Mariah - posted on 03/13/2013 ( 19 moms have responded )
I've been involved with my bf for two years now. His son was 3 when I met him(5 now) and called me mom a couple of times by accident and I corrected or he corrected himself I'm not sure. 2 years later and his mom is a deadbeat she gets him every other weekend and owes around thousands in child support and has never helped with anything and also has made up lies and manipulated her child- IN FRONT OF US! telling him she was going to get papers to take him away from his dad. Anyways, she's just crap honestly (of course I do not say that to the child!!) At what point, if at all is it okay for him to call me "mom" we have full custody and his father and I always take care of everything he needs. If he calls me mom, should I correct it? should I just say, thats okay you can call me mom, some people have two moms? what do I say and what do I do? I know 2 years doesn't seem long, but I have no doubt these two are the loves of my life and I want to be with them forever, and I've already been through hell and back with the ex being a crazed, manipulative, liar who is also mentally and financially unstable(personally, it is not healthy for the child but being as she will only see him 4 days a month..) also, in this case that she TRULY is mentally and financially unstable how much do you think this will affect the child throughout his life :/ she also misuses drugs,moves around a lot with diff men, and is basically WORTHLESS(I know its still his mom, though) but my biggest concern is she truly truly has something wrong in her head. Some sort of behavioral/emotional/personality disorder ... How do you think this will affect the child? Is there anything wrong with him calling me mom if I explain some people have two and daddy and I take care of him, etc? if he accidentally calls me mom, just say that's okay he can call me that because I kinda am like a mom to him?