Is it really a weird name?

Angelina - posted on 03/28/2012 ( 76 moms have responded )

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My daughter is named Xoe Elizabeth Haley. Her last name is Haley, it was her biological fathers last name. Xoe pronounced Zoey, was a unique spelling to a verry common name. I had never found a girls name that started with an "X" that was never pronounced even close to how it looked. I wanted to have her name be unique but not to the point that she would later be made fun of. I was in a tank top and i have my daughters name tattooed on my upper back so it was visible and a lady asked what it was, i told her it was my daughters name then told this lady my daughters whole name. She said that it was so weird and then asked if i was drunk or on drugs when i picked it. and went on to express that i had to be out of my mind for wishing a "terrible fate of teasing" on my daughter. so is Xoe Elizabeth Haley really such an odd name?

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Katherine - posted on 03/28/2012

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No. You just spelled it differently and that woman was totally out of line!

Natalie - posted on 03/29/2012

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My daughter was named by her father (RIP) and he put the letter "z" in all his kids names. He had 3 children from his first marriage. He named her Natazha pronounced the same as Natasha. I've had teachers actually tell my daughter to just use the "s" instead of the "z" because it is less confusing. One of her preschool teachers had her writing her name with the "s" and she came home crying because she wouldn't let her spell her name the right way at school. How much more ridiculous can someone get. I agree that it is not the usual spelling, but it is the way it is spelled and I find it very rude of anyone telling my daughter her name is spelled wrong. It's wrong of anyone to tell you what to name your child and completely wrong to teach them to spell it their way so it's less confusing.



I think Xoe Elizabeth Haley is a beautiful and unique name and don't think she'll be teased at all about it. I was told the same about Natazha and have never heard of her being teased about her name and she's in 3rd grade now. Some of her classmates have far more "unique" names than hers. Some are pretty hilarious, but who would actually say something about it to them or their parents. Some things are much better left unsaid. Some people have no class at all.

Sal - posted on 03/29/2012

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i have seen and heard far worse, i probally would of though zoe anyway as x can have the z sound like in xilohone....i can go with her saying it is weird, but i might of chose unusual not weird, but the rest of her outburst is just rude....i'm not really a fan of wierd names but i kind of like it..

Sequoyah - posted on 05/25/2014

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oh sweety, I'm so sorry you had to go thru that!! what a wretched person she is!
Pay no mind to her. The name you chose, & the spelling you chose is Beautiful because it came from You & Your Heart. You are also fortunate that you have such a Lovely last name, Haley, GORGEOUS!!
If someone begins a verbal attack on you, walk away quickly. Only remember the Positive :) I am going to try to send you a hug again, as it didn't work the first time!
All my Love, muahhzzz ♥

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Just promise you'll refrain from getting angry at people if they mispronounce it. I deal with parents and their unique baby names all day and I really get tired of the offended mommies when I can't for the life of me figure out how to pronounce their kid's name.

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Mexi - posted on 09/11/2012

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I think it is pretty cool! It is different but nice. Like some other people who have commented, That lady had no right to say it was weird! I have always liked the name zoe but it is very popular like you said.

My brother's name is Steele. It was different but strong too.

I love your idea!

Kagisho - posted on 04/03/2012

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If you're worried about her being teased when she grows up you might consider changing it or give her that option if she feels she want to. Kids can be cruel but again she may be a resilient kids who doesn't have self esteem issues she might not mind a little teasing and she might appreciate it. When she's older. I think it's cute and unique to spell it that way (never come across it before).

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Explain to me how you can allow a total stranger to make you feel bad? I am a fair skinned hispanic and chose to give my daughters very old fashioned traditional spanish names; Leyda Edita & Lourdes Abigail. When the few people who have made negative comments about my girls' names, I have told them, "Well aren't you lucky you get to name your own children" and I walk away. Xoe is a great name and the spelling is fantastic! Elizabath brings to mind Queen Elizabeth the First and Haley is just such a fun name! You need not make explanations to rude people about your choice of naming YOUR children.

Dawn - posted on 04/02/2012

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Xoe is a beautiful name. That woman must never have learned manners, and I'm so sorry she said such rude and hurtful things to you.

Francine - posted on 04/02/2012

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Your daughter's name is not unusual just the way you decided to spell it, besides being a different way of spelling it was there any other deciding factors that made you decide that's the way we're going to spell her name? I took my husband's surname (Prevost and the last 2 letters are silent) when I married and we spell it with no accent but I'm always reminding people how to spell my name correctly, especially my sons' schools. I do understand parents wanting a different name or different spelling for their kids' names but parents also have to remember their child has to live the rest of his/her life with that name and it does get frustrating when people don't know how to spell or even pronounce it.

Diane - posted on 04/01/2012

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I love that name, I am Deaf and right away I knew it sounded like Zoe(y). The lady who asked you...probably jealous she never thought of such a name herself heh. Unfortunately, there are people in this world who have nothing better to do than make snide remarks. What goes around comes around, somehow, some day, she'll get something back to her.



My daughter's name is Zaria. We get a lot of compliments on her name because it's unique however the only problem we have with her name is how people pronounce it. It's supposed to sound like Z-Aria, but instead people pronounce it like ZAR-REAH. Although she's only 2, she responds to both. My little one's name is Katelyn and I do get comments like "it's so different, kinda hard to spell, why didn't you just stick to KAITLYN?" They're OUR daughters and WE picked these names because WE like them. Who cares what other people think!?! I tell people that we are the ones who have to live with calling and spelling their names.....if they don't like it....TOOO BAD!!! Each girl was given their names for a reason. Bottom line is...as long as YOU are happy with the name and spelling, Xoe will learn to like her name too :)

Amy - posted on 04/01/2012

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My stepdad is a teacher and one of his fellow teachers had a kid in his class named Shithead.pronounced shitheed really odd yes but i do no think Xoe is odd

Hannah - posted on 04/01/2012

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firstly, it is non of this lady's business what you name your child. secondly, how horribly disrespectful and down right rude to chastise you for your choice of name. now that said, it is an unusual spelling, but one would have to be a total idiot to not be able to read it. Basic knowledge of phonics should allow one to sound it out, if nothing else. finally, how is an unusual spelling any more torment-inducing than such classics as Gertrude, Agnes, Ethel, etc.... which was probably this biddy's name. i say forget her and do you.

Grace - posted on 03/31/2012

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I think it's a beautiful name! I have very traditional first names for my girls, but different middle names. Emma Caitlyn and Samantha Noelle. Emma got Caitlyn because it was one of the few girl names I liked when I was pregnant. I wish i had reversed them now because her nickname is Caitybird, she had a tiny little cry when she was born. Someone referred to her as a little bird when she was first eatting solids, you know like how babies open their mouth like a little bird and she somehow became my little Caitybird.

Samantha got Noelle because she was my Christmas present, born a day and a bit before Christmas. I was in severe pain in my hips from carrying her at 38 weeks. My doctor was on call when he scheduled my stress test that day. My husband explained about the pain and since it was a quiet night I got to have my little gift before Christmas via c-section instead of closer to New Years. I love my OB and my family. I know none of these names are as unique as Xoe, but we like these names. However I bet if I hadn't gotten to have Sam that day, Noelle would have been totally veto'd by my husband. I had a man last week at the local park, tell Samantha " don't let them call you Sam." Seriously? She's 15monthes old, what's she gonna do, tell me to call her Samantha? Half the time I still can't tell if she's calling Dada or Doggie... Besides, she has always been Baby Sam to me. I like it!

Amanda - posted on 03/31/2012

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No i dont think it is so bad she sounds like an oppinionated baggage who obviously doesnt know when to stop talking but in saying that when you choose a different name you do have to accept a little flack as we have with calling our daughter Jett we get alot of " oh Jess" who cares if you like it as we do, dont let other people make you question it. Personally i like it.

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Throughout her life your daughter (and you) will have to correct the pronunciation of a few less than brilliant people who don't know that an X can make a Z sound, as well as correcting the spelling for people who assume it's spelled with a Z. But so what? My name is extremely ordinary and I have had to correct people's spelling of it all my life...you get that with any name. The name is certainly not outrageous by any means and I don't think it's even "weird." It's a cute name, and spelling it with an X gives it an edgy little twist!



You should've asked the lady for her number and told her that should you have another child, you will be sure to consult her before choosing the name. ;)

Jaymi - posted on 03/30/2012

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Not odd at all! I think it's beautiful. My husband and I named our children's first names a little different because we wanted names with meaning and our last name is Smith. We didn't want another John Smith. LOL BTW, their names are Malachi, Elijah, Charis, and Nathanael.

Markita - posted on 03/30/2012

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Wow, did you ask her if she was drunk or on drugs for asking you that? I can't stand when people push their opinions on others. It was your choice for your child, she had no right to make you feel like you're dooming her to ridicule.

Babette-babs - posted on 03/30/2012

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Personally I think it's a very pretty name and the women that spoke to you like that was extremely rude. I have a rather unusual name myself being called Babette Angelina Danielle and to be honest the only grief I ever really got growing up was over my maiden name of Malet (in the Malletts Mallet era) and the fact that my initials spell BAD.My sister also has a rather unusual name being called Pearlmarie Shirley Rose and she never got grief about her first names either,Just the surname. And my 2 daughters are Lana Alyssa and Freya Luisa both with one of there names spelt slightly different from the norm and if my next one due in august turns out to be another girl I like the names Xara and Aria for a girl

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/30/2012

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What makes me feel bad is that I can't for the life of me spell my niece's name! It's Jewlya (I had to look it up...LOL) Pronounced Julia. I love the name, it's gorgeous! But, from day one, I've called her Jules...It's my special name for her. Her mom hated that I did it, but I told her I'd rather spell something I know I won't misspell! Once she started school, she asked if she could use our special name with her friends, too...LOL...Ok, so I was thrilled... ;-)



My oldest finally realized what we'd done with his name...With the last name of Lively, you've got to be creative! So, his dad's name is Richard B....get it...LOL... "richard, BE Lively!" And our son is named after his dad...Not Junior, but RBL II...So, Richard, be lively too!



Ok, ok, so I'm a sick woman...LOL Especially when you see the my second boy's initials are Saturday Night Live...

Mazy - posted on 03/30/2012

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I agree that it is a very unusual, almost weird name...er spelling. Personally, I probably would have used the Z-spelling since I still find it to be an uncommon name. BUT I didn't name your child, YOU did! You can name her whatever you want & spell it however you want!! My MIL made a huge stink about son #1's middle name (Marlowe) saying that it was strange & it would make him gay. Then we named son #2 Iorek (Eye-or-eck) which IS really strange, especially coupled with the last name Zickefoose!!! We don't care :) I doubt your daughter will be teased. I was never teased for my name & my brother, named Western Summers by my parents (talk about hippies!!) never got teased either. If anyone accuses you of not being sober when picking your child's name, then you have every right to lay into them about the terrible fate of their own insecurities.

Lise - posted on 03/30/2012

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I also had teachers teach me to spell my name wrong. For the first couple months of kindergarten my teacher made me write "LISA", once she realized the mistake she appoligized and corrected it. In grade 2 my teacher would not believe me when I said my name was Lise (rhymes with please) NOT Lisa. For the whole year she argued with my parents and I about what my name was and eventually she tried to fail me for it. Luckily the principal stepped in. To this day I hate it when people call me Lisa (even though there is nothing wrong with that name). I don't think there are any normal names left, even the traditional names sound different because they are now getting more uncommon. All I can say is teach your daughter to be proud of her name it's pretty.

Apps+8278986302 - posted on 03/30/2012

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I think it is fine. I knew right when I read it what it said. I find the older generation have a lot more problems with the names we pick for our kids today. I named my son Caspian and my grandmom thought it was the weirdest thing. Now she has come around.

Bonnie - posted on 03/30/2012

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I think that woman needs to take a chill pill and mind her own business. Sounds to me like she is the one who could be on drugs for talking to you that way. Geez.

Theresa - posted on 03/30/2012

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I named my son Tymothy. It's pronounced "Tim" or "Timothy." I loved the name but like you wanted something a little more original. People never have have difficulty pronouncing his name but he does have to spell it out because people automatically thinks its spelled the traditional way. I have had concern that he would have a hard time in school because of it. have offered him the opportunity to change or to the traditional spelling if he wants. He is 16 now and loves his name. He loves the originally of it! And actually I find it strange when I see the name "Tim." I feel like its spelled wrong!

Stephanie - posted on 03/30/2012

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no of course its not weird its beauifully unique fair play to ya i have three kids and i spelt some of there names using different letters :) makes them that little bit more special and besides she;s your daughter u call her what u want i've heard alot worse trust me :)

Kathy - posted on 03/30/2012

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To be honest I think it is a strange name, I dont like all of the trying to be original thing by playing around with names I would rather a trully strange name as at least it would be original. Yes I knew exactly what it was when i saw it. Everyone is different. You would think the names I chose for my children were old fashioned and traditional, but they fit with my personality. I bet your original spelling fits with your personality. We dont all have to be the same and our that lady was out of line she would be best to say. "Not what I would have chosen" or shut her mouth. She is probably not the type of person you would end up being friends with and neither would I. In terms of being picked on. Kids dont realize differences in names. If they can say it, it doesn't seem to bother them.

I know I will most probably be ridiculed for my comment but as I said every one is different.

Vanessa - posted on 03/30/2012

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What a beautiful name, i also knew it was pronounced Zoey as soon as I saw it.

My children are called Inara and Talan, and I'm sure they to will have a life time of spelling them to people. I have spent 38 years spelling my surname to people and telling them how to pronounce it correctly! And guess what... I love my surname, but to save my kids from doing that to I have given them their fathers surname. Which is Matson over mine which is Knutson.

Good on you for being different I love it. Some people are very close minded and rude, and totally out of line!

Kristin - posted on 03/29/2012

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My is the Scandinavian form of Christine. Growing up in rural Australia I was teased about it. If kids want to tease another child, they will always find something. My daughter's name is Sarah....very common, not at all unusual....but her own sister and brother teased her by adding a C and calling her Scarah. I had to very quickly put a stop to that one. Xoe is a lovely name, the spelling is unusual, but that makes it more unique for you little girl.

Amy - posted on 03/29/2012

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I agree wth Mary. All that matters is that you love her name & she knows you picked it just for her. Everybody has an opinion. I feel srry for that lady because she has an ugly attitude.



My daughter's name is Ashleigh Grace, spelled that way it means 'Outdoorsy & Graceful'. I named her after my hubby & my personalities. - Perfect for her now because she plays both baseball & takes ballet. :) Still, many people ask me "Why in the world did you spell it like that?" To which I reply "Because I wanted to & I'm the mother." End of conversation.

Mary - posted on 03/29/2012

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Your daughter's name is beautiful. Don't let anyone, posters to this thread included, get to you. Why in the world would these people think it's acceptable to call her name "weird" when they are posting comments about the rude woman whose remarks are in the original post? Don't they realize that, as a label, "weird" is NOT really very nice!



By the way, my name should have been simple enough. But there was an English teacher who consistently called me "May-Ree" ... and "Price" became "Pierce" more times than I ever counted. People will get the simplest things wrong for a variety of reasons. Your Xoe will either develop an enormous amount of patience, or she will decide to go by another name or the "usual" spelling. I vote for patience!

Angelina - posted on 03/29/2012

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Thanks ladies! I have never doubted what i named Xoe, but I just never thought it was as "out there" as that lady was making it out to be. If my baby girl had been a boy his name was to be Tristan Xandar Haley. I , being Angelina Theresa Rodriguez, was made fun of in school for having a mexican name but being lighter toned ( i grew up in san diego with many mexican immigrants.) and i was chased by kids yelling "are you gonna tomb raid me?!?!" refrencing to the famous Angelina. And i still till this day get random calls IN SPANISH, i quickly learned "No habla espanol." And people still think the very clear G is a Y? But still not as bad as my mothers maiden name "Bobb" I LOVE MY NAME AND I LOVE MY DAUGHTERS NAME!

Debi - posted on 03/29/2012

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It's not a weird name when you hear it, just when you see it. We aren't accustomed to X names, especially in girls but I personally think it's adorable. And I think her friends will think so too. Don't let crackpots like this woman make you doubt that ok? My oldest son is named Addison and I had a guy, mid 20's at the time, tell me 'well it's your kid I guess you can name him what you want'. To which I said you're exactly right...I can. And I don't recall his daughters name but it was the name of some song, way weirder than Addison. (this was early 1990's). So don't sweat it. I love the name Zoe, Zoey or Xoe. She will too.

Constance - posted on 03/29/2012

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It is a different spelling, but not weird name.



The woman was very rude.



Mind you, when you show a tattoo of a name in an obvious place, rude people will question you. And there will always be people who disagree with decisions you make. This woman was *extremely* rude to ask if you were on drugs or drunk when you chose it!



I don't choose to tattoo myself- but when I see a pretty tattoo, I comment positively. When I see a tattoo that I don't like, I don't comment. When I see alternative spellings to names, I think to my poor older brothers who were cursed with "correctly spelled family" names. First. Last. Middle. Xoe Elizabeth will have to spell her name to every last person, but it is *very* pretty. And, when she grows up, if she doesn't like Xoe, Elizabeth offers a variety of choices.



(It's my great-grandmother's, my mother's, my former MIL's, my older daughter's and my middle name.)



Next time, unless the person is *very* pleasantly curious, when someone asks what's on your back, say "It's a tattoo!" If they ask again, ask, "Why do you ask?"



_Only give value to a comment to someone whose opinion you respect._ You never met this woman before. You don't know who the heck she is. Why should you care what she says?



Cheers,



Constance Elizabeth, who learned this the hard way, through being married to the father of her two daughters.

Jackie - posted on 03/29/2012

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No, it isn't. My girls have a very common last name ( Davis) So I gave them different names. Elisheva, Hadassah, and Kalleelah. I like the name Xoe and if you raise her to be herself she will probably love that her name is different. My name is common, Jacqueline, and I still got made fun of. Some people just need to learn what their mothers told them if they can't say something nice don't say anything at all!!

Donna - posted on 03/29/2012

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No not at all, my girls are Xanthe and Xarlia , purely because I like the spelling and like you I thought it was unusual

Kim - posted on 03/29/2012

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Its a very beautiful name, I knew exactly as soon as I read it that its zoey.....I think that unlike other parents you gave her a unique name for her unique personality and you should be proud of.the name you gave her! I would be!

Julie - posted on 03/29/2012

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Wow could u be anymore rude! Most the doctors these days have names u can't even pronounce! Please explain how a name will affect your future because a name has nothing to do with it. If you are a good parent your child will grow up to be the best at whatever they love. She might be a movie star with a cool name like that! People are so quick to be rude and judge. Think before your speak or type lol

Julie - posted on 03/29/2012

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I love it! What an awesome name! My daughter is Madelynne Corinne I tried to spell hers differently than others as well and some people have said rude comments about me making it too complicated but whatever I love it and she seems to as well so who cares! Go get em girl!

Lynn - posted on 03/29/2012

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Cute name and I knew exactly what it was when I saw it!! We named my son Walter after his paternal great grandfather and Elijah after his maternal grandfather. Too bad mommy and daddy didn't like the name from the 'other' family. A friend suggested calling him "Walleye" before he was even born and it just stuck. So while my son's name is just a nick name, it is what he goes by every day. And I can guarantee you, people remember EXACTLY who he is since it's unique!! Xoe will thank you later for being unique!!

Kathy - posted on 03/29/2012

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Some people are haters, regardless, and negative about anything they can possibly find fault with. My daughter's an Elisabeth, with an s, and we've had tons of problems with her name, but it's nothing compared with the spelling problems I've had with my maiden name, Fair... No one could get it right! Xoe is a sweet name - ignore the haters!

Melinda - posted on 03/29/2012

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I like it ! I always wondered what kind of name would start with X. I never even thought of Xoe. I knew it was pronounced Zoey when I first saw it. I would name my daughter Xoe if I thought I could get my husband to agree LOL. :) And that woman was rude. Even if I thought someone was crazy for naming their kid a different or weird name I wouldn't tell them that, and I dang sure wouldn't ask if they were on drugs or drunk.

Colleen - posted on 03/29/2012

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We have a friend with a XENA and I think it's adorable. The woman was probably drunk or on drugs!! lol

Nene J. - posted on 03/29/2012

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I think Xoe is terribly adorable! But Haley as a last name is hard to work with because it's feminine-ish & both end with an e sound. It makes it kinda repetitive but I like it. That woman needed her behind kicked! She had no right to hurt your feelings about your child's name when it's a good. Xoe is way better than Apple, Coco, Auto Pilot, & Shanana (however its spelled)!

Katy - posted on 03/29/2012

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My name is Katy (full name Katherine) and I have people call me Kathy or spell it Katie all the time! My mom says to blame my dad for that. I like the name and I had no problem pronouncing it. Don't listen to that women, she was rude.

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The name is beautiful. I don't care much for the X instead of Z spelling, but it's your kid and it's your business. ♥ That 'lady' was way out of line and beyond rude!

Robyn - posted on 03/29/2012

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When people ask me why I have done anything....I ask them why they are asking? Tends to put them on the defensive instead of me. Then...if they still have the nerve to continue...walk away. Does it really matter what these type of people think?

When our oldest was born....we named him for his Father. There wasn't a nickname we could use to differentiate between them so we used the first name and Jr. to come up with TJ. You can only imagine the comments that provoked.

From Robyn...spelled with a Y!

( Was once asked why "I" spelled my name that way. Told them my parents did not consult with me before they completed the birth certificate!).... hehehehe....

Don't sweat the small stuff!

Amber - posted on 03/29/2012

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Im sorry someone decided it was appropriate to insult you on such a BEAUTIFUL name. Some people should just keep their rude remarks to themselves! I got so upset when I read this.. I have four kids of my own. All of them have unique names. (Raziel, Constantine or "Xander" Girls have two middle names. Zophia Coleen-Laurenne, Remy Estelle-Charlene.) I have heard soo many crappy comments on their names. I just got to the point where I say, "Good thing its not your kid!". Dont let people get you down, Your choice is a beautiful one. :)

KeiCee - posted on 03/29/2012

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I think that's a gorgeous & creative name! Don't let anyone bring you down about it. That woman was rude, insensitive, & (I try not to say this about people, but...) stupid. I don't think your daughter will be teased. I think most people will say, "Wow! what an interesting way to spell Xoe." My name is pronounced Casey, but is spelled KeiCee & I have always loved it. My kids have different names, too. My 7yr old son is named Jade & alot of people asked me why I named him a girl's name. I didn't think I did...anyway, it's not like I named him Crystal, Pearl, or Amber. My 3yr old son is Kieran. Most people say, "That's an unusual name. How did you choose it?" I'm happy to tell them.

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I think your daughter's name is beautiful. I agree that she may have to spend a lot of time in her life spelling it but you know what? My name is Joy and I've spent a lot of time spelling my name to people who automatically assume that it's Joyce and I've gotta tell you....it's not a big deal. You get used to it. The woman who asked you if you were on drugs was just rude. Some people seriously need to learn to think before they speak. FILTER people, FILTER!!!!

Tanya - posted on 03/29/2012

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I think Xoe is cute and very original, and I immediately recognized it as sounding like Zoe. My son's name is Alec, but we decided almost at the last minute to change the spelling from Alek because we thought people would call him Alex (with the K looking so close to an X). My entire life people have mispronounced my name or have even called me by another name that's close but completely different (and my name isn't unusual), so I wanted to try to prevent him from having to do the same. After 11 years, I wish I hadn't decided to change it because people still call him Alex anyway. Don't worry about what other people think, and as far as that woman's comments, shame on her. I've seen some outrageous names and spelling of names, but I would never be so rude.

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