Is it possible to avoid tantrums from not getting to play with children who come to front door?

Morgan - posted on 12/11/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




My daughter is only 2 1/2 so of course she has to have constant supervision. When older children knock on our front door to play it doesn't always work out for me to drop everything so I can supervise another child. When I have to tell the child at the door "no" my daughter starts crying and throwing a fit.

I don't know how to handle this. It's actually only one kid that comes over everyday after he gets out of kindergarten. He knocks on the door for over ten minutes while yelling for me or my daughter. He even looks in through the windows. If I have to leave he wants to know where I'm going and what I'm doing. Last time I went shopping and had one of the bags outside with me and he proceeded to go through all of my purchases.

I don't want to be mean to him in any way. I just don't know how to handle this situation. Perhaps I can make a schedule for him to play with my daughter? Like twice a week for an hour?

I hope I don't sound like a mean person I just don't know what to do.


Rebekah - posted on 12/11/2012




Where is this kid's mother? I don't know the layout of the neighborhood, but I'm kind of surprised that a mom would just let her kindergartener go and initiate a playdate (everyday? Does she really think that's ok?). I wouldn't have my kid doing that, but maybe that's just me. Perhaps you could talk with his mom and let her know that your daughter (and you) would do better with pre-planned times (or a set day each week like you suggested) and could she call instead of letting her son just come over. My kid would be bummed too. And I really wouldn't want a kid yelling on my doorstep or looking in windows to see if I'm home. Sounds like he could use his mom's assistance anyway to teach him some proper etiquette! :) If you explain to the mom about how upset your daughter gets, that should be enough reason for her to rein her son in without having to be unkind about his boisterous approach. Time to set limits, and start with the mom.

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