Is it okay to care of your husband bastard child?

Violet - posted on 11/11/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )

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It's twenty years since I got married, I ve been getting rumours about my husband cheating on me, I've even met some of these girls. He is over too protective to me I thought it was love but I've come to learn that he was trying to hide his secrets, he keeps secrets, have private phone calls, pretends that he is doing the laundry but he is chatting with his misses. Yesterday I got a call that he have a baby girl who is in year seven, I feel very week, and vulnerable I haven't talked to him and he doesn't know that I have these news, at the moment too much evil is cooking in my mind I don't know what to do.

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Candace - posted on 11/11/2015

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Thanx for the advice. But he really isn't a jerk. He was one hellava asshole before we got married but its just tht one thing between us. I love him i really do. Hes the only man i want to be with but at the same time i hate him with all that iv got.

Raye - posted on 11/11/2015

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Candace,
During the divorce, you should get custody established for you and visitation for their father. File for child support. Tell the children that mommy and daddy can't live together any more... that you will be a better mommy and daddy if you don't live together. I forget their ages, but if they keep asking why, just say that that's the way it is sometimes. Don't bad-mouth their father. They will learn on their own that he's a jerk.

Candace - posted on 11/11/2015

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My husband is the only person I'm having sex with I don't intend on having any more children. What do I tell my girls when I leave their father? Iv never cheated on him before, even tho I wish I had before I married him. Maybe then I would have been able to cope with what he has done. We're drifting apart and maybe that will give me the courage to leave him. We fight more than we laugh. I just don't have the energy to compete with his ex no more.

Raye - posted on 11/11/2015

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Candace,
You should not hi-jack someone else's post to get advice on your situation. You should create a new post for you so as not be confused with whom the advice is meant for ... you or the original poster. And just the fact that you mention a fortune teller makes me unable to take you seriously at all. My advice to you, Candace, get rid of the lying, cheating asshole you married (even though you knew better), stop having sex with losers and stop having babies.

Dove - posted on 11/11/2015

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I would not stay w/ him w/out some serious counseling for both of you... but if, by some miracle, I DID stay in that marriage... of course I would care for his child. It's not the child's fault.

Raye - posted on 11/11/2015

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If he is cheating on you, then he has no respect for you, and that is not a good basis for a marriage. If you're going to forgive the cheating, that would be stupid, but that's your choice. He should be able to have a relationship with his biological child, and if you are going to stay married to this asshole, then that means that the child will be in your life, too. So, you should not punish that child because of your husband's choices. It's hard to compartmentalize your feelings like that, though, and easy to find yourself angry at that innocent child. My advice is leave and don't look back.... and/or get some counseling for yourself to better cope with your husband's lying and controlling and how this new turn of events will impact your life.

Paige - posted on 11/11/2015

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Don't blame the child for starters! Two sit your husband down and talk to him bout it stay as calm as u can. See what he has to say for himself. Then act on what he said.

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