Is it wrong to keep our child away from his new girlfriend after...

T - posted on 11/16/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

4

0

1

A few months ago I was doing some food shopping when my child's father and his new girlfriend showed up to start up problems. I cut shopping short to avoid the problems around my 2 year old but they ambushed me at check out. She was already asked to stay away from my son due to her behavior and i didn't think as a mother their situation of being homeless and playing street thug was a good environment for any child. On top of that they have a violent relationship and are known to hit each other. Anyways they left and waited outside the store doors for me. I dont care if he wants to see or talk to his son. He is the father he has the right but as he was talking to our son his girlfriend began to start arguing with me. I didn't give in to the yelling because i had my son with me and she was pregnant. She got an inch away from my face and spit on me and i kept telling her i wasnt going to fight her and as I walked away she threw a plate of food at my back. While she was doing all this my baby's father was now standing behind her laughing like it was funny. They put my son in a bad situation. Where everything happened at ( thank god nothing did happen) if she would have hit me my son's stroller would have been pushed right into the street and where i live people don't watch where they are driving very well. I have charges pressed against her. I have some of his family and him telling me i just need to get over it and let her in my sons life. Now my question, is it wrong that i dont want her around my child after what happen?

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Raye - posted on 11/16/2015

3,761

0

21

You should go to court and get legal custody for you and visitation set up for him. That way everyone will know what legal rights they have. If you have proof of his living conditions and violence, present that to the court. If you have police reports against his GF, show that to the courts. Ask for supervised visitation until he can clean up his act.

Dove - posted on 11/16/2015

11,679

0

1349

Of course it's not wrong to not want your child in that environment. What do your court orders say about visitation though? Unless you have it written in the court order (the police report should help) that she can't be around him... it's up to the father to decide who is or isn't around his son during visitations.

YOU can certainly walk away from her in public when it's not his visitation times though... and keep filing police reports when she assaults you. The paper trail will come in handy.

5 Comments

View replies by

T - posted on 11/16/2015

4

0

1

Its not his father that i dont want around him it's just his GF. We all had verbal agreement of her staying away untill my case against her was over and they went back on it and while my son was with them the father was allowing his GF to teach my son to say the F word. I tried to keep out of the courts for his sake but it sounds like i just need to take it there

Jodi - posted on 11/16/2015

3,558

36

3907

Well, get court orders. At the moment, with no court orders, you don't have the right to prevent the father from anything.

T - posted on 11/16/2015

4

0

1

We haven't went to court for anything. So there is no court ordered visitations set.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms