Is it wrong to feel abandoned?

Aleah - posted on 11/07/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I stopped working within this year for health reasons and to have more time with my son. He still goes to school. But I never realized how painful it will be to see him go. He started a business which he has to man. This takes most of his time. I had to beg for a response from him and beg for his visit. But he always fail to come. I just had my D & C . I requested him to be there. And sure he did only for the time of the procedure. He left me as soon as I was brought back to my room. And it hurts me a lot.

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Aleah - posted on 11/07/2013

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Thanks for your practical and sincere suggestion. I should not beg him to visit me. My husband is not here either because of his work. I just hope this feeling will not last long. Thanks again.

Ev - posted on 11/07/2013

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Not sure how to answer if it is okay to feel abandoned or not but he sounds like he is a grown man with grownup responsiblities on his hands. He can not drop everything every time that you call to come see you. If he did that he would not make money or meet the demands of his work and school. You should be glad though that he was there during the procedure; he could have decided not to come at all. Have you tried talking to him to tell him how you feel about this? I have had one kid already leave the nest to make her own life. I do not do beg her to come visit and so on. Its not fair to her to have to hear it. I went thru pains and emotional stuff too. It takes time to get used to them doing their own thing in life. I still have another kid to get out into the world. But his time will be a bit easier since I have done that before. My other suggestion is to get counseling.

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