Jennifer - posted on 03/29/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )
My son who is in 1st grade, has had a good friend since pre-k. The other boy's mom has invited my son over a couple times and my son has even spent a couple nights at their house. I have no problem with the family, they are very nice, and trusting. My biggest problem is when I try to invite the other boy over to our house. The first time I tried to invite him over, was when they were still in pre-k. The boy refused, because he was afraid to be away from mommy. I could understand that, since the mom was a stay at home mom his whole life, and he had never even spent a night away with a grandma or anyone (I did only ask for a couple hours during the day and not the night to start with). Also, it was very traumatic for him that year, because his mom got very sick and had to spend a week in the hospital. That scared him so much, and he became even more afraid to leave her side. After that, we moved into a different house (same school district) and then I became pregnant, and had some complications. Once I had the baby, she had some health problems, and I didn't get around to asking the boy to come over until Jan. this year. I figured it had been 2 years since I had last asked and he should be over the whole mommy attachment. He agreed to come spend the night at our house for my son's birthday. My son was so excited and happy. When the boy came, he didn't want his mom to leave. I don't think she was out of the driveway for even 30sec, before he sat on our couch and refused to do anything. I tried to tell him that he didn't have to spend the night if he didn't want to, but that my son would be so happy, if he could at least stay for a couple hours and play. He wouldn't even do that. He started crying, and I had to call his mom. She came back and got him. All this left my son in tears. He was so incredibly upset, that it took almost the rest of the day for me to get him to smile again! Would it be rude of me to not invite the boy over to our house again, even though my son still goes over there? The boy is very nice, and a great friend for my son to have, but I feel like if I invite him, then the mom feels bad, because he won't stay (she appologizes a lot for it) and my son's heart gets broke.