Thobs - posted on 05/03/2013 ( 12 moms have responded )
I have no children of my own, but live with my 18 year old stepson and my husband as well as my late brother's son whom I am providing for. He is also 18. My stepson is sometimes very nasty to him and does not speak to him for the whole week. My stepson is very moody but expects everyone to be happy when he is. I am responsible for the school fees, uniforms, etc. and welfare of my nephew and my husband for my stepson. I do from time to time buy clothes for my stepson as well, even though he gets a clothing allowance from his father and a cell-phone allowance from me. I am very generous and does not hesitate to give both boys money for the movies or some spending money if they ask. Bottom line is, I try to treat my stepson well, but I have realised that he does not do his chores if he doesn't want to. Last Sunday he did not wash my car and I was very hurt and livid and have now decided that I am gonna make both the boys iron their clothes for the whole month. I am also not going to drive them to youth service at our church on Friday evenings for the whole month. Finally, I am withdrawing all the perks for the whole month. No cash for movies or parties. The reason why I have decided on the measures is that my interpretation is that these boys have an inflarted sense of entitlement especially my stepson as he also wants everything I buy for my nephew to buy for him, which is unsustainable as I would not have that kind of money) .Do you think this will work. My husband says he will support me but I have a feeling that I am being too hush. By the way, the helper normally does the washing, but I pay the help.