Is it still okay to circumsize if he is over 2yrs?

Chantal - posted on 04/13/2012 ( 47 moms have responded )

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Hi my son is 2 1/2yrs now and I want him circumcised next week, I really didnt mean to wait this long, but one thing after another had us waiting. Will he remember this and be tramatized? Should I just leave it now, because he is older? Is it too late?...

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Ez - posted on 04/13/2012

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I would question the professional integrity of any doctor who would perform an elective cosmetic procedure on a 2yo. Why anyone would want to subject their toddler to a GA (and associated risks) and painful recovery is beyond me.

Leave your poor boy's penis alone. It is not yours to alter.

Nikki - posted on 04/13/2012

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Why is it not helpful Sherri? Maybe she is unaware of the risks? I wasn't aware of the risk a few years ago and I probably would have circumcised if I had a boy. Now that I know the risks and I am aware that the procedure is so cruel there is no way in the world I would choose to mutilate my son so that his penis looked pretty.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/13/2012

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WHY WOULD YOU DO THIS TO HIM NOW! Just let him grow up and make the decision for himself. You have waited way to long, and is now going to be real surgery that is VERY traumatic to heal from. Leave his penis alone. YES it is to late. Any doctor that would do this at this point in his life without pure sound medical reason, is a cut happy doctor and I would go running screaming out of the office. Shame on you, and shame on the doctor. There is no reason for you to do this now. Let your son decide when he is old enough. At this point, you would be doing it for your own selfish reasons....whatever THAT would be. You have no true concrete reason to do this. I feel sorry for your son.

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I have a different perspective to consider. I'm not even going into the "circ or not" debate, because I have my opinion on the subject, but that's neither here nor there. What really hit me about your question is that your son is 2 years old and they would most likely have to put him under general anesthesia to do this procedure.

My youngest is 3 1/2 now, but when he was 2 he'd fallen in the tub and split his lip open. I took him to the ER and they said it was bad enough that it needed 2 stitches. The way they do that with a toddler aged child is to put them under a general, stitch like the wind, and bring them back out. They try to go as fast as humanly possible, so as not to keep the child under too long because there are so many risks involved with a toddler being sedated for any length of time. All in all, he was under for maybe 10 minutes.... it wasn't long, but it took him a while to come out of the responsive, but not really awake yet stage.

The procedure went smoothly and they were happy with how it went. Unfortunately, when he started waking up, he started vomiting. And vomiting. And vomiting. He vomited so much that they were debating whether to put a drip on to keep him hydrated. I was terrified and felt like the lowest form of life on the planet for having allowed them to put him under. He came very close to being put on a drip, but he was taking in fluids so they held off and thankfully the vomiting slowed down. It was imperative that we try to keep the stitches clean so that infection wouldn't set in because of the vomit, which was a lot of fun to try and do with a boy who was cranky, not feeling well and had what must have been a tremendously sore lip that wasn't being helped with the acidic vomit. Finally, it all calmed and he was released to go home.

I didn't get any sleep that night because I not only had to monitor him regularly (a precaution because of the general), but because he was in pain and I had to keep pushing fluids to re-hydrate him. Not like I would have slept anyway because I felt traumatised and wanted to console my baby for what I felt I'd put him through. Well, in the wee small hours of morning I must have passed out because I woke with a start and checked on my son to make sure all was okay. In the short time I'd been asleep, he had somehow picked off one of the stitches and opened the wound back up. He'd done it in his sleep! So we had to go in to our GP to have it checked out and thankfully she said it had healed enough to be okay and the one stitch left was holding it sufficiently, but it looked a bit angrier than she liked, so she told me how to care for it (seeing as it was just inside his lower lip) and what to look out for in terms of infection.

That entire day, the poor boy was out of sorts because he was in pain. He would try to pick at his lip and even though I tried having eagle eyes on him, he succeeded a couple times and I knew because he would scream out in pain. I gave him nurofen (ibuprofen) to help with inflammation and pain, but it still hurt and he still cried and complained about it... for a few days.

Because the stitch came out too early (they were dissolving ones so avoid re-traumatising him in taking them out) his lower lip is deformed a bit. He has a small lump in the middle, just inside his lower lip that's noticeable when you look at him. It's a constant reminder to me of that traumatic experience we went through.

So, you may be debating on whether to circ your toddler because he may remember it, but think about what may to happen to him going under a general anesthesia. The doctors who treated my son said that normally they avoid putting little ones under a general unless absolutely necessary because of the risk factors, while under and after. The effects can be as extreme as death and signing the form for it was like potentially signing my life away, even if it's only a remote chance that he could die.

As for if he'll remember it.... my son who went through this experience is, to this day, terrified of the bath (where he slipped and fell), water (that was in the bath, of course), doctors and recoils at anyone who touches his lips. He fights me when I have to take him to see our GP (who is a lovely lady, compared to the male doctor that stitched him up)... kicking and screaming and spitting and clawing as if I were taking him to his death. The whole "split lip" incident happened over a year ago. I fear that he is going to carry this fear with him, and when he's older he'll automatically get a fear response, but not know why... just like I (aged 42) have a strong (although irrational) fear of Santa (and anyone in a costume) from a traumatic experience when I was 2-3 years old.

Weigh up the pro and con reasons for why you want to put your son through surgery/anesthetic, including the difficult maintenance that will follow. Do you really want to deal with the difficulties that will come with wound care (in a very dirty area) on a toddler when you're pregnant? If I had the choice, I would never put a child under general if it wasn't absolutely necessary... heck, I still kick myself for putting my son under general when the doctor said it WAS necessary because of all the bleeding and how far open the wound had been.

Good luck to you... on your pregnancy and your decision. :-)

Nikki - posted on 04/13/2012

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It's unnecessary and can be dangerous. Why do you want to circumcise either of them?



http://www.bellybelly.com.au/baby/circum...



Does any medical organisation recommend circumcision of boys?



No medical organisation anywhere in the world recommends routine circumcision of boys. Many organisations state that there is no medical indication for routine circumcision, including the RACP, the British Medical Association, and the American Academy of Paediatrics.



Is circumcision less painful for a baby than for an adult?



Infants experience excruciating pain during circumcision and for weeks afterwards, and they can show behavioural changes such as frequent crying, avoidance of physical contact, reduced feeding, and sleep disturbance. Local anaesthetic creams such as EMLA are not adequate, and a general anaesthetic poses a significant risk for infants under the age of six months. Adult circumcision is less painful as men can undergo general anaesthesia and receive pain relief during the post-operative period.



Isn’t circumcision just a ‘tiny snip’ with no risks?



The risks of circumcision include bleeding, infection, damage to the glans and frenulum (a very sensitive band of tissue connecting the inner foreskin to the glans on the underside of the penis, often referred to as the male G-spot), excessive skin removal, scarring, loss of penis, and even death. Infant circumcision carries more risks than adult circumcision, as a baby’s penis is very small and difficult to operate on, and more penile skin is removed than in adults. Excessive tissue removal is a common problem, and this can cause painful erections and even restrict the growth of the penis at puberty.



Why not wait until they are adults and can make the choice for themselves.

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Sherri - posted on 04/23/2012

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Joy I have Anthem blue cross/blue shield and I just had my son circumcised 9wks ago and it was covered as it isn't considered cosmetic to them.

Merry - posted on 04/22/2012

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See I thought America still deemed circumcision as a medical surgery. But I could be wrong. I know doctors here never say its cosmetic, they all say it's beneficial helpful, best thing to do type stuff.

So I know the asp says there isn't enough benefit to recommend it be routinely practiced but a lot of drs take that to mean there IS benefits, just not ENOUGH to recommend it. And I honestly don't know what the gov thinks.

Obviously you can find plenty of American websites bragging of the immense benefits of Ric and how if you don't you're risking your kid etc. but as for the gov, I'm not sure where they stand really.

And I don't see how it's cosmetic either, it only messes up the boys penis and makes it look perpetually erect and yet his glands will dry and roughen and look less appealing in time.

Not too cosmetic in my eyes, I don't see the benefit even for that.



But insurance companies here still cover it, even state insurance which I think it retarded.

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From what I was just able to find via Google, there are 16 states in which Medicaid does NOT cover circumcision.



Also, we now have Blue Cross/Blue Shield and out of curiosity, I signed into our online account to see if they cover circumcision. They do not. They don't cover ANY cosmetic procedure. From what I understand, they would cover circ if it was required for medical reasons but that would have to be documented and verified by a qualifying (in network) physician.



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"Eighteen states reallocate millions of dollars each year by not funding infant circumcision - Arizona, California, Colorado, Florida, Idaho, Louisiana, Maine, Minnesota, Mississippi, Missouri, Montana, Nevada, North Carolina, North Dakota, Oregon, South Carolina, Utah, and Washington."



Sorry, it's 18 states, not 16. This link is the most current I can find, from June 2011.

http://www.icgi.org/Medicaid_Project/ind...

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Sherri, in YOUR area, it may be covered by Medicaid. In Florida it's not. I had to shell out $150 cash to have Jacob done at 1 day old. Also, private insurance doesn't cover it either, anymore than they would cover a face lift. I've never heard of any insurance company covering anything cosmetic....and because circumcision isn't medically necessary...it IS considered cosmetic unless it's being done for religious reasons.

Sherri - posted on 04/22/2012

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Are you sure Kate because in the US it is not considered cosmetic hence why virtually all states medacaid other then a handful cover it as well. I have yet to hear of a insurance other than medacaid and even that very infrequently that doesn't cover it. All major insurance Anthem, blue cross/blue shield, United healthcare etc. all cover it

Kate CP - posted on 04/22/2012

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"Kate I am pretty sure it is covered by all private insurance plans in the US, the only insurance that may not cover it is Medacaid and that varies by state..."

Well, Sherri, you're wrong. Many insurance plans don't cover routine infant circumcision because it IS a cosmetic procedure. So, count yourself lucky that your insurance plan covered it.

Sammie - posted on 04/21/2012

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Why is it so important to you, to have part of your sons penis cut off? There are no proven benefits, NO medical organization in the world recommends circumcision. Circumcision is very painful and damaging, and over 100 baby boys die every year due to circumcision. So why do you want to have his cut off? Is it causing problems? Most of the men in the world have a foreskin and lead happy, healthy lives, and would NOT ever want their foreskin removed (it is the most sensitive part).

I would seriously leave his penis alone. You know the old saying, "If it ain't broke, don't fix it".

Let him keep all of his penis, after all it is HIS penis so it's only fair that he gets to keep it.

Merry - posted on 04/14/2012

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Yes, and I've read that when babie sundergo serious pain in their first weeks of life their pain receptors and how they perceive pain is altered perminently, they feel spin worse then if they had not had early extreme pain. The study took circumcised boys and put them againYes intact boys and girls and noted the differences in how they handled their 2-4-6-9-12 month shots. It said that the circumcised boys reacted stronger to pain then the intact boys and girls did.



Chantal, have you decided to continue with both children's surgeries or just the newborn or neither? Any thoughts you have? Questions?

Krista - posted on 04/14/2012

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Donna makes an excellent point. Conscious memories may not be present prior to age three or so, but I think it is naive to think that none of our experiences prior to that will have any sort of an effect. If a two-year-old toddler is attacked and hurt by a dog, the odds are extremely good that he will have a fear of dogs for quite a long time afterwards, even if he does not consciously remember the attack later in life. He won't know why he's scared of dogs -- he just is.

So I really don't think it's unreasonable to think that a painful wound on a child's penis could cause later issues. He may try to withhold his pee, because peeing hurts, which would result in toilet-training issues or recurrent bladder infections.

I guess I just don't see why you'd bother doing this, when there are so many risks, and so few (i.e. no) benefits.

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Sherri's right on that point. From age 3-5 is usually the time people can consciously remember to... except in the case of my husband who can't remember anything earlier than 10. :-\ However, if you're going to start throwing around Freud, you have to also concur that just because it is not in our conscious memory (starting from age 3-5) does not mean that we do not have any memories. There is a lot of information that is stored in the unconscious brain (which is a larger aspect of ourselves than our conscious mind) which we react to without necessarily understanding why. It is this conflict between the conscious and unconscious that makes up the basis for his entire theory. So, if we are talking psychodynamic perspective, we MUST consider that people CAN retain "memory" of earlier events which are stored in the unconscious mind.



If our mind is like an iceberg and the conscious memory is what is above the water line, that enormous thing that is 4-5 times larger than the conscious... that which is the unconscious... would hold a plethora of information that we aren't aware of, but it doesn't mean that it doesn't exist or that our mind does not remember.

Sherri - posted on 04/14/2012

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Notice that is why I said avg. age Laura

Any earlier than about 3.5 years is, for most of us, a blank slate. We all have what Freud first called "childhood amnesia"--an inability to remember our earliest childhood.

Merry - posted on 04/14/2012

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My first memory I was 2 years and 3 months old. It was my brothers birth :) I have two more memories before I turned 4.

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That's just got me to thinking.... then how would they immobile him if not sedation? Strap him down, so that he can't move but can watch the needles for a local and a scapel coming at his penis and slicing bits off? He would be able to feel as they are cutting that third of his penis off too, not necessarily as pain, but you can feel what's going on. That would be totally inhumane! People treat their dogs better than that. OMG How traumatizing would that be?!

Or, if not sedation or strapping him to the table... how?

I'm now glad I thought about this, because it makes me feel a bit better for having my son sedated, because I couldn't imagine the horror of watching him freak out until he was catatonic.

Sherri - posted on 04/14/2012

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Kate I am pretty sure it is covered by all private insurance plans in the US, the only insurance that may not cover it is Medacaid and that varies by state.



@Joy due to a few threads on this topic where the children were slightly older virtually all said they were running around and completely fine within 24hrs after being circumcised. You never would have known they had anything done. Also I have never met anyone in my life that had any memories at such a young age, the avg. age of any true memories is around the age of 5.

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No no... I didn't think you were. I just thought maybe giving some kind of visual representation of the situation would help to understand why it needed to be done that way.

Dove - posted on 04/14/2012

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I wasn't saying anything against you, Donna, so I hope you don't think that. I was sympathizing w/ your situation and what you and your son HAD to go through.



And the op's son does NOT have to do through sedation and elective circumcision at this point. ;)

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Well, if it had been my son's forehead he would not have had to been put under because it's easy to immobilise a kid's head. I had to do it when my kids were little in order for a doctor to examine things such as ears and throat for regular diagnosis of illness.

If you have a toddler, have a look at how big the lips are. Now, have him/her lay down, grab the lower lip and pull it back to be able to access the inside... down toward the gum. Then try to make them lay stock still while you simulate grabbing a needle to do a couple stitches. Even if you just try to imagine that, do you think it is possible to make a 2 year old lay there, while you've got their lower lip stretched out to give a local anesthetic and then stitch it up. How many kids that young would just lay there while you start bringing needles up to their face?

As it was, it took 1 nurse and 2 doctors to stitch up my son's lip as he slept. The nurse held his head still, a doctor assisted the one stitching by holding the lower lip in position and the other doctor did the actual stitching. Do you think that any little kid would let 3 complete strangers hold him down and get right in his face, even forgetting about the needles involved?

It takes very little imagination to realize that a toddler would never lay completely still while a bunch of strangers grabbed and poked at him for several minutes. So, the only solution is to put him under.

My eldest son had to have a blood test done at 4 years of age. It took SIX people (admittedly we were all women) to get 3 vials, 5 to hold him down and still and 1 to actually get the blood. When they are old enough to have an idea of what they do and do not like, and how they feel about strangers doing things to them, it becomes a whole different ball game... and quite a big struggle.

Merry - posted on 04/14/2012

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This is a religious web site but the article is completely unreligious, no Jesus, god mentioned etc. it's good solid facts and advise.

Please check it out and see.

http://churchofjesuschrist.net/circumcis...



Also, something I never really thought of before, one day as I was changing my sons diaper I noticed how the circumcised penis is made to look like an erealrice penis,an aroused penis.

And how leaving it intact actually makes it look properly flaccid and unsexual.



I circumcised my son because I was told it was best and he's gone through a few complications due to it and I regret the decision and would never do it again. Hopefully I have a baby boy next as I'd love my son to have a brother and there's absolutely no way in hell me or my husband would circumcise our second son. We know the facts now and would never do that to our child.

Merry - posted on 04/14/2012

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Yes he could remember this, and pain memory can have an affect on him and how he handles future pains.

There's no real proven benefit to circumcision and there's many risks involved in the surgery.

Some babies die from circumcisions!



Have you been pulling back his foreskin to clean under it?

This is a common misconception and is unnecessary and dangerous. If you haven't, just leave him be and he will have the best shot at penis health with his foreskin fussed until his body seperated it itself.



The foreskin is a protective covering for the glands and when you remove it the glands have to adapt to being external organs and so they roughen and harden and can be cracked or dry. This is not how penises are meant to be!



Leave your son as he is, the foreskin is there for a reason and removing it only risks his life, other complications unnecessarily.



He's better off with his body as God/nature designed it!



Edited to add:I'd imagine that stitching inside a toddlers mouth or lip might be different then stitching anywhere else. Imagine having to immobilize the child's lip???.



Leave both boys intact. It's the kind thing to do.

Sherri - posted on 04/14/2012

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My son had stitches young too and they never put him under either, I have never heard of such a thing.

Also Donna in the US there is no cost to us insurance pays for the circumcisions. It is100% covered.

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That's freaky Donna! My daughter had stitches on her forehead at just under a year and they didn't put her under.



I wouldn't have a child put under unless it was an absolute medical necessity. For an elective circumcision? Hell no! Which means, no elective circumcision on a 2 year old. ;)

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For me, I wouldn't assume that my daughter wanted her ears pierced, so circumcising my sons and totally changing the appearance of a body part wasn't something I even considered. If later in life they feel they'd prefer being circumcised that is their choice, and there is anesthesia for the procedure. I have never had an issue with either of my sons as far as cleanliness, etc. If I were in your position, I'd consider letting him be until either a) there is an issue and you feel that circumcision would help the situation or b) he is old enough to choose for himself. When he's old enough to choose I doubt he'll hold it against you that you opted to wait until you could discuss it together, considering it's his body. Thanks for posting.

Kate CP - posted on 04/14/2012

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I would leave it alone because there's nothing wrong with having a foreskin.

Krista - posted on 04/14/2012

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Exactly. I disapprove of putting infants through it, but at least they don't have the motor skills to frig with the incision. Nor will they remember it.

But a 2 1/2 year old would likely be scratching and poking at himself, and it is very possible, even likely, that he will remember it enough that it will instill several fears into him.

It's one thing to do it if it's medically necessary at that age. But if it's not medically necessary, then I definitely would not do it. Not for the sake of them "looking the same".

Besides...if you leave your newborn intact too, then they WILL look the same. Problem solved.

Because despite what you think, it's not a "little snip". The foreskin is fused to the glans of the penis, much like your fingernail is fused to the nail bed. In order to remove the foreskin, they actually have to tear it away from the glans.

At any rate, before you do this, at least do your sons a favour and look up some videos of circumcisions being done, so that you know precisely what the procedure entails. Because it is not just a painless little snip.

Sneaky - posted on 04/14/2012

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Well has is this for genital mutilation - I had my first labial cyst removed at 22 years and my second at 26 years old. Both times I had a reaction to the GA which made me vomit AND faint and made me miserable. Both times it stung like hell to pee, and stung when I had to wash it, and pat it dry EVERY time I urinated. It also stung when I had to sit in salt water baths to help prevent infection. But at least I was adult, who understood why the most sensitive area of my body hurt, and that I couldn't scratch it no matter how much it itched while healing.

IMO there is NO reason in the universe to put a 2 year old through that.

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Okay, this is kind of in the realm of circ I suppose... but if it's not a big deal either way, then why bother? It's just an added expense for no real strong reason (none that you've given anyway if it's "no big deal either way" to you). You have another baby on the way that's going to eat a fair chunk into the pocketbook as it is, so why have the added cost of a cosmetic procedure when that money could go toward all the necessities you'll need, such as a car seat, nappies, cot, etc. for the one on the way?

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Sherri, you said : I would still have it done. I can't see how it would be anymore traumatizing now then when he was an infant. All four of my boys are done as well and we had them done within 24hrs old.

You just made my point for me. All four of your boys were done within 24 hours of being born. I know no one who has memories that go back that far. And even if they put a two year old under general anesthesia, that boy will still wake up and be in pain. I had a half inch biopsy done on my back last year and it hurt and stung for days. The kind of pain that an adult can handle but that a two year old may not be able to handle well. A two year old will not only be in pain after the procedure, but he may also remember it and it could just cause all sorts of other problems like.....fear of doctors, fear of needles, an aversion to his parents for allowing it to happen, there is a whole host of issues that "could" (not WILL...COULD) arise. Why take that chance? Why do it to a two year old unless there is a medical necessity? I mean, I have skin cancer and my son has a freckle on his hip. Should I have that removed now, even though there's no problem with him (or the freckle)?

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You know, I just have to address the whole "I don't want my son to be different" point of view. I had my son circumcised at birth and that was actually part of my reasoning. So I kinda get it. But, now that I have a 4 year old son and a 35 year old husband, I've come to realize that not ONCE has there ever been a "hey, let's compare junk" competition between them. I don't see that happening once my son gets into elementary or junior or senior high either. I just can't see boys in a locker room really paying THAT MUCH CLOSE attention to some other boy's dick. Really. So, no offense, but the "different" point of view doesn't hold much water with me. And my son IS snipped, unfortunately.

It's called, "Live and Learn". I'd never do it again to any son of mine, but I also don't begrudge anyone who does it to their newborns. But there IS a difference in the remembering and the trauma. I have memories....clear memories...of things that happened when I was 2 years old. Both my mother and my two brothers have confirmed these memories for me. Luckily for me, my memories are about a box full of kittens. I doubt that a two year old getting circumcised would have such warm, fuzzy feelings about it later in life.

Something else to consider. When they circumcise a newborn, I believe statistics show that MOST of the time, yes, it heals with no problems (even though my son didn't heal properly). However, there is a certain amount of maintenance after a circumcision that they don't tell you about before hand. And all of this is relatively easy when you're dealing with a tiny infant, newly born, who can't even lift his own head yet. But a two year old??? You wanna talk about a difficult recovery.....I can't imagine if I'd had my son done at two years old. He'd have made it worse just because he'd have had his hands constantly grasping his painful penis. There would have been a battle several times daily to apply ointments. I just wouldn't do it to a child that age. Ever.

Nikki - posted on 04/13/2012

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We are never going to agree Sherri, so I agree to disagree with you, however I believe I have to right to offer information to this woman before she makes a choice.

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Well that's good for your family. I know a few stuff ups, a man who lost sensitivity and a toddler who's penis was mutilated, he lost quite a bit of penile tissue, then my husband's uncle who lost so much blood he almost died as a baby and now has permanent disabilities. Yeah no thanks.



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Trust you?? Over the AAP?

Sherri - posted on 04/13/2012

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Well that is your opinion the procedure is cruel. It is also your opinion it is mutilation.

Trust me I have been there for all 4 of my son's circumcisions there was nothing cruel about it and there is no way imho that it is mutilation either. They were so gentle and caring to my boys. They gave them a numbing agent. My babies never cried and never felt a thing and it was pretty much healed within 4 days.

Also every male I have in my family and we have a large family, every one of our close male friends and every male child of our friends and family are all circumcised not a single one has ever had a problem or had a problem with the procedure. Simple is research your doctor and be completely confident with them before the procedure and how it will be preformed eliminating any question of it being cruel.

Nikki - posted on 04/13/2012

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Also it's not just my way of thinking, it's every health organisations in the world's way of thinking.

Sherri - posted on 04/13/2012

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I would still have it done. I can't see how it would be anymore traumatizing now then when he was an infant. All four of my boys are done as well and we had them done within 24hrs old. They will put him under a general anaesthetic so he won't remember a thing. It will be sore for a few days and they would give him some pain meds so it wouldn't bother him very much.

@Nikki do you think she doesn't know the controversy with this topic?? Your information is really not helpful and you totally didn't even bother to answer her question but rather just gave information to try to persuade her to your way of thinking....not helpful!!

Chantal - posted on 04/13/2012

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Oh my... well another factor is that I am pregnant with another boy and I will be doing it to him right away, and I wouldn't want them to be different. I'm not trying to be a bad person or have cruel intentions... it couldn't be done before now is our chance. I didn't really think much of it, quick snip and finished, I know people who have done it to there 1 1/2yr olds and hes not much older...I don't know, it's not a terribly big deal either way...but I do appreciate the feedback thankyou

Sneaky - posted on 04/13/2012

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You want to cut off half of the nerve ending on the end of your sons penis AT THE AGE OF TWO????????

At what age are you going to have your daughter's circ'd?

Kaitlin - posted on 04/13/2012

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Yeah, I'd just leave it. My kids are circ'd but if, for some reason, they can't right after birth, just let them make the decision later. It's a lot more painful and the recovery is longer. It's really about 50/50 those who are and aren't- and there are no medical benefits EITHER way (people get crazy on both sides, obviously, lol) so if you haven't had any issues as of late, I would just let him do it if he wants when he is older. You say, I want him circed next week- why? Is there a reason you want it so badly now, or a reason you had to wait (premature, sick or needed other surgery at birth, etc)? Just curious. :D I don't think he'd be tramatized, and he probably wont remember when he's a teenager if you did it now, but it would cause a lot of un needed pain, imo.

Krista - posted on 04/13/2012

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Yeah, if he's not having any problems with it, then why not just leave it be? There are entire continents full of men who are uncircumcised, and have no problems with it.

Dove - posted on 04/13/2012

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Unless he is having issues and the doctor is recommending it then I'd just leave it alone.



My son was circumcised the day after birth, but if he had not have been done then it wouldn't have happened.

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