Is it reasonable for my husband to vacation without our family?

Karen - posted on 07/16/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )




My husband wants to travel to his friend's wedding in Jamaica by himself. He just went away for another friend's wedding for several days and he left me when I was 8 months pregnant to visit another friend for a few days. Our baby is 9 months old and I have a 4 year old who also lives with us 100% of the time. I think he should take all of us as a family or he should not go. If he has the money to go on this trip himself but not with us, I think he should instead plan a little family getaway. I am the primary breadwinner and pay for the mortgage, groceries, insurance, etc and he shares the daycare expense with me. Is he being irresponsible and immature or are my expectations of what I feel I deserve and my kids deserve from him out of line?


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Sharlene - posted on 07/16/2012




I would not stand for that you need to put your foot down .It sound's to me his loving the free good life. like sharon said you deserve better

Krista - posted on 07/16/2012




Once in a blue moon, if it's a guys' trip, is fine. But to a wedding? It makes no sense that he wouldn't bring you. And to take off for several days when you're 8 months pregnant? I would have been PISSED.

No, you're not being unreasonable. He's being a spoiled child.

Stifler's - posted on 07/16/2012




I go away by myself. I take the kids while Damo is at work and stay with my mum or his sister for a week. It is way more expensive to take everyone and fly overseas than just one person go, maybe that's his reason. I don't like to miss a friends wedding either. Their birthday pffft who cares but their wedding is important and I would make every effort to go even if it's by myself.

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No it isn't reasonable at all. He is being irresponsible, he is your husband and a father. He is no longer a single man and he can't just live his life as though he is still single. You deserve better than that.

Kaitlin - posted on 07/16/2012




that sounds really sketchy to me. Honestly, what is he doing while you aren't around? I would definitely question his intentions. Are there any friends that are in the same group and have been to all these situations? Female?

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