Is it that big a deal?

Nichole - posted on 11/19/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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Ok, so I have noticed a few times on here a mom asks the same question more than once & other mom's jump down their throat cuz they "got sound adivce already" or "got thier answer". Perhaps they just wanted to see if other mom's would answer or get more answers...sometimes not that many people answer a question so it's nice to get more or different people's opinions. Yes the given advice might have been great, but maybe they are just exploring more answers.... Is it really necessary to chew them out? Maybe they reasked not just for more advice but for encouragement. Some people may only have this for adult conversation, encouragement, and advice. So it's redundant or whatever. It frustrating to me (and nobody's done it to me) that people would chew someone out over it.

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Katherine - posted on 11/19/2010

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******If this debate turns into personal attacks, it's going to get locked*********

Isobel - posted on 11/26/2010

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The only time it ticks me off is when somebody re-posts their problem but leaves out important information.

Like "CAS is always trying to take away my kid even though I am a great mom"

so everybody posts these fabulous wonderful supportive comments...

but the last thread said my baby is having trouble gaining wait so I feed her whip cream sandwiches and mcnuggets and when she cries I hit her and put her in a room by herself and so on and so on.

Other than that...post away.

Laura - posted on 11/19/2010

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You do bring up a very valid point. It should not matter in the least how many times someone creates a new post on the same (or similar) subject. Re-phrasing a problem can sometimes make that problem easier to understand by others. There is no reason to criticize double posts, simply choose to ignore them! It is that easy and no one will have their feelings hurt. I agree with Nichole--it isn't that big of a deal...

Nichole - posted on 11/19/2010

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It's not annoying or redundant to me, but I guess it is to others was what I was saying. I actually don't mind. Sometimes when they repost it seems you get more info which can help you give better advice.

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Isobel - posted on 11/26/2010

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or "how unfair is it that my boyfriend's ex won't let us see his kid"



but the last thread says It's not worth it for us to travel to see her, it's too expensive to buy gas to go see her, why should MY baby do without because it costs money to see HIS baby...blah blah blah...

Rosie - posted on 11/26/2010

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Well done Nicole, being a parent is the hardest job in the world no matter where we are from. It is the hardest job in the world. The only rewards we get are from smiles or giggles. We get the moods swings, the tantrums with no guide on how to deal with them. I can't stand that some people feel that if someone posts a question whether it is silly or not, that other people feel the need to put them down.

I feel that every parent has to question if they are doing a good/bad job that is what makes us parents. It is not like a paid job where you are accountable for things. (ie finacially). It is rewarded by how you children behave when you are not around to correct them for when they are being disrespectful. Thank you for posting this because personally I think somebody needed to say it....

Katherine - posted on 11/19/2010

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Not you in particular. I'm warning other members that come into this thread :) Sometimes posts like this cause heated debates.

Krys - posted on 11/19/2010

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Understood, but how is it a personal attack if I do not even know, much less mention who they are? There are no two opinions the exact same, I see nothing wrong with asking again. I am not attacking them, I'm saying as a mom we should be helping each other out, not adding to the adolescent nature of our already child filled days.

Krys - posted on 11/19/2010

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Whatever happened to "anything to help another mom?" --Can we get a round of applause to those women, way to make a moms day better!

Julie - posted on 11/19/2010

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One mom faults by reposting the same question twice.
Another mom faults by attacking her.

You know what? If it is that annoying to you IGNORE the redundant posts!.

Sometimes it is easy to lose your post, so you repost. It is easier to forgive one for being redundant than for being nasty.

Karen - posted on 11/19/2010

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i've seen this happen on more then one occasion as well...ya know what? imo, if you've given your advice to a question (or even if you haven't , but have read the question) and don't want to answer the same question again, then don't bother wasting your time writing anything. mom's have a hard enough job, they certainly don't need to get "a talking down to" from other moms when they are asking for help/advice.

Christy - posted on 11/19/2010

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I saw a post earlier with someone chastising the mom for "reposting" something. It seemed to me the mom decided to change the title of her post and instead it posted it 2 times with 2 different titles. Either way, who cares? She just wanted help!!!!

Louise - posted on 11/19/2010

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I agree Nichole. Some people are rude just for the sake of wrighting something. If you can be nice then say nothing at all!

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