is it okay?

Jenifer - posted on 04/17/2012 ( 44 moms have responded )

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ive had my 1month old twins in a crib together since they were 2 weeks old and they dont really move about they just snuggle together with blankets rapped around them and i always thought that was fine untill my mother came round yesterday and said they should be in Moses Baskets ?

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Kate - posted on 04/18/2012

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I have eight year ol twins and they STILL sleep in the same bed and they STILL snuggle! There is nothing wrong with it! They are twins and need to stay together! It will do alot of damage to them if you try to separate them! Right now they are just babies and they are used to each other from their time in the womb! Your mother is wrong! They are fine the way they are! They've been together for nine months plus! It would just be cruel to separate them now! Hope this helps!

Nikki - posted on 04/17/2012

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It is ok, studies have actually shown that co sleeping twins can help them to regulate body temperature, sleep cycles and behaviour. It is not "recommended" after the babies start moving around (4-5 months) because, although I have never found any studies to prove this they say it may increase the instance of SIDS.



I know quite a few twins that still sleep together as toddlers and have never had any issues, but then as their mother you will be the best person to decide if co sleeping is suited for them and how long for. It's just important that you remember safe sleeping guidelines regardless of whether they are co sleeping or sleeping in a basket, always put them to sleep on their backs, no loose bedding, stuffed toys etc, ventilated room.

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Yeah, I say keep them together. It's a comfort to them to have each other. I don't have twins but it just makes sense to me that twins would be close and would like the continued closeness of each other. It's all they've ever known in their short lives and if it gives them comfort, then I wouldn't change it or move them apart.

I recommend instead of a blanket, use a sleep sack. That way they still stay warm but you don't have to worry about suffocation from blankets. Here's a link, in case you don't know what they are. They come in all sizes, colors and designs. During colder months, you just have to make sure they are sleeping in long sleeves because the sack doesn't cover their arms.

http://www.walmart.com/ip/Halo-SleepSack...

Jennifer - posted on 04/17/2012

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They don't need to be in Moses baskets if you don't want to put them in one. My twins slept in the same crib until they were at the point where they moved around too much and woke each other up. Their crib was also in my room, less than 3 feet away from me. When they started bothering each other, we brought in a second crib and put it right next to the other one. They would scoot to the side of their cribs to be close together and slept like that until they were 2 and went into their own room. Then their cribs were pulled apart from each other for a while, but they didn't like that at all. They are now 3 and in toddler beds, right next to each other. Every time we move the beds away from each other, they push them back, and more often than not, one of them climbs in with the other one to sleep. They are close, and they get comfort from each other. I see no reason to make them sleep apart at this time.

Terise - posted on 04/18/2012

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My twins slept in the same bassinet until they were six months old and then in the same crib until they were a year. We moved to two cribs, but they hated it. Even when they got toddler beds, we took the inside rails out and pushed the beds together.

Now the ladies are six, they have bunkbeds and refused to do anything but sleep together in the top bunk. They will tell me when they are ready to split up :)

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Carol - posted on 04/20/2012

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BTW, what was your mom's reasoning for having them sleep in Moses Baskets? Is she just against having the twins sleep together or or afraid of one smothering the other? Or is she of the belief that kids should be learning to separate at birth?
Or could it have been that she was she thinking that when they're napping they can be closer to you if they're in the baskets, which are much more mobile than a crib? Or is it family tradition? Just wondering.

Nancy - posted on 04/20/2012

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Yes, let them sleep together. My twins shared the same crib until about 6 months old, but now I wish I had kept them together longer. We had each twin swaddled separately. Even when we had put them to sleep in opposite ends of the crib, they would somehow wiggle and always end up next to each other, even when completely swaddled. Be very careful that they don't become entangled up in their blankets though.

Carol - posted on 04/19/2012

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Babies need to snuggle so if they aren't with you why not be snuggling with each other? My mom and I had some differing ideas but I just went with my instinct.

Ellie - posted on 04/19/2012

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Yes, I have triplets and even though they all had their own crib I kept them all together until they started running out of room!

Wendy - posted on 04/19/2012

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My twins slept together until they were crawling. I switched them to different beds when I discovered that one twin would climb on top of the other twin, and they would both continue sleeping. It looked so uncomfortable to see her on her sister's back. I witnessed this several times. My twins are six now. They still sleep in the same room, and they still like to sleep together. They have separate beds, but they like to sleep together when they get the chance. I used blankets for mine when they were babies. I also slept them on their bellies because they were refluxers. The back sleeping position doesn't apply for refluxing babies. I was more relaxed because they weren't my first children.

Missy - posted on 04/19/2012

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My now 9 year old twins slept in the same crib until at least 6 months - their own cribs until about 3 when they each got their own toddler bed. But guess what, neither of them would sleep in the toddler bed alone. I always found them together in the morning and now they share a queen sized bed because that's still their preference.

Cherie - posted on 04/19/2012

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Agree with whats been posted. If your concern is them getting cold, put them in an extra onsie or bunny suit/sleep sack. For every layer you wear put an extra one on them. My twinsslept together till about 4-5 months. They would move about the crib while sleeping and wake each other up. Even if I put them at opposite ends of the crib they would find each other.

Yes and mine went from womb to room.. Mine still sleep separately and know when the other is not in their bed and cant sleep. My boys are fraternal.

Chloe - posted on 04/19/2012

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Mine slept together until they started moving heaps. About 5 months. Then we separated them and went through about a year of barely any sleep. they are now nearly two and have their toddler beds pushed together and sleep cuddling. I figure its okay if we are all getting a good nights sleep and theyll let me know when they are ready to sleep apart

Judi - posted on 04/19/2012

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In Europe they use something called a sleep sack. It's basically a sleeping bag that you put on like a shirt. We still use one for my 2 1/2 YO and it's amazing. It's part of the bed time routine (night and nap) and he knows the sleep sack signals bed time. You can find them in North America as well -although bigger ones are harder to find. I highly recommend them!

Alycia - posted on 04/19/2012

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I have twin daughters. They were born @ 32wks so they were in the NICU for a month then they came home on apnea monitors for the 1st 2mons after they were out of the NICU. When they were in the NICU they were in their separate beds (oh the joys of wires!) but when we brought them home we ended up putting them in a pack-and-play together 24/7!!! Let me tell you, they loved it, they did really well staying together (like they were in the womb). We let them stay together in the pack-and-play, swaddled, unswaddled, dressed, diapers, naked, all sorts of ways!, and if they weren't together at night they didn't seem to mind. At 4mons we did put them in their own cribs, they were off their monitors and it did make it easier to leave them in 1 bed together not only for comfort but when the monitors would go off or needed changing it was easiest to keep everything together in 1 spot. So I wouldn't worry about it. They are the best of friends and I really feel like their experience was best for them. They are still in cribs @ 2yrs old but I imagine once they get into toddler beds they'll want to sleep together again, and that's fine. If that's what it takes to get them to go to bed I'm all for it! Best of luck!

Hiba - posted on 04/19/2012

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Well both of my singletons co slept with me, on midwifes advice for the eldest cos he had major separation anxiety...at 6 and 3.5 they still often snuggle up together...crib sharing twins sounds perfect to me, warmth, comfort and security :) how many mammals leave their young to sleep alone or seperate their litters? Thats what we are, mammals, and we all need comfort and security :) just make sure they don't overheat...like other posters have said, invest in some grobags :) I recon your bubs will grow to be confident, secure and happy people if you continue to give them what they need, just as you are doing now :)

Hiba - posted on 04/19/2012

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Well both of my singletons co slept with me, on midwifes advice for the eldest cos he had major separation anxiety...at 6 and 3.5 they still often snuggle up together...crib sharing twins sounds perfect to me, warmth, comfort and security :) how many mammals leave their young to sleep alone or seperate their litters? Thats what we are, mammals, and we all need comfort and security :) just make sure they don't overheat...like other posters have said, invest in some grobags :) I recon your bubs will grow to be confident, secure and happy people if you continue to give them what they need, just as you are doing now :)

Kirsten - posted on 04/19/2012

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Mine were in one cot until the were 5 months old. They slept better this way. They were two months prem and looked too little in their own cots! Good luck with it. Follow your gut:)

Teresa - posted on 04/18/2012

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I also have twins, and when they were a month old they also slept together in the same crib. They need more heat and it is a good way, becausae they cuddle up as you have said they give eachother heat. PERFECT!!!!!!!!!!!

Kellie - posted on 04/18/2012

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I didn't move my twins into separate cribs until they were over 6 months old.....that is when they started to sit up and really move around. They even shared a cradle for the first month or so beside my bed. Make sure that the blanket is out of the crib, though. Just dress them in blanket sleepers when it is cold and something a little lighter when it warms up. They really want to be beside each other....it comforts them.

Wait until you hear them talk to each other when they are older! It is hilarious, even though you can not understand them! Mine have been 'tight' all their lives and included a little brother into their bond when they were 2..... We lost the boy twin at 25yrs but that bond is still working for the girl twin, almost 31yrs now, and her younger brother, 29yrs!

Keri - posted on 04/18/2012

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I have a twin sister and my mom said we always shared the same crib. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that, in fact, I think it promotes the bonding between them. We are still close to this day, 44 yrs later!

Mazy - posted on 04/18/2012

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Maybe your mom meant that they should be in baskets/bassinets because they are smaller & cozier, not so much that they need to be separate. I know both of my boys slept in a bassinet until 6 months, then moved to a crib. I say if they are sleeping fine in the crib together, then let them be.

Mary Pat - posted on 04/18/2012

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We put our twins together in a crib at first, they seemed to sleep better and longer. Once they were about 3 months old we put them in their own cribs. They are 14 years old now. Good Luck!

Sylvia - posted on 04/18/2012

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I think you should let them keep sleeping together and take lots of pictures, because I bet it's the cutest thing ever :)

Sherri - posted on 04/18/2012

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Sure why not and the blanket isn't a problem. All my kids slept with blankets since the day they were born including my 9wk old son.

Deanna - posted on 04/18/2012

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My twin girls slept together in the same crib until they were a year old. Then they got there own beds. Still to this day, we find them sleeping together . They are 7 now. The blanket I would get rid of though.

Belinda - posted on 04/18/2012

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Your babies spent 9 months together in your womb and are comforts by the others presence. Unless they disturb each others sleep, let them be together. They'll be happier and more content. You'll know when it's time for separate beds. Trust your mothering instincts.

Shaina - posted on 04/18/2012

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My twins slept together until they were 8 months old but they were late to crawl and sit up/ pull up so maybe 6 months would be a good time. After that they start messing with each other too much. Mine liked to sit on each others head :-/

Regina - posted on 04/18/2012

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I am an identical twin. Remember, we are in out mothers womb the first 9 months of life. We depend on each other for comfort and security for the rest of our lives. Yes there is a connection with mom, but not like the twins bond. I don't recommend separating them.

Amy - posted on 04/18/2012

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I had my twins together in a crib until they were 5 months old. My pediatrician encouraged it. I didnt have loose blankets, but I did swaddle them or have them in halo sacks. When they were little they slept better that way. By about 5 months they started waking each other up and we moved to mini cribs that were side by side. Good luck!!! By the way, you will sleep again -- I promise!!!

Linda - posted on 04/18/2012

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My twins slept in the same crib intil they were about 6 months of age. At this time they were spending more time playing together then sleeping. Your kids your rules!!

Sarah - posted on 04/17/2012

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They're fine in a crib together. Putting twins down together is important actually, good for you for snuggling them together. Congratulations!

Dove - posted on 04/17/2012

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Totally ok for them to bed share unless/until it starts disrupting their sleep.

Tamika - posted on 04/17/2012

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I do not see anything wrong with them sleeping together. My twins slept in the same crib until I put them in toddler beds.

Krista - posted on 04/17/2012

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It's fine for twins to sleep together -- after all, they used to be womb-mates! (Sorry for the pun).

If you're worried about them getting cold with no blanket, you can put warm sleepers on them, or put them each in a gro-bag or a sleep-sack.

Nikki - posted on 04/17/2012

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You can wrap them in a blanket or wrap (individually), here is a link the Australian SIDS website that teaches you how to wrap safely. You would need to wrap them individually and ensure that they are not too warm. But yes loose blankets over the top of babies is a big no no. Have a look through this website they have some great info.

http://www.sidsandkids.org/safe-sleeping...

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/17/2012

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I would do away with the blanket. That can get them caught up in it and suffocate them. They may not be moving around much now, but all of a sudden they will without warning. Get that blanket out of the crib!

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