is it okay for the school nurse to question the medications my daughter takes

Beth - posted on 10/28/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Recently I was called by the school for my daughters cough (she's asthmatic since 2010) they asked if I had been late with medication and of course my answer was no. But I was also told that the health tech said her pill (singulair) should take care of the cough. I told them to give her 2 puffs of albuterol and call me in an hour. Well, in an hour she was doing much better. Fast forward to 1:00 that afternoon it had been 4 hours since albuterol was taken and she was coughing again. I was asked did I want them to give inhaler again or did I want to pick her up. I went and picked her up and while talking with the teacher's aid she said the health tech had said that liquid zyrtec worked for her child. I informed the TA that my daughter had her zyrtec the night before and then I was questioned if it was liquid or not. Yes, it is liquid. This is the same health tech that when I tried to speak to her at the beginning of the year about my daughter's condition she rolled her eyes at me. My daughter goes to a very good pediatrician and also is seen by the chief pediatric pulmonologist at our local Nemour's clinic. I am going to make an appointment with the principal because I feel I have been accused of not treating my daughter's condition properly at home, and I feel like the health tech had no right to give medical advice when I clearly wrote all her medications down on a form at the beginning of the year. Any thoughts on this situation are appreciated. my daughter is in the VPK program and she will continue her school career at this same school until 5th grade. I feel I need to get a handle on this as soon as possible.

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Beth - posted on 10/29/2013

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Thank you for the advice. This is my first child in school and so I wanted to get some opinions and advice. I think the best route is to make an appointment with her and discuss what the doctors have said. I know that my daughter's asthma is mild with moderate allergies. But, again she is my child so of course I feel the need to swoop in and fix anything. She is only 5 so she still doesn't get that there are things she needs to watch for, again thank you both for responding, I will keep a level head and be positive.

Angelique - posted on 10/29/2013

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Alright, first, it sounds like the nurse is not questioning your parenting. There is a fair amount of stress involved when the school calls home more than once about a health issue. Whether in a doctor's office OR in a school nurse's office, the nurse is going to ask several questions of the parent. It is not an accusation. It is pretty much the first steps in triage- assess the situation. Remember, just like in the doctor's, it is up to you to ask questions of the nurse, too. Was my daughter exposed to something new today? Were new cleaning products or paints or anything else that may cause irritating dust or fumes used in or near the classroom? Go over the list of allergies and asthma irritants with the school nurse. Ask the nurse if anything else may have triggered these events such as were other kids in the class recently sick or did maintenance recently change the hvac filters. Next, I would go over with the nurse the procedures listed by the physician such as the use and frequency of the rescue inhaler and when it is appropriate to use. Do this with a smile and not as if you are on the witness stand. You are not. Remember too that the school nurse is not ONLY in charge of the health and safety of your daughter, but also of the whole school including some kids with significantly more difficult medical issues to manage. IOW, a school nurse sees more patients in a day than most nurses who work at a doctor's office. If it seems like she has some kind of attitude, it is very likely it is not about your daughter (in fact, the comment made about the zyrtec, you got second hand, so you are not really sure HOW she said anything). If you are very stressed about this, still, my next suggestion would be to ask your daughter's doctor to write a letter outlining the treatment he has prescribed for your daughter, and give the school and the nurse a photocopy to keep in your daughter's records. If you approach this calmly (the beginning of the school year is a hectic time for "conversation"-- next year, see if you can make an appointment to talk with the nurse for 15 minutes on a day BEFORE school is back in) and with a smile, the nurse will better understand your daughter's situation and will also understand your dedication to your daughter's health. From then on, there should not be any more bad feelings. However, making a complaint over feelings and not actual instances of abuse or neglect or malfeasance to anyone in authority WILL escalate this, and not in a way that will make things better for anyone, particularly for you or your daughter. Right now, I would look at the feelings you have about the nurse as the result of a stressful day. It is time to move forward with a positive approach that will keep this from happening in the future and also reduce EVERYONE's stress. :) Good luck.

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Actually, the school nurses are Nurse Practitioners, and they are trained to give medical advice. Remember, not all students in public schools have the benefit of seeing great doctors--many lack insurance and don't even get their yearly well visits from a basic pediatrician. Part of the Nurse Practitioner's job is to make sure that parents are informed. In your post, it doesn't sound like she was accusing you of not treating your child, it sounds like she was suggesting a treatment option you may not have known about.
If she were accusing you of mistreating your child, you would know it--there would be school officials involved.
All in all, she tried to give you some helpful advice, and you already knew what she was telling her, so you're going to the principal (who is not even over the nurses, so I'm not sure why you went that route) to get her in trouble. What are you hoping to accomplish with these actions? How will spending your valuable time on this benefit you?

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