is it too late

Jenna - posted on 07/18/2014 ( 10 moms have responded )

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hi so i have been dating this guy for 8 months but have been friends with him for 3 years now , he has twin 1 year olds girls he has every weekend and a 13 year old daughter who he hardly sees.
he wants to be a father again and i have wanted to be a mother again for sometime but i am 40 this year and he is 38. also my kids do not really like the idea of me wanting another baby at my age , they think i am to old and my youngest two think i am trying to replace them ( witch is not the case) . so my question is am i too old to try for another one ? and how do i convince my youngest two that i am not trying to replace them ?
thank you

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Sarah - posted on 07/26/2014

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My suggestion before you start thinking kids with this guy is to get married first. He sounds like he does not hang around long with women. Having a 13 yr old he hardly sees would be concerning plus twin 1 yr olds....which means he was recently with someone...possible leaving her while pregnant. That is a BIG red flag!

Ev - posted on 07/22/2014

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When my oldest was about six we found out my son was coming. She had determined that she was getting a sister the whole time, that her sister would be born on her birthday, and she had picked out the names for a girl, Emily and Rebecca. She did not understand the timing as I was due in DEC/JAN and had my son in JAN. Once her brother came though she was not at all put out or mad. They have been close since before the day he was born.

Jenna - posted on 07/21/2014

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oh wow , thats a little too excited my girls are starting to get use to the idea that we are going to try for another baby but i would not excatly say they are excited ..... but i hope they warm up to the idea

Serene - posted on 07/21/2014

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Jenna I think my kids are a little too excited, they already have names picked out...:-)

Jenna - posted on 07/19/2014

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okay thank you , thats what i am thinking it will not hurt to try ,if it happens it happens . i might have to try that ( getting them excited about being big sisters )
sounds like your kids are excited .

Serene - posted on 07/19/2014

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I personally think that you are not too old to have more children. Women now a days are having children all the way up until they are menopausing; it won't hurt to try.
Let the younger girls feel like they are a huge part of the babies life. Ask them if they would like to be a big sisters and get them excited. Tell them what they get to do as big sisters.
I'm 37 and me and my fiance want more kids, he is 42 yrs old. My kids are excited about it when I ask them if they want to be a big sis/bro. They are ages 4 and 6, I turned it into a game when I told them. Now they keep asking when the baby is coming and I'm not pregnant yet...LOL

Jenna - posted on 07/19/2014

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hello thank you , well i have been friends with him for 3 years ( met him through work ) so the kids have known him for about 2 years 6 months . yes the kids get along with him fairly well they all have bonded really well over the last 8 months. i have 6 kids and 3 grandchildren ( ZAC , sky and jasmine ( who will be here soon enough )) theres lisa and isabella who are the 19 year old twins , Zoe who is 16 nearly 17 Erica who is 14 nearly 15, Anna who is 8 and Chloe who is 6.

Ev - posted on 07/19/2014

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As for age of having kids, that is entirely up to you but you do need to take into consideration the feelings of your children where this guy is concerned. How long has he been around the kids and do they get along with him well? Instead of worrying about a baby at this point you should be trying to make sure your children (all of them, his and yours) are all comfortable with this blended family that you are working on and that they understand that this would be a baby out of love not to replace them for any reason. And it also depends on the ages or your kids too....you mentioned his kids ages but not yours.

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