Jennifer-heasley - posted on 11/24/2013 ( 8 moms have responded )
I don't know if I handled this right and I just need advice. I have my three kids (4yr, 3yr, 1yr) Monday-Friday, their dad has them Saturday and Sundays. It has been this way since we separated in April. This week my youngest had a cough, a really bad cough. I took her in and found out that she had croup ( http://kidshealth.org/parent/infections/... ), a very mild case of it. My kid's dad is always a very nervous individual and so I sent him a very long text explaining exactly what she had and how we were to deal with it, hoping he wouldn't get upset and have a panic attack (that isn't slander, he has a history of anxiety) and he seemed fine. I drop the kids off with him at 8am on Saturday and I get a call at 10am saying that his girlfriend, whom he lives with, will not allow my children into their apartment because she thinks that my youngest will infect her children (13yrs, 8yrs, 2yrs no history of serious illness) and she doesn't want to deal with that, so I have to pick up the kids after I get off work and take care of them, since he had nowhere to take them. I told him that was his time and that during similar times (needing to take the 3yr to the er and hoping for him to watch the other kids) he informed me that was inappropriate to ask. I got ahold of him mom and was able to convenience her to allow him and my children to stay there until they were able to be picked up by me or allowed back into their father's house but that whole night I received texts saying I was a bad, uncaring mother from him and his girlfriend. So I just want to know, did I handle that okay? Should I have just taken them? I feel guilty for not taking them because it wasn't that I wanted to miss out on time with them, I just didn't want to have this be a continuous issue.