblings at their classes, if she's allowed to drive etc. could be choices where she has some decision-making/responsibility while contributing to the family.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/01/2015

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Well, she should be paying rent or helping unless she is a full time student. School comes first in my opinion. BUT, she should be helping around the house regardless of paying rent or not.

Ledia - posted on 06/01/2015

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If she is paying rent, I'd say no. If she is living there rent free, or paying less than market value rent, I would definitely include her.

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