Is it possible that my baby is someone elses?

Kayelei - posted on 03/17/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )




My bf and I have been together for 2 yrs and he was being really awful to me so I slept with someone else but that person did not ejaculate and it was only that one time because I felt horrible but I became pregnant around that time give or take a couple weeks because it is never exact. But I was also still having intercourse with my bf on and around that time...who is more likely the father? Please help I am so upset and confused.

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Robert - posted on 05/18/2014




If you didn't tell him it could be someone else's child already.. I would because if I were I his shoes and it wasn't my child I wouldn't support it and I would leave you immediately. Cheating goes both ways and your relationship is based on a lie.

Tah - posted on 03/17/2010




he doesn't have to had ejaculated for you to get pregnat..better get him and get a test...

Dana - posted on 03/17/2010




Are you sure he can't ejaculate because that just sounds like something some guy says when he doesn't want to wear a condom. "oh, don't worry about getting pregnant, I can't ejaculate..."

Good luck, but honestly, I think you should talk to your boyfriend before hand, that would be really awful for him to find some other way than you telling him.

Iridescent - posted on 03/17/2010




Only time will tell. Unfortunately, unless you have an amnio and compare paternity, there is no other way to tell prior to the birth. Even if you did, and it wasn't his, you'd have absolutely no way to hide the fact after the results are in if it's not. So I take it you have no intent to discuss this with your boyfriend at all? That does make it hard to base a relationship on, even if it is his baby, and can be a major issue in the future. Would you want him hiding a pregnant girl from you just because the baby "might" be his? I think you'd want to know (just because I would if it were me).

Congratulations on your pregnancy, and I hope you enjoy the baby regardless.

Kayelei - posted on 03/17/2010




Thank you guys but my bf is honduran and the other guy is caucasian so it will be a definite problem...and noticeable...i want it to be my bfs and idk how fertile the other guy is he is on those meds that they give trauma patients from iraq....he cant ejaculate due to the meds and he only has two kids and one of them took a while to conceive....the baby isnt here yet this could ruin everything i have

Carolee - posted on 03/17/2010




Pre-cum has sperm. It depends on how fertile that other guy is. If he's like my husband... he's been tested, and his pre-ejaculation ooze has about as many sperm as a typical guy's regular cum. Right now, anything's possible. Pay attention to who your child looks like more. Look at baby pictures... that's the best way to see similarities... but it's NOT a guarantee. The only way you're going to be sure is to have the child's DNA tested against both men.

Amanda - posted on 03/17/2010




it seems more likely that it would be your BFs, however there is a possibility that it is the other guys..... there is the pre-ejaculatory fluid that can contain sperm, and in turn result in pregnancy. the only way to truly know is paternity test

Cynthia - posted on 03/17/2010




Even if he didn't ejaculate, there's still the pre-ejaculation that is only a small bit but can still work. I'd have them tested if it is a big deal.

Jackie - posted on 03/17/2010




If he didn't ejaculate its possible that you got pregnant by your BF. I would talk to the baby's dr or your OB dr if you haven't had your baby yet and see if there is some kind of testing they can do.

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