is it ok to not give my baby the fathers name if i am with him still?

Hayleigh - posted on 01/22/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )




So i am 15 young.. but don't judge. i am 17 weeks pregnant and have been thinking alot about the babys last name. I am still with the father and have been with him for two years but there is no guarantee that we will be together forever or even get married later cuz i odnt plan on marrying any time soon. so idk if i want my baby to have his last name. it will cause problems in school later on if i am not with him and he is not a part of its life (never know what could happen) if the baby does not have the same last name as its soul provider(me) . so it all just worries me and even if problems dont arise if nothing more comes of our relationship i want my baby to have the same last name as me. his name also has e very bad reputation... i did talk to a lawyer friend that said it would not cause any problems with child support or anything in that case if i resulted to that. but idk if its the right thing to do.. plus my mother is against it even though she will be ok with my choice in the end..i need opinions comments stories anything that will help me make the best decision for me and my child.


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~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/22/2013




Give the baby your last name and if you guys eventually get married you can change the babies name. You are still really young, and quite honestly the chances of you being together in 10 years, or even to the end of high school is unlikely. But hell, it has been done before.

Lacye - posted on 01/22/2013




You can still have the last name hyphenated with yours and your bf's last names. For example, I wasn't married when I had my daughter with my (now) husband. His last name is Byars and mine was Fly. If I had chosen to do this, I could have said I wanted my daughter's last name to be Fly-Byars or Byars-Fly. Either way, the child will still have both of your last names.

In the end, it's your decision. I could have chosen to go with Fly as my daughter's last name (my name is influential in the area I live in) but instead I chose to give her her father's last name. Any way you decide is going to be fine.

Anna - posted on 01/22/2013




Its your decision if you want your baby to have your last name.I was 18 when i got pregnant with my son my boyfriend where together for 4 months i didn't know if my baby should have my last name or his.I was very confused cause i didn't know what the future was going to bring us.So i decided give him a middle name starting with the letter of his last name.So his name is Rolando L. Rodriguez

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